This will get a little long and convoluted. I'll TL;DR at bottom.
Mostly just posting this as a thank you to the forum that has provided so much wisdom and entertainment. But also as an encouragement to other newbies.
I've known about game/red pill for a while, but never got much of a chance to practice the majority of it due to being in a failing marriage, and then not too long after that a wonderful LTR with a delightful gal 12 years my junior. Just got out of the LTR, even though it was enjoyable the next step was to get married and have kids (she's a traditional girl)... and this didn't jive with my immediate plans of building the side business and living a nomadic lifestyle.
So this whole time I've been a bit cocky: "oh yeah, I get the game, girls would be so easy now, it all makes sense". Add to that the adoration of my LTR and I got pretty soft. We ended things on very good terms, and with a clear head I now start thinking about arranging my life as a single man. Oh shit, you mean I have to go out and meet a bunch of new people? I can't just do my thing and wait for my girl to come over all dressed up every Friday night? No big deal, I'll just chat up that hot chick at the grocery story.... nope, she walked away before I thought of something to say. Whatever, I'll just lock eyes with this babe on the street, cool she's looking back, slight smile... aw now she's looking away and talking on her cell.
I start going through Day Bang and Krauser's material in more detail. I figure I hate nightclubs so day game is gonna be the thing for me. I do sales as part of my job, and there was a time that I had to make 50 cold calls each day, so again I keep telling myself this is gonna be no sweat. Then I just don't do fuck all. But I keep going through the theory and taking notes. I even start telling myself "it feels weird talking to new chicks cos I was heavily emotionally connected to my LTR", probably just have to wait for that to go away".
So the other night I'm out at a small bar with my friend. He's a chill guy from France. He's not a master player or anything but he does alright. He's getting to stage where he's looking to settle down. We're drinking and eating some food and watching the passing parade. Some stripper chicks come in and we get to watch the entire place attempt to game them. A bunch of guys get blown out, and then a chill black dude and his two bro-ish tatted up white buddies break the ice, get the girls all animated, and get some digits. The chicks leave, but watching the whole thing go down it seemed like the black guy did a pretty decent job short of leaving with them. Suddenly it clicks in my brain "you fucking pussy, why are you avoiding this simple night life thing, just go talk to some girls and see what happens". I ask my friend if he just wants to chill, or if he's okay with me chatting some girls. He's fine with it, so I scan the room. Sitting at the bar are two girls, alone, early 20s, I didn't get a great look at their faces but their body language wasn't closed off. Without thinking I walk over, say hello and introduce myself, and then "why don't you come join us at our table?".
And to my surprise, it's that easy. Over walk these two stunners, both visiting Calgary from Toronto, one Russian and one Ukrainian. Now I know it's a big thing to build up Slavic chicks on this forum, but that has always been my taste anyway and I have a bit of Ukrainian blood in me so it always make something bubble inside when I see those wonderful Ukrainian features on a woman.
We have fun conversation (bizarrely, we share a lot of commonalities and they're very well traveled and sharp so really easy to talk to). I say we're going to go chill at my place and drink some wine and listen to music... "you should come". Then stand up without looking back. They come. We hang out for another couple hours, more fun conversation. There is no bragging here because no lays happened, and even when I navigated the shitty logistics of my bachelor pad by isolating the Ukrainian in my kitchen, she remained physically closed off and a bit nervous. So contact info was exchanged and we wrapped everything up at about 2am, then walked the girls back to their air b&b room (no invite up).
So why all this excitement? Cos it was my first actual cold open, to hang out, to venue move back to my place, and the girls ended up being absolutely lovely and feminine and a real pleasure to be with. It's been said a million times before on here, but dudes, just act now and think later, it's not that hard, it's super fun, if nothing else you're learning how to network and you're spending time among a higher caliber of people on your own terms (men and women both).
Finally, since I really respect the feedback of the forum members, both experienced and green, I thought I'd go into detail on two points that could provide more conversation on this thread.
1: Years ago I stumbled onto this frame of mind for leading, and it worked so well then that I did it again. Even though it seems a bit dickish to me (I would never speak to close male friends like this), I just literally told the girls to come sit at our table then I turned around without giving them a second look and went back to the table. Same thing with the invite to my house -- here is what we are doing, you should do it with us, then I get up and don't look back and go do what I said. No asking, no explaining. They either screen themselves out and save me time, or they comply.
2. I figured I had to at least makeout with the girl a little bit; they said they were leaving town the next morning so logistically it was kind of a hail mary. Got her alone in the kitchen which is the only isolated place when other people are in my pad, but when I moved closer and touched her a bit I could tell she was not totally comfortable. Arms were crossed. I held her hand and got her to giggle a bit and do a little dance twirl just to relax, but again I could tell she was not really down with the plan of getting intimate. Maybe I have over-read about single day lays on here, but it seemed reasonable to me that she would want to at least kiss a little bit (chicks seem to place no importance on making out with random people). Anyway, maybe not, or maybe my friend and I were not sexual enough the rest of the time and we got slotted into the "nice new friends" box.
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TL;DR: finally got off my ass and opened some pretty girls in a bar and it was a million times more easy and fun than my rotten brain had told me it was going to be. Go and do likewise, gents!
Mostly just posting this as a thank you to the forum that has provided so much wisdom and entertainment. But also as an encouragement to other newbies.
I've known about game/red pill for a while, but never got much of a chance to practice the majority of it due to being in a failing marriage, and then not too long after that a wonderful LTR with a delightful gal 12 years my junior. Just got out of the LTR, even though it was enjoyable the next step was to get married and have kids (she's a traditional girl)... and this didn't jive with my immediate plans of building the side business and living a nomadic lifestyle.
So this whole time I've been a bit cocky: "oh yeah, I get the game, girls would be so easy now, it all makes sense". Add to that the adoration of my LTR and I got pretty soft. We ended things on very good terms, and with a clear head I now start thinking about arranging my life as a single man. Oh shit, you mean I have to go out and meet a bunch of new people? I can't just do my thing and wait for my girl to come over all dressed up every Friday night? No big deal, I'll just chat up that hot chick at the grocery story.... nope, she walked away before I thought of something to say. Whatever, I'll just lock eyes with this babe on the street, cool she's looking back, slight smile... aw now she's looking away and talking on her cell.
I start going through Day Bang and Krauser's material in more detail. I figure I hate nightclubs so day game is gonna be the thing for me. I do sales as part of my job, and there was a time that I had to make 50 cold calls each day, so again I keep telling myself this is gonna be no sweat. Then I just don't do fuck all. But I keep going through the theory and taking notes. I even start telling myself "it feels weird talking to new chicks cos I was heavily emotionally connected to my LTR", probably just have to wait for that to go away".
So the other night I'm out at a small bar with my friend. He's a chill guy from France. He's not a master player or anything but he does alright. He's getting to stage where he's looking to settle down. We're drinking and eating some food and watching the passing parade. Some stripper chicks come in and we get to watch the entire place attempt to game them. A bunch of guys get blown out, and then a chill black dude and his two bro-ish tatted up white buddies break the ice, get the girls all animated, and get some digits. The chicks leave, but watching the whole thing go down it seemed like the black guy did a pretty decent job short of leaving with them. Suddenly it clicks in my brain "you fucking pussy, why are you avoiding this simple night life thing, just go talk to some girls and see what happens". I ask my friend if he just wants to chill, or if he's okay with me chatting some girls. He's fine with it, so I scan the room. Sitting at the bar are two girls, alone, early 20s, I didn't get a great look at their faces but their body language wasn't closed off. Without thinking I walk over, say hello and introduce myself, and then "why don't you come join us at our table?".
And to my surprise, it's that easy. Over walk these two stunners, both visiting Calgary from Toronto, one Russian and one Ukrainian. Now I know it's a big thing to build up Slavic chicks on this forum, but that has always been my taste anyway and I have a bit of Ukrainian blood in me so it always make something bubble inside when I see those wonderful Ukrainian features on a woman.
We have fun conversation (bizarrely, we share a lot of commonalities and they're very well traveled and sharp so really easy to talk to). I say we're going to go chill at my place and drink some wine and listen to music... "you should come". Then stand up without looking back. They come. We hang out for another couple hours, more fun conversation. There is no bragging here because no lays happened, and even when I navigated the shitty logistics of my bachelor pad by isolating the Ukrainian in my kitchen, she remained physically closed off and a bit nervous. So contact info was exchanged and we wrapped everything up at about 2am, then walked the girls back to their air b&b room (no invite up).
So why all this excitement? Cos it was my first actual cold open, to hang out, to venue move back to my place, and the girls ended up being absolutely lovely and feminine and a real pleasure to be with. It's been said a million times before on here, but dudes, just act now and think later, it's not that hard, it's super fun, if nothing else you're learning how to network and you're spending time among a higher caliber of people on your own terms (men and women both).
Finally, since I really respect the feedback of the forum members, both experienced and green, I thought I'd go into detail on two points that could provide more conversation on this thread.
1: Years ago I stumbled onto this frame of mind for leading, and it worked so well then that I did it again. Even though it seems a bit dickish to me (I would never speak to close male friends like this), I just literally told the girls to come sit at our table then I turned around without giving them a second look and went back to the table. Same thing with the invite to my house -- here is what we are doing, you should do it with us, then I get up and don't look back and go do what I said. No asking, no explaining. They either screen themselves out and save me time, or they comply.
2. I figured I had to at least makeout with the girl a little bit; they said they were leaving town the next morning so logistically it was kind of a hail mary. Got her alone in the kitchen which is the only isolated place when other people are in my pad, but when I moved closer and touched her a bit I could tell she was not totally comfortable. Arms were crossed. I held her hand and got her to giggle a bit and do a little dance twirl just to relax, but again I could tell she was not really down with the plan of getting intimate. Maybe I have over-read about single day lays on here, but it seemed reasonable to me that she would want to at least kiss a little bit (chicks seem to place no importance on making out with random people). Anyway, maybe not, or maybe my friend and I were not sexual enough the rest of the time and we got slotted into the "nice new friends" box.
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TL;DR: finally got off my ass and opened some pretty girls in a bar and it was a million times more easy and fun than my rotten brain had told me it was going to be. Go and do likewise, gents!
