[captndonk]

Following situation:

The girl is 22years old, white, german. She is a friend of one of my roommates. I met her first in November 14. In December we were at a party and had sex. I fell in love with her.
Ten days later we went to the same New Year's Eve party, where she somehow rejected me. She flirted with me but we didn't even kiss. Few days later in January after some texting we met again in the City. Right when we met she told me that she was tired and that we should go to her place. I agreed, and we had sex. The sex wasn't good because I was too drunk the first time and to nervous the second time.
I tried to see her again afterwards but she told me that she was to busy. Few days later she left the country for 6+months.
Last thing she texted me was, that I will hear from her for sure. Unfortunately she didn't write me and so did I.

Now few days ago I accidently met her and my roommate in the City while I was shopping.
She initiated a hug and smiled very friendly. I was somehow shocked and tried to be cool.
I did some smalltalk for like 1 minute but only talked to my mate and then told them that I had to leave.

Now I can't get her out of my head but don't know what to do.

Should I text her? I think it should be her turn, regarding her last message. But on the other hand I am the man.

I will definitely see her again, because of her friendship with my roommate, but it could take a while.

What is my best option?

[Il Bersagliere]

Game new girls. Oneitis is pretty bad and this is the only way to overcome. Trust me.

[Col Mortimer]

chick sounds like a super flake. Keep gaming other girls.. don't go out of your way for this one. If it drops in your lap fine. Otherwise don't waste time/energy.

[Remington]

It sounds like you're being a little obsessive with her. Don't worry about texting her. If she wants to hang, she will message you first. Go out with other girls and take your mind off the situation.

I had a couple girls who I was really into but after the first couple times really didn't give a crap about me. Women are fickle. Broaden your horizons and get some strange. Your dick will appreciate it and you will lose interest in this girl soon enough.

[barnbarn2k]

find someone younger and hotter. then she will be all over you. but you wont care because your with someone better.

[TheMaleBrain]

(08-14-2015 06:27 PM)captndonk Wrote:  

Following situation:

. In December we were at a party and had sex. I fell in love with her.
Ten days later we went to the same New Year's Eve party, where she somehow rejected me. She flirted with me but we didn't even kiss. Few days later in January after some texting we met again in the City. Right when we met she told me that she was tired and that we should go to her place. I agreed, and we had sex. The sex wasn't good because I was too drunk the first time and to nervous the second time.

Last thing she texted me was, that I will hear from her for sure. Unfortunately she didn't write me and so did I.

Now few days ago I accidently met her and my roommate in the City while I was shopping.
She initiated a hug and smiled very friendly. I was somehow shocked and tried to be cool.

Now I can't get her out of my head but don't know what to do.

Should I text her? I think it should be her turn, regarding her last message. But on the other hand I am the man.

I will definitely see her again, because of her friendship with my roommate, but it could take a while.

What is my best option?

It seems that you lack options.
She is feminine (flirting, had sex with you) and flaky as Racer-X noted:

(08-14-2015 06:35 PM)Racer-X Wrote:  

chick sounds like a super flake.

You might have onities.
The cure is to game other girls. You could also do things that make you happy (whatever you like to do).

You probably need more experience.
If you want her, you will probably need preselction. If you go out in a group, you can ask her to join, and have the guys DHV you.

[captndonk]

Her birthday is coming closer. I plan on texting her something like:
"Congratulations."

Including a question is too much I guess!?

[HankMoody]

(08-24-2015 06:25 PM)captndonk Wrote:  

Her birthday is coming closer. I plan on texting her something like:
"Congratulations."

Including a question is too much I guess!?

"hbd" or nothing at all works better.

[Remington]

I wouldn't even bother because she will be receiving tons of "happy birthday" texts from a bunch of thirsty men trying to be the one she chooses for birthday sex.

[Sonoma]

Oneitis, bail on this bitch

[HenryM]

Totaly endorse the "next her" advice. Plenty of other options--you need to internalize that by living it. Get out there and approach.

I used to be shocked when sex with a girl amounted to nothing. It was my upbringing--sounds like yours too.
Embrace red-pill--only way out of what is otherwise madness/depression.

If you do, you'll be good in 6 months, I promise.

[Gmac]

She's a flake and you've banged already, so I think you just need to take the advice of the other guys here and move on. Sounds like she just used you for sex, it happens to the best of us. You need to talk to, date, and sleep with other girls. It's the only cure for this other than time (where you aren't thinking about her).

[Ethan Hunt]

Honestly stick with the advice that fellow members have gave here. If you must text her/regame her wait for a few weeks. As long as your are getting approaches in I can assure you that you will have forgotten about her. There is no harm in sending a random message every now and then though.

[eatthishomie]

"There's this girl…"
"Whoa, stop right there. Forget her and fuck other girls, question answered."

[Saweeep]

This one's going nowhere OP.

Time to move on.