rd date nothing happened so far
08-05-2015, 06:48 AM
Good luck. Remember you don't have to be ashamed for your feelings/needs. Just escalate and see what happens. It's a bag her/dump her situation.
Quote: (08-02-2015 05:20 PM)captndonk Wrote:
Damn, here is the story:
I picked her up and she didn't like my idea to go to the river. She wanted to go to my flat first. So we went there played a game und left for a walk. We both initiated some physical contact but always in a playful not romantic way.
But the conversation was going well. We both liked it. We went to a tower and sat on top of the tower very close, with legs touching. But when I finally put my arm around her, she wanted to take a photo of the sky and stood up.
Later back home instead of drying my hands i splattered the water in her face. She kinda liked it and started some fight. We than afterwards sat on my bed and I had her in my arms and she showed me some photos on her mobile phone.
I was stupid to enjoy this small step and didn't push further for the kiss. Few minutes later she had to leave.
I certainly didn't push hard enough and I really regret it.
Quote: (08-05-2015 06:05 AM)captndonk Wrote:
Today we will meet again. I hope I can overcome my shyness.
Quote: (08-05-2015 05:13 PM)captndonk Wrote:
Okay, but there is one thing I don't get. She also invests a lot. She spent a lot of time with me and she always has to travel about 45minutes for one way.
If I now stop interacting with her she will definitely ask me why. Telling her that I expected more than cuddling seems like whining.
Quote: (08-05-2015 05:13 PM)captndonk Wrote:
Okay, but there is one thing I don't get. She also invests a lot. She spent a lot of time with me and she always has to travel about 45minutes for one way.
If I now stop interacting with her she will definitely ask me why. Telling her that I expected more than cuddling seems like whining.
Quote: (08-06-2015 02:15 AM)captndonk Wrote:
She refuses to drink alcohol. I don't think I can change her mind on this subject.
She forgot to take her recharger cable with her. So I will definitely see her again.
@PapayaTapper
Do you talk something specific while you do your escalation routine? Just continuing the normal conversation seems odd.
Quote: (08-06-2015 07:51 AM)ksbms Wrote:
Perhaps, If you are really keen to keep her around as it is you could employ a contrarian modus operandi to what has been suggested above - do not escalate at all, just hang out with her as long as you accept the sex might never happen and the time you spend with her for the sake of it is worth it.
Quote: (08-06-2015 02:36 AM)captndonk Wrote:
If she kisses back but refuses to go further I will make out with her for half an hour and then tell her that I have to do something else.
Quote: (08-06-2015 01:15 PM)OregonToSoCal Wrote:
Quote: (08-06-2015 02:36 AM)captndonk Wrote:
If she kisses back but refuses to go further I will make out with her for half an hour and then tell her that I have to do something else.
Like this?
Come on man, really!?! You are so in your head with this one. Any tiny bit of raw masculine energy or sexual desire has been so thoroughly repressed by you that you will never get anywhere with this girl or any other one for that matter. Everyone on here has been patient with you and given you a lot of really good advice but you have to throw all this cerebral crap out and let your animal instincts come out.
Quote: (08-06-2015 09:15 PM)captndonk Wrote:
Okay no she wrote, she sent me a picture of something she cooked.
I: Impressive
She: Glad to see you are not angry with me.
I didn't response to that. Later she wrote: Are you angry with me?
I responded: Sorry, I am at the city festival.
Thats it. Okay, or should I have texted more?
Fortunately I got 3 number closes out of the city festival. So I can practise textgame a lot in the next days.