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Wife Hunting Abroad

Wife Hunting Abroad

Quote: (10-12-2017 03:24 AM)Warrior Wrote:  

Quote: (10-12-2017 02:54 AM)John Michael Kane Wrote:  

Warrior,

Look into Romania, Ukraine, Russia, Slovakia all come to mind.

As for finding a traditional woman in those countries, I'd look for girls that regularly attend a Catholic or Orthodox church regularly and has a great relationship with her family. Avoid barhound girls.

Everyone else: Does anyone have Travesty's contact information? If so, someone message him and tell him to get his butt back in this thread with an update! For some reason he has PM's turned off on this forum. Travesty, did you find your woman, or are you still in the hunt?

Romania and Slovakia don't speak English or Russian.
Ukrainian are not my type, I prefer the darker hair with round butts.

in ukraine there's plenty girls with light skin, brown hair and blue or green eyes... both my girls were like that (and bodies to die for! not too tall, but definitely perfect proportions and asses and boobs to die for)
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Quote: (10-12-2017 04:49 AM)Themin Wrote:  

Quote: (10-12-2017 03:24 AM)Warrior Wrote:  

Quote: (10-12-2017 02:54 AM)John Michael Kane Wrote:  

Warrior,

Look into Romania, Ukraine, Russia, Slovakia all come to mind.

As for finding a traditional woman in those countries, I'd look for girls that regularly attend a Catholic or Orthodox church regularly and has a great relationship with her family. Avoid barhound girls.

Everyone else: Does anyone have Travesty's contact information? If so, someone message him and tell him to get his butt back in this thread with an update! For some reason he has PM's turned off on this forum. Travesty, did you find your woman, or are you still in the hunt?

Romania and Slovakia don't speak English or Russian.
Ukrainian are not my type, I prefer the darker hair with round butts.

in ukraine there's plenty girls with light skin, brown hair and blue or green eyes... both my girls were like that (and bodies to die for! not too tall, but definitely perfect proportions and asses and boobs to die for)

I come from this culture so I know how materialistic they are, the divorce rate and how willing they are to leave their country so they will act traditional and conservative until they come to the west. I want to check Armenia for the wife material.
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Quote: (10-12-2017 04:56 AM)Warrior Wrote:  

Quote: (10-12-2017 04:49 AM)Themin Wrote:  

Quote: (10-12-2017 03:24 AM)Warrior Wrote:  

Quote: (10-12-2017 02:54 AM)John Michael Kane Wrote:  

Warrior,

Look into Romania, Ukraine, Russia, Slovakia all come to mind.

As for finding a traditional woman in those countries, I'd look for girls that regularly attend a Catholic or Orthodox church regularly and has a great relationship with her family. Avoid barhound girls.

Everyone else: Does anyone have Travesty's contact information? If so, someone message him and tell him to get his butt back in this thread with an update! For some reason he has PM's turned off on this forum. Travesty, did you find your woman, or are you still in the hunt?

Romania and Slovakia don't speak English or Russian.
Ukrainian are not my type, I prefer the darker hair with round butts.

in ukraine there's plenty girls with light skin, brown hair and blue or green eyes... both my girls were like that (and bodies to die for! not too tall, but definitely perfect proportions and asses and boobs to die for)

I come from this culture so I know how materialistic they are, the divorce rate and how willing they are to leave their country so they will act traditional and conservative until they come to the west. I want to check Armenia for the wife material.

ok but that's got nothing to do with what you mentioned before [Image: biggrin.gif] (ie girls looks [Image: smile.gif] )
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A few thoughts from John Michael Kane by PM:

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a) What do you think of girls who have been to university? I think that university is largely junk and these girls tend to have aspirations for careers and I have no interest in a wife with a career, which is likely to net less than whatever I can arrange and not provide the family environment that I would like. Semi-red flag?

I'd say it depends on several key factors. If she went to college, did she major in something stupid like gender studies or dance class, or something practical like accounting or nursing? If she actually learned some real-world skills, I'd say that could be a benefit. It means she's practical. Now, finding out what school she went to is important. If she went to some hotbed of politically correct SJW crap, then huge red flag! If she went to a more conservative or non-political school, then that is neutral or plus. A key factor is probing her on what she actually learned in her education. Also, did she rack up a bunch of debt to attain that education? If so, that's your debt too if you marry her.

I don't see a girl with some marketable job skills as a bad thing per se, just in case you ever became sick or injured and couldn't work for a while. Do you have some continuity plan for who can run your business if you had to take downtime? Would she do it? Do you have an assistant manager? I used to do financial planning for businesses and making sure that your key personnel like yourself have a backup plan is key. Otherwise, if God forbid your wife had to work outside of the home, having those skills might help her land a job. If you plan well, get proper insurance and hopefully have a good assistant manager, you can mitigate this quite a bit.

Any girl that went to college with the intention of working until her late 20's or 30's, is a huge red flag. Nuance and talking to her about her goals is key. Listen carefully.

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b) Would you red or semi-red flag a girl who openly displays cleavage?

I'd say red flag, especially if it is a lot of exposure. Girls that tend to show a lot also tend to hang out with other girls that tend to show off a lot. Those same girls tend to drink more, have more tats and generally speaking like attention via Instagram, FB, etc. These are all attention-seeking behaviors that say "I value attention" more than I value loyalty and being demure. Modesty is an underrated trait in a long-term girl such as a wife. Do you really want to marry a woman that displays the goods that should belong only to her hubby? It is inviting trouble. Additionally, I think it speaks to insecurity, meaning that she needs the attention to feel fulfilled. A stable girl doesn't need the attention of men, but appreciates it. Smart girls don't mind if a man looks them in the eyes, even if he can appreciate the rest of her clothed body. A modest woman that dresses well is always classy. I like that a lot of Vietnamese girls fit this type, as do quite a few girls from other more traditional cultures.

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c) There are two categories I've identified: feminine girly-girls who are vulnerable and delightful or let's say more hardened thinkers who agree with our general desires. You don't seem to get these in the same package, e.g. Thomi Lahren, Lauren Souther, Faith Goldy. I don't see them as particularly feminine. What is your leaning?

I find girly girls to be extremely delightful. Something about that intoxicating sweetness that is so addicting. Some girls were born to be lovers, the nurturers if you will. Any girl must have a degree of vulnerability to be happy in a LTR/marriage. They have to want to be wanted, and more importantly, they want you to need them. A girly girl wants you to protect her, provide for her and care for it. That is the natural order of things. A good girly girl is appreciative of such overtures.

As for the more political of girls, who tend to be hardcore philosopher types, they do tend to be less feminine because they are fighting in the public sphere for what they believe in. Always being combative (even if for the right cause) I find tends to tire women out more. I don't think most girls have it in themselves to be warriors. Don't get me wrong, it is good to have women sounding off on public issues because it provides cover for men who say the same things. That being said, I don't find hyper-political women that attractive, because they are in combat mode to fight the enemy. I'm very much a deep thinker and political, but to me, a woman is a comfort, a place to lay your tired head down to at night. I would have to think the girly girl is more comforting and less combative (or just less intense is a better word) than the political girl.

Comparing the two side-by-side, I'd say go for a girly girl who agrees in general with your overall views towards society and raising a family. Her first role is to be a wife and mother to your future children. It is important that she recognizes the cultural challenges facing family life. That being said, she doesn't have to discuss every minute detail with you to the 10th degree. So I'd say a girl who is 70-90% girly, with the remainder being just political enough not to be ignorant, but also sharp enough to discuss a few things with her female friends and help keep them informed as to the battles they face as wives and mothers is good.

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d) What things do you think will really draw you in for marriage interest? For me it's similar ideas on business, family and the culture war. This is very attractive for me.

Great question. The three things you mention are certainly key in my estimation. A girl from a stable family that would make for good future in-laws matters a lot too. A girl is largely a product of her family, for better or for worse. For marriage, you want better. I love girls that are thoughtful. A caring woman, even if she just does the little things to show you she cares is fantastic. A woman that is frugal and sees her man as a financial partner, not just an ATM is very important. We have to share views on finances. As mentioned earlier, she has to be strong in her Christian faith to me, because I don't believe in divorce, abortion, etc. A girl that holds those values is more likely to come from a more traditional background. Ideally, she has a very low or zero notch count. A genuine romantic that has been waiting for me would be ideal. A woman that shows great love towards others that come in contact with her is important, especially a smile that lights up when around children. She must want to have my kids, and as many as I'm willing to give her. I love a respectful woman.

One that is a thoughtful listener and tries to be a peacemaker, even when we disagree. A woman that holds no grudges, because she would rather nuzzle on my chest at night and not play power games. Lastly, I do really love girly girl romantic women who really long for a man in their hearts. The kind of girl who dreams of a wedding with her family and friends. The type of girl who would think it is romantic if I got her pregnant on our honeymoon, etc. Some combination of all of the above would be the ideal wife. Granted, it is important to remember that there are no ideal people, just tradeoffs. But if she delivers on all the important points and has no red flags, I'm willing to pull the trigger and start my own tribe.

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A girl that agrees to an age-gap relationship is subject to a lot of pressure, but it also goes to show you she is capable of thinking for herself and isn't a conformist zombie.

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My ideal age for a woman is 18-22. That's about the age when you can still find virgins/low-notch-count girls who have been in few or no relationships. They are still a fairly blank slate. A good girl that is waiting for her first true love (you) is a very good starting place for a proper wife.

Also, the younger a woman is, the greater her chance of being a virgin or very low notch count. That matters for her long-term projections of a relationship and pair-bonding. Also, if you want a larger family with lots of kids, better to have a wife who is young enough to have multiple healthy children.

I think an age gap relationship works best with a smart, young woman who wants to be a mother from a young age. She knows that is her calling and that she will lean on her man to give her some worldly wisdom that comes from age and experience, without her having to go through the heartache of dating/sleeping with lots of boys her age that aren't ready for commitment.

Masculine/feminine dynamics are best when there exists a strong polarity. Masculine paternalism with a strong desire to protect, love and provide. Feminine vulnerability with the desire to support, humbly submit and give the gift of children to a man that she feels is her guardian and lover. It is a really beautiful dynamic when you have two people who share those values, have patience with each other, and constantly compete for the generosity of spirit to always uplift and encourage the other partner in their respective roles.
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Quote: (10-21-2017 01:32 PM)gework Wrote:  

My ideal age for a woman is 18-22. That's about the age when you can still find virgins/low-notch-count girls who have been in few or no relationships. They are still a fairly blank slate. A good girl that is waiting for her first true love (you) is a very good starting place for a proper wife.

Also, the younger a woman is, the greater her chance of being a virgin or very low notch count. That matters for her long-term projections of a relationship and pair-bonding. Also, if you want a larger family with lots of kids, better to have a wife who is young enough to have multiple healthy children.

I think an age gap relationship works best with a smart, young woman who wants to be a mother from a young age. She knows that is her calling and that she will lean on her man to give her some worldly wisdom that comes from age and experience, without her having to go through the heartache of dating/sleeping with lots of boys her age that aren't ready for commitment.

Masculine/feminine dynamics are best when there exists a strong polarity. Masculine paternalism with a strong desire to protect, love and provide. Feminine vulnerability with the desire to support, humbly submit and give the gift of children to a man that she feels is her guardian and lover. It is a really beautiful dynamic when you have two people who share those values, have patience with each other, and constantly compete for the generosity of spirit to always uplift and encourage the other partner in their respective roles.

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Thanks for all the likes for my insights via PM that gework posted. Would like to hear some more feedback on it, or what you believe what criteria we should be looking for in a wife? Chime in gents!

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I agree completely about the age group and virtues, and the reasons for the age group.
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Quote: (10-29-2017 10:01 PM)John Michael Kane Wrote:  

Thanks for all the likes for my insights via PM that gework posted. Would like to hear some more feedback on it, or what you believe what criteria we should be looking for in a wife? Chime in gents!

Absolutely nailed all of my thought on the matter, the biggest being the blank slate comment. It’s a little unfortunate for me as I had a girl in Russia with all these qualifications and couldn’t seal the deal. She was too close to family and couldn’t leave them. As I get older (now late 30’s) it will be increasingly difficult to hit that target age range. I’m headed to Colombia next to continue the search having felt that I exhausted myself in Russia.

I think it is important to use judgement in some factors. Nothing in life is completely ideal. An example would be making an exception for a girl with a private Instagram account who shows Cleavage yet gets only 15 likes and no comments from thirsty dudes. I don’t know why, but I tend to really study who a girl follows. If I’m interested in someone in Latin America, let’s say... how many gringos does she follow? If I’m the only one, it’s a positive. If I see several guys who fit my description, bad.

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Quote: (10-31-2017 06:44 AM)WashedUPVet Wrote:  

Quote: (10-29-2017 10:01 PM)John Michael Kane Wrote:  

Thanks for all the likes for my insights via PM that gework posted. Would like to hear some more feedback on it, or what you believe what criteria we should be looking for in a wife? Chime in gents!

Absolutely nailed all of my thought on the matter, the biggest being the blank slate comment. It’s a little unfortunate for me as I had a girl in Russia with all these qualifications and couldn’t seal the deal. She was too close to family and couldn’t leave them. As I get older (now late 30’s) it will be increasingly difficult to hit that target age range. I’m headed to Colombia next to continue the search having felt that I exhausted myself in Russia.

I think it is important to use judgement in some factors. Nothing in life is completely ideal. An example would be making an exception for a girl with a private Instagram account who shows Cleavage yet gets only 15 likes and no comments from thirsty dudes. I don’t know why, but I tend to really study who a girl follows. If I’m interested in someone in Latin America, let’s say... how many gringos does she follow? If I’m the only one, it’s a positive. If I see several guys who fit my description, bad.

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On a side note if a girl doesn't use instagram (check her phone and search for the app) that is a HUGE plus in today's attention whoring world. Good thing to keep in mind. Or if her account is set to private.
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@WashedUPVet, we are the same age man, I wish you success in Colombia. The blank slate thing is important for me as well. Coming from the West, it’s almost seen as an outdated notion here, but I’ve noticed a lot of brothers on RooshV appreciate virginity in a girl too.

For me the wife thing, if it happens it happens. I think I’m a bit of a solo guy, Virgo, who feels no pressure to ever settle down because I not only enjoy the game, but my own company. I’ve got family and friends too that can fill that companionship role, and I have no desire for kids personally (a lot of work [Image: smile.gif]). I’m kind of detached from the notion of needing a wife, so I wouldn’t compromise a lot on the aforementioned thoughts of a blank slate, non attention whore, who wants to nuzzle on your chest and appreciates you totally as a guy.

It’s interesting how much race might play a part for the individuals on this thread. For me, as a Northern European white dude, it can be something I’d think of, to not have my kids look drastically different than me, but from what I hear EE may not have as many traditional women as possible.

I spend the most time in Guatemala and will be heading back in a couple weeks. In the last several years I’ve come across some girls, even some lighter Ladinas that could fit the profile. It’s easier than in the US to find some traditional girls in that age group. I game the Ladinas heavily and yet I’d feel weird to mate with them? I guess that wouldn’t be deal breaker an issue after all
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Trust me Lovebug, no group hits the wall faster then Latinas in general. Probably cause of their shit diet, but I'd hit them in their prime and let some guy take over when she starts whaleing up.
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Quote: (10-31-2017 07:06 AM)Putin Closes Wrote:  

On a side note if a girl doesn't use instagram (check her phone and search for the app) that is a HUGE plus in today's attention whoring world. Good thing to keep in mind. Or if her account is set to private.

My wife's best friend is a Vietnamese girl 24 years old. Uses Instagram a ton. I was thinking the same thing as you, but when I scrolled trough her posts... not 1 picture of her. I swear she must have been taking pictures of every meal she ever ate. My wife does this too now.

I think it's maybe an Asian girl thing. Foodies 吃货.
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Quote: (10-31-2017 10:27 PM)LoveBug Wrote:  

It’s interesting how much race might play a part for the individuals on this thread. For me, as a Northern European white dude, it can be something I’d think of, to not have my kids look drastically different than me, but from what I hear EE may not have as many traditional women as possible.
I spend the most time in Guatemala and will be heading back in a couple weeks. In the last several years I’ve come across some girls, even some lighter Ladinas that could fit the profile.

I think about this sometimes. I have a baby girl coming. I'm not worried at all, but if it was a boy... I want him to look more like me. I don't know why. I'm not sure what I will do.

Quote: (11-01-2017 06:36 AM)Putin Closes Wrote:  

Trust me Lovebug, no group hits the wall faster then Latinas in general. Probably cause of their shit diet, but I'd hit them in their prime and let some guy take over when she starts whaleing up.

I grew up in a heavily hispanic area. The girls were insanely hot, but the moment you got one pregnant... the weight never came off. I met this girl I had the hots for in high school. She was amazing at 17. Now in her late 30's she must be over 300lbs.

My wife on the other hand... 8 months pregnant and she has only gained 23 lbs. Already has 30 sessions with a personal trainer purchased for after the baby is born.
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Quote: (11-01-2017 06:36 AM)Putin Closes Wrote:  

Trust me Lovebug, no group hits the wall faster then Latinas in general. Probably cause of their shit diet, but I'd hit them in their prime and let some guy take over when she starts whaleing up.

I'd say Slavics/Eastern Europeans hit the wall much faster and harder than Latinas overall.

Yes, diet has a lot to do with it. There are actually Latinas who take care of themselves who age well.

Many Middle/Upper class Guatemalan women (and other Latin Americans) take good care of themselves after the kids and age well...granted though not as well as Asian women overall.

It's not fair to lump them in with US Latinas...a different subculture.
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I'm not wife hunting abroad and perhaps unintentionally me not thinking about it draws quality woman to me. So that's lesson 1

The 2nd thing I do when in another country is to go to places where I could see myself living in for the rest of my life.
A city, infrastructure, amount of English, ease of flights to airport, currency exchange, cost of living. weather, ease of entry

Long term stays are critical to developing social circles and acquaintances (connections)

I never want a women to leave her own country. It's the traditions that keep women in line...it's family....it's the village

That said ..I'm older and patient and for the younger guys that want a peasant virgin to knock up I got nothing

True quality takes time
Finding everything out about each other takes time
Determining if cross culture can be made to work...takes dating

Just about every country where guys think the "traditional wives are" the divorce rate is close to 50 percent and that's just between the locals. I have no idea the odds on a foreign relationship working.

To a western guy a traditional wife will be pretty fucking dull at some point....so taking the time to find an educated women that shares similar interests and maintains the local culture traditions is crucial.

I had one friend marry a polish girl....all was great for 10 years (wasted).....one issue ..he repeatedly said when the in law's are over try to speak a little english...the in law's and wife only spoke polish and seemed to him wanted the kids to only speak polish.. he was excluded an outsider

Another friend quit his job (100k/yr) and went for the love of his life in Brazil,,,he knew very little portuguese,..regardless after 1 kid he was back in Canada alone and out of a high paying job... where did a pop bottled glasses thin office dweeb get the idea a spicy latina that loves macho emotional men...would like him?

What did work was a co worker of mine with his Chinese girlfriend he met in Canada...her father was rich in Honk Kong....he quit the job and went to Hong Kong and looks to me he's never coming back.....but he had a educated asian chick that spoke english that knew his culture.

Anyways just more content.
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Quote: (10-31-2017 10:27 PM)LoveBug Wrote:  

I spend the most time in Guatemala and will be heading back in a couple weeks. In the last several years I’ve come across some girls, even some lighter Ladinas that could fit the profile. It’s easier than in the US to find some traditional girls in that age group. I game the Ladinas heavily and yet I’d feel weird to mate with them? I guess that wouldn’t be deal breaker an issue after all

Here's a Guatemalan woman I know...she has 3 kids.
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Quote: (11-01-2017 07:59 PM)Incubus Wrote:  

I never want a women to leave her own country. It's the traditions that keep women in line...it's family....it's the village

Bingo. I would never dream of taking a girl away from where she grew up if the place has traditional values that make good wives and mothers. It just does not make any sense to do so, except for very extenuating circumstances.
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FWIW I know two guys who met their girls in the US. Both 35+, both girls 7-10 years younger. Asian girls. The girls are nothing special, but definitely not ugly or fat. One of the guys just married, the other one will follow soon. 100% nice guy game. Found the girls after going through 5 online dates with different girls. What's the secret you say? Theirs seem to be to date nice Asian girls.

Also. I was recently at an Asian wedding, Christians, of the cultish variety. Tons of girls. The guy who was marrying the girl was a short filipino dude. The girl was alright - she was young.

Girls that can be married exist in the US. Many of them. Unfortunately, I don't want to bet on white women anymore, unless maybe European. Fruitless search for me. I'm now dating an Asian, but not sure if she's good enough. If things don't work out, I'll be looking for Asians.
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Quote: (11-01-2017 07:59 PM)Incubus Wrote:  

I had one friend marry a polish girl....all was great for 10 years (wasted).....one issue ..he repeatedly said when the in law's are over try to speak a little english...the in law's and wife only spoke polish and seemed to him wanted the kids to only speak polish.. he was excluded an outsider

Very interesting story. How can the kids only speak Polish? What country does that happen in?
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@GreenHills ..typo ...it was the in law's that wanted the kids to speak polish and when the in law's came over they purposely only spoke polish to the kids. Even after they were informed how it made my friend uncomfortable.

Canada's huge on bringing in " generational family members" from other countries. I've been around tons of cultures I've seen Ukrainian babuskas (grandmothers) doing daycare for kids and those sweet grannies speak nothing but ukrainian to the kids ...as do chinese grannies..e.t.c.

It's a conscience choice by couples to "permanently move" to one country or the other...there is nothing wrong with having children learn a little of the old countries culture/language...and then there is going "over board on it"

That's why my preference is to adapt to another country and learn it's language and go from there...(still treated like an outsider regardless but I accepted it up front) and the primary language the kids will use
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Is Colombia/Bogotá an OK place to find a wifey if one looks for educated, upper middle class/rich girls with good jobs and good families? Or are they all the same?
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Bump.

Any new reports on wife hunting?
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Quote: (12-12-2017 01:03 PM)JayGould Wrote:  

Is Colombia/Bogotá an OK place to find a wifey if one looks for educated, upper middle class/rich girls with good jobs and good families? Or are they all the same?

What do you mean by "or are they all the same", are you asking if they're all wife material or if they're not?

I think Bogota could be a decent place to find a long term partner, probably one of the best cities in Colombia, actually. The women there are better educated, more worldly (for Colombia) and the city is such a fucking rat race that if you took her to a medium tier western city with clean air, decent public transport and a good economy, then she would probably be relatively happy. What I mean by this is that there's plenty of middle class Bogota people who come from good families, are educated, bilingual, etc but life is still a grind. I know some Rolos (people from Bogota) who emigrated to Canada and are killing it here, they arrived with university degrees and decent English. Most of them started out in basic jobs that were below their education and experience but were promoted quickly enough and after 2-3 years bought condos, houses, cars, etc. Most Colombians I meet in Canada do very well, as we tend to take the cream of the crop from there. If someone can eke out a living in a city like Bogota, living in the west will be a breeze.

In my opinion, the most difficult thing for a Colombian who moves to a western country will be the climate (in a place like Canada), the culture (cold people) and being away from their families.
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Quote: (11-02-2017 11:46 PM)CleanSlate Wrote:  

Bingo. I would never dream of taking a girl away from where she grew up if the place has traditional values that make good wives and mothers. It just does not make any sense to do so, except for very extenuating circumstances.

A quality woman should remain quality regardless of the culture surrounding her. She will seek quality friendships and engage in wholesome activities.

I don't think education is all that important in a wife. How many couples sit around discussing astrophysics or Kierkegaard? The majority of discussions are going to be about future dreams, current plans, and recent life events.

I believe there are many, many merits to keeping a woman in her home culture. However, this should not be used as a crutch to keep a relationship going with a woman who is a poor fit.
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I'd like the title of the thread to be "finding a life partner abroad"

It's too stark the wording....wife hunting abroad. I'll try to explain why

A wife basically means permanence when even I/me/you have no idea how deep our resolve is for making a foreign relationship work.
(When I hunt I hunt to kill... before I even see the prey.....we don't figure out what we will do when we see prey)

It's implied to make it work kids are required to trap yourself into commitment. Am I wrong? Which is no different than the fucked up marriages in the west. (hunter becomes the prey)

It's also implied your the wealthy wise hunter and she will be the "always" grateful exotic animal. WHO has customs and a language you barely understand.

The advice on women of many countries is nice for getting general idea's of the local females but as we know it's best to travel to these countries to get the reality. ( hunting boots on the ground).

This isn't a weekend trip .....it's years of going.

Every time I go to a country I come back with a mini love affair. When back at home I sit back and reflect on it. Then sooner or later I reject the mini love affair. (too much work maintaining it and doubts creep in)

Lots of guys in this post are "country specific" going pretty much exclusively to one country. In my opinion they have the best shot at transitioning to a local wife. (language culture food housing transportation are already in the hunting bag)
BUT
Guys that are going to specific countries regularly over the years are not marrying a local. WHY? Why not?
Perhaps certain countries have abundance and serial relationships is the best fit
or the countries are just shit and not worth living in but the women are traditional

We don't have time to visit 180 countries of the world, we can only marry a few times until your dead and in the ground.
Wouldn't it be best to look for a life partner with no intention of marriage? With marriage as a option someday?

Mission Creep....who here goes to countries regularly with the best intentions for love a relationship or marriage. Yet know in the back of there minds they'll probably go to the elephant graveyard of SEA to wind there lives up? (undermine all relationships with a ticking time bomb)

My main advice
Always have options. Always have a back door. Always keep your power. Which are not synonymous with marriage for any country but would fit a potential life partner. (the mouse should keep his machine gun even if the foxy lady says it's fine to drop it)
There is a huge age range for guys in this forum so take your age and decide how much time you have to gamble or invest on reality or dreams.
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