[yolo]

Anyone here been in a situation where they were banging their roommate on the reg? What was supposed to be a temporary month-to-month summer arrangement while I was abroad in Europe, renting out one of my rooms now has become a more long-term stay awhile month-to-month arrangement. Been banging this girl on and off, (She's 23, I'm 26-27), looking to keep my distance, and we both made it clear to each other from the start that this is strictly for fun, with no expectation of a relationship ever coming to fruition (this girl has a drinking problem, with a history of substance abuse, and just doesn't fit the profile of a LTR chick, but is a pretty petite, young hot blonde in my books, solid bang).

Anyways, it almost seems too good to be true, and someone on this forum once told me, there's always a price for easy sex. What's the price? My hunch tells me that I shouldn't be doing this. Any problems anyone can foresee out of this? I don't think I'm the one that's going to get attached, and I think if anything, she might be the one that gets attached. But that isn't my problem is it? If it becomes a problem, she's always welcome to move out. The other small issue is because a girl I met in Hungary is coming to visit me in the states in September, and she's more of a LTR potential, but there's the danger that this roommate girl might screw things up. So I want to make sure I play those cards right and was even considering having the blonde go stay at her parents for the 2 weeks that the Hungarian girl is here; but I don't think that will be necessary, or maybe I should?

My options really are to keep doing the same thing, kick her out and still bang her occasionally, but would be harder, or let her stay, but practice self-control and not bang her. The extra rent money is nice, and she hasn't been overly demanding so far. I think if she starts bringing a dude around, it may get awkward, but we had a discussion about her not bringing any dudes over, hah, we'll see about that. I think that's inevitable pretty much. But I pretty much have the unequal power to kick her out with 30 days notice, this is all an oral lease, no lease on paper, so I wouldn't have to worry about some eviction proceeding bullshit. She's a nice girl, too, helps around the house as much as she can, and is grateful to have the room - good deal, and good location. I think my plan will be to try to limit the sex as much as possible except when I'm really fiending, and keep an eye on her to make sure she's not getting too attached.

I hope you all will tell me to keep doing what I'm doing

EDIT: Want to clarify that she's not my only roommate. I also have a second roommate, one of my brothers. Two-story apartment, I got top floor to myself, so generally have some good privacy for myself. If it was just me and her, I think it'd be a different story.

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There's always a price for sex...

(07-27-2015 02:49 PM)yolo Wrote:  

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The other small issue is because a girl I met in Hungary is coming to visit me in the states in September, and she's more of a LTR potential, but there's the danger that this roommate girl might screw things up. So I want to make sure I play those cards right and was even considering having the blonde go stay at her parents for the 2 weeks that the Hungarian girl is here; but I don't think that will be necessary, or maybe I should?

There's your price. Oh, and she's an alcoholic, and you want to bring another chic over. Hopefully you have a lock on your door.

Why would it get awkward if she brought a dude over if "from the start that this is strictly for fun"?

She stays (more stable): Rent $$, easier occasional pussy but from only 1 chic, less chance of meeting a hotter / better / more LTR girl

Kick her out (less stable): No rent $, more potential pussy variety, risk of less pussy (dry spells happen), better chance of meeting a hotter / better / more LTR girl

If you re-read your post again and read the two options above, there's only one conclusion: You're in a de facto relationship.

ie do you want to live alone and be single or live with her as a roommate and not be single

[yolo]

I think it'd be more awkward for her than it'd be for me because she'll have to try to hide the fact that she's been banging her roommate. For me, I just don't want to run into a stranger when I'm going to the bathroom (only one bathroom for the apartment), who may or may not potentially know that we're eskimo brothers. I think she's not going to bring anyone over for that reason, better for her to go to the dude's house. Anyways not really the major point of discussion I don't think.

The reason why I'm liking this set up so far because a), the sex has been enjoyable, she's fairly attractive girl, and b) I got out of a LTR 6-12 months ago and my sole focus now really has been to jumpstart my career to my next level, working on a side start up project, so not going out a whole lot, or jumping into another LTR with nothing to gain from. So, I think I'm gonna see where this goes, and until it starts to become a problem, then I'll make the decision to kick her out. If this girl was smarter, she would leave herself first so not to sabotage her own relationship pursuits.

More importantly, I'm a bit unsure on how to handle the situation when the Hungarian girl comes to visit. She seems so far to be LTR material. She bought her plane tickets with her own money to come visit me. We aren't "official"/exclusive, just been Skyping a few times a month. She probably knows/expects that I'm banging other girls. And I'd imagine she's banging other dudes, too. So that's not the issue, but I think she may be very put off if she found out that I'm banging my roommate. This may cause some chick drama when she stays with me. I think I can get my roommate to keep her distance from the Hungarian girl, but sooner or later, I bet the Hungarian girl will pop the question and ask me if I'm banging the roommate. Now, how would a fucking pro play out this situation? I can ask my roommate to go spend two weeks at home with her parents in the suburbs in September, and this could solve all my issues. I really think I need to do that, so not to risk fucking up this potentially healthy LTR. Or is there a way I could actually play this situation in my favor while not having to ask the roommate to leave for 2 weeks? Probably not. I could always say to my roommate "I have a guest coming to visit in September for two weeks, and I need you to stay with your parents then, as there isn't much room." Or something like that. Either way, if the Hungarian girl finds out, does she have a right to be upset with me, since we're not "exclusive" anyways and are just still very early on in our "getting to know each other" phase of the relationship? Anyways, I just envision this drama from the Hungarian girl, and her trying to put up some ultimatum saying "EIther she leaves, or we're through" but I feel like that only opens up an opportunity for me to be alpha to her and not cave into her demands, since we're not in that serious yet in the first place.