After celebrating my two year anniversary by coming home to homemade pizza and a cold beer, I thought I'd reflect on the past two years of being in an exclusive live in relationship.
I should note I'm twenty four, less than a year out of college, living with my twenty two year old girlfriend who is finishing up her last semester. I've also been following Roosh since age nineteen.
This is essentially my first 'real' girlfriend. My longest 'ex' prior to her lasted less than three months. I spent a lot of time in my college years rotating two to three girls but none of them really made the cut looks or personality wise. I earned my stripes but I guarantee most of you have much more experience with women than me. I gained experience but some of you guys have been racking up numbers beyond belief. Keep up the good work.
With all this said, I'd like to jump into what it's like living with a girlfriend of two years.
First off, I do not and did not actively 'game' her. Even in the beginning of the relationship, I never had to think of adding a 'neg' to the conversation. Everything flowed smoothly from the beginning. She wasn't a party chick so I turned the first date into a hike with my dog. She's probably the longest it took from introduction to bang but she told me that she thought we hooked up too soon. Low n count and didn't lose her virginity until college.
What I mean by never actively "gaming" her is a few things. First off, I reached the point where my natural personality meshed with my gaming personality. I hit the fully congruent stage before meeting her. I never thought this would happen when I was sitting in my bedroom reading Bang in 2009, but sure enough, it did. Regardless of your personal potential, you will hit a point when who you are and who you want to be collide and become a fully congruent man. I say what's on my mind without thinking how it's being interpreted. When I was younger, so many thoughts were going through my head. I can't believe I acted normal through it all. Now, I pretty much do and say whatever I want with conviction and people buy into it. It's crazy what a few years can do to your psyche.
Another aspect of the relationship is that our personalities simply click. I've had plenty of girls in the past where I was actively thinking of when to say 'x' and do 'y'. I was interacting on a pick up level instead of simply being myself. While the advice of 'being yourself' is usually terrible, after gaining the basics it is exactly what you need to do. I had matured into the man I wanted to be because of this forum and Roosh's works. I picked my girlfriend up by talking to her at a friend's house, getting her number, texting her to go to parties (she didn't go out much), switched it up and took her on a hike, and a week later got her into bed. I even sent her a "last night was fun" text to protect from a false rape claim. She laughed when I told her about it because a non-damaged girl doesn't have those thoughts.
We also have the same sense of humor which matters more than you would think. When it's 90 degrees out and the A/C is broken, humor is really all you have left. She's been a ride or die sidekick the last 2 years. I've been bouncing through a couple jobs trying to catch my stride after college and she's taken the support role like a boss. I've been stuck working 65 hours a week and she keeps up the house, takes care of my dog like it's her own child, and makes sure I'm happy when I'm home. I really can't complain about anything.
I don't want to sound all oneitis and NAWALT, but if you find a girl who can accomplish these things with a smile on her face, you really have no reason to leave. I've had opportunities to cheat but didn't because I have a good thing going. I've accepted that not all men are meant to be players (per Lizard of Oz's thread). Will I stay with her? Probably, I see no reason not to at this point. I used the game to level up and I happen to like the level I'm at right now. But don't mistake this as a weakness, I'm also ready to bounce at the drop of a hat if that time happens to come.
In summary, I have to state that for me, being in a great relationship trumps being single. I'll never miss the loud music and dumb broads plaguing downtown. Maslow's hierarchy allows me to spend much more time on historical and philosophical works since my basic needs are being met. I rarely check into the game sub-forum, my time is spent in Lifestyle, Deep Forum, and Everything Else. I can't thank Roosh enough for putting me in this position. Funny how clicking on one webpage can change the course of your life for the better.
I should note I'm twenty four, less than a year out of college, living with my twenty two year old girlfriend who is finishing up her last semester. I've also been following Roosh since age nineteen.
This is essentially my first 'real' girlfriend. My longest 'ex' prior to her lasted less than three months. I spent a lot of time in my college years rotating two to three girls but none of them really made the cut looks or personality wise. I earned my stripes but I guarantee most of you have much more experience with women than me. I gained experience but some of you guys have been racking up numbers beyond belief. Keep up the good work.
With all this said, I'd like to jump into what it's like living with a girlfriend of two years.
First off, I do not and did not actively 'game' her. Even in the beginning of the relationship, I never had to think of adding a 'neg' to the conversation. Everything flowed smoothly from the beginning. She wasn't a party chick so I turned the first date into a hike with my dog. She's probably the longest it took from introduction to bang but she told me that she thought we hooked up too soon. Low n count and didn't lose her virginity until college.
What I mean by never actively "gaming" her is a few things. First off, I reached the point where my natural personality meshed with my gaming personality. I hit the fully congruent stage before meeting her. I never thought this would happen when I was sitting in my bedroom reading Bang in 2009, but sure enough, it did. Regardless of your personal potential, you will hit a point when who you are and who you want to be collide and become a fully congruent man. I say what's on my mind without thinking how it's being interpreted. When I was younger, so many thoughts were going through my head. I can't believe I acted normal through it all. Now, I pretty much do and say whatever I want with conviction and people buy into it. It's crazy what a few years can do to your psyche.
Another aspect of the relationship is that our personalities simply click. I've had plenty of girls in the past where I was actively thinking of when to say 'x' and do 'y'. I was interacting on a pick up level instead of simply being myself. While the advice of 'being yourself' is usually terrible, after gaining the basics it is exactly what you need to do. I had matured into the man I wanted to be because of this forum and Roosh's works. I picked my girlfriend up by talking to her at a friend's house, getting her number, texting her to go to parties (she didn't go out much), switched it up and took her on a hike, and a week later got her into bed. I even sent her a "last night was fun" text to protect from a false rape claim. She laughed when I told her about it because a non-damaged girl doesn't have those thoughts.
We also have the same sense of humor which matters more than you would think. When it's 90 degrees out and the A/C is broken, humor is really all you have left. She's been a ride or die sidekick the last 2 years. I've been bouncing through a couple jobs trying to catch my stride after college and she's taken the support role like a boss. I've been stuck working 65 hours a week and she keeps up the house, takes care of my dog like it's her own child, and makes sure I'm happy when I'm home. I really can't complain about anything.
I don't want to sound all oneitis and NAWALT, but if you find a girl who can accomplish these things with a smile on her face, you really have no reason to leave. I've had opportunities to cheat but didn't because I have a good thing going. I've accepted that not all men are meant to be players (per Lizard of Oz's thread). Will I stay with her? Probably, I see no reason not to at this point. I used the game to level up and I happen to like the level I'm at right now. But don't mistake this as a weakness, I'm also ready to bounce at the drop of a hat if that time happens to come.
In summary, I have to state that for me, being in a great relationship trumps being single. I'll never miss the loud music and dumb broads plaguing downtown. Maslow's hierarchy allows me to spend much more time on historical and philosophical works since my basic needs are being met. I rarely check into the game sub-forum, my time is spent in Lifestyle, Deep Forum, and Everything Else. I can't thank Roosh enough for putting me in this position. Funny how clicking on one webpage can change the course of your life for the better.
