[Ausguy]

I've always ended a casual sex relationship after 2-3 months due to myself growing "feelings". Is there anyway to stop feelings from developing?

Also when i meet a new casual girl and she is a 8-9, i find i start to get feelings allot faster and my mind starts to think about her allot, how do u stop this?

Bottom line.. is there anyway to keep a casual girl around without thinking about her cause it's disturbing my routine/life.

[Rawmeo]

Dude, stop pedestrializing girls. Think of them as "one more", that's it. When you date a girl, you should just feel like it's another day at work.

Have things to keep you busy so you don't just think about that. It's okay to catch feelings, but it's not okay to let those feelings take control of you.

So just make efforts. A 8-9 girl is simply another girl, she just looks good. She's not "special" for that.

[Saweeep]

Abundance, abundance, abundance.

[UroboricForms]

Happened to me a while ago. I'd say around an 8 too. Was clearly just mutual using of eachother (despite her feeding me lies to the contrary, this girl was a total slut too) and I ended up getting hurt when she fucked me off (used a really minor point as a catalyst for an epic shit test and tantrum). What the guys above me are saying is right. Abundance!

[Virtus]

You got hooked on oxytocin. there are guides out there for "friends with benefits" relationships. some ideas you'll find in those are "do not hang out after sex" "do not cuddle" "do not spend time together out of the bedroom" etc. go forth and seek that info.

cause by setting up your environment you will set up your response

[Sonoma]

Keep casuals. Abundance. Pretty basic

[ElBorrachoInfamoso]

It's normal to get a little attached if she's legitimately nice, but as long as you keep a good rotation going you won't get too attached to any one girl who isn't super hot and feminine compared to the rest.

Another trick is to bang girls who have shitty personalities but are still hot. You won't have a problem treating those girls like shit.

[easternwomenrule]

What does it mean if I bang other women but I still only think of her (9). I'm feeling numb being with my other girls but not her. At present, banging other women makes me fall deeper for her at the moment so I'm just hitting the gym and trying to keeping myself busy...

What should I do? Has anyone else experience this cause it's happen to me every couple years when I find a certain kind of woman that I know deep down I want in my life. Half the time, they are dirty sluts!

[Phoenix]

Lol, what should I do???
All feelings exist for a reason. That feeling is there to make you start a family. 'Oneitis' is only an 'itis' when it's unrequited.

[Haxton]

(02-07-2015 12:54 PM)Virtus Wrote:  

You got hooked on oxytocin. there are guides out there for "friends with benefits" relationships. some ideas you'll find in those are "do not hang out after sex" "do not cuddle" "do not spend time together out of the bedroom" etc. go forth and seek that info.

You are describing guides for fuckbuddies.
But regards to "friends with benefits", you also do actually meet them out of the bedroom and do some "dating-stuff" with them.
Yet, it`s also here important to not get too emotional attached because the goal is having a cool "friends with benefits"-relationship as long as it will last and not getting trapped into a LTR.

[Haxton]

(08-23-2015 06:19 AM)easternwomenrule Wrote:  

What does it mean if I bang other women but I still only think of her (9). I'm feeling numb being with my other girls but not her. At present, banging other women makes me fall deeper for her at the moment so I'm just hitting the gym and trying to keeping myself busy...

What should I do? Has anyone else experience this cause it's happen to me every couple years when I find a certain kind of woman that I know deep down I want in my life. Half the time, they are dirty sluts!

It depends in my opinion if your goal is currently to absolutely not ending in a LTR.
If that is the case (and there are enough legit reasons for it such as not distracting yourself from progress, getting in general more experienced with lots of different types of women, etc.), then in the worst case I would just cut off the contact with her if I would be in your shoes and if I really would not be able to let some emotional attachment go.

[easternwomenrule]

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[Beyond Borders]

I see this is an old thread that got bumped for whatever reason, and that the OP has been banned, but isn't it interesting how every guy always claims that the girl he's resisting developing feelings for is an 8 or 9?

Most guys who were "casually" banging an 8 or 9 and accidentally developed feelings for her would not go so far as to resist that by posting for help on a forum - he would just dive into the relationship.

OP, the fact that you're resisting is usually a sign that deep inside you know you haven't actually landed an 8 or 9 at all. My advice, either drop the rating system completely or be more honest with yourself (hell, why not both?). There's nothing wrong with dating a woman that isn't an 8 or 9, but it gets a little old when every guy that comes in here pretends to be beating women of that caliber off with a stick.

[Saweeep]

(08-27-2015 04:56 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

I see this is an old thread that got bumped for whatever reason, and that the OP has been banned, but isn't it interesting how every guy always claims that the girl he's resisting developing feelings for is an 8 or 9?

Most guys who were "casually" banging an 8 or 9 and accidentally developed feelings for her would not go so far as to resist that by posting for help on a forum - he would just dive into the relationship.

OP, the fact that you're resisting is usually a sign that deep inside you know you haven't actually landed an 8 or 9 at all. My advice, either drop the rating system completely or be more honest with yourself (hell, why not both?). There's nothing wrong with dating a woman that isn't an 8 or 9, but it gets a little old when every guy that comes in here pretends to be beating women of that caliber off with a stick.

It's either that or the actually having fucked her bit that's not true.

I often wonder myself whether these kinds of posts are really "I've pedestalised and been friend zoned by a 8/9".

[Parlay44]

The answer is easy. Men only LTR women who are more attractive than them. Studies show that men want a pretty face for LTRs and a hot body for short term sex. If you want sex without developing feelings then you date down.

For women it's about security. If they want long term security without developing feelings they "settle down". Which is dating up for men.

So men get to feel "in love" and women get long term security. Win-win.

[Dalaran1991]

(08-27-2015 04:59 AM)CrashBangWallop Wrote:  

(08-27-2015 04:56 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

I see this is an old thread that got bumped for whatever reason, and that the OP has been banned, but isn't it interesting how every guy always claims that the girl he's resisting developing feelings for is an 8 or 9?

Most guys who were "casually" banging an 8 or 9 and accidentally developed feelings for her would not go so far as to resist that by posting for help on a forum - he would just dive into the relationship.

OP, the fact that you're resisting is usually a sign that deep inside you know you haven't actually landed an 8 or 9 at all. My advice, either drop the rating system completely or be more honest with yourself (hell, why not both?). There's nothing wrong with dating a woman that isn't an 8 or 9, but it gets a little old when every guy that comes in here pretends to be beating women of that caliber off with a stick.

It's either that or the actually having fucked her bit that's not true.

I often wonder myself whether these kinds of posts are really "I've pedestalised and been friend zoned by a 8/9".

Yeah no shit, every banned newbie has a post about « my first lay is an 8/9 » or “advice with an 8/9 I bang”. Shit, my first was a 5, then I locked down a 6.5 with great personality, then cheated on her for an 8 who later ghosted, a few 6-7 here and there and now finally after a hard year of gaming Im in a LTR with an 8. Who are these guys that keep getting 8-9 on the regs or for first lay?


We should have a new rule, every post seeking advice with an 8/9 or any kind of humble brag “my first bang is an 8/9” “my 8 is getting attached”, needs to “pic or ban hammer happens”

[Parlay44]

(08-27-2015 07:49 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

The answer is easy. Men only LTR women who are more attractive than them. Studies show that men want a pretty face for LTRs and a hot body for short term sex. If you want sex without developing feelings then you date down.

For women it's about security. If they want long term security without developing feelings they "settle down". Which is dating up for men.

So men get to feel "in love" and women get long term security. Win-win.

I want to add to my previous post after dwelling on this a little bit.

I think what you're asking is how to date up and still not develop feelings.

That my friend is what being a stone cold player is all about. Turning off that switch in your mind that flips on the one-itis.
Going out and cheating when you have a fine piece of ass waiting for you at home. Banging multiple women on the regular
and not giving a fuck about any of them. Listening to your penis instead of listening to your heart.

It takes years to get to that level of kung-fu mastery. Most of you will never get there and will wife up the first piece of ass
that let's you sniff her panties. While she balloons up to her fighting weight you'll be spanking it to fetish porn and reliving
your glory years with your boys at the local bar.

I hope some of you wise up and avoid that fate. Good luck on your journey.

[kaotic]

I swear to god I Deja Vu on this thread and not because this is a constant type of post in the newbie section.

[easternwomenrule]

(08-27-2015 11:39 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

That my friend is what being a stone cold player is all about.

How stone cold do you have to be

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