[praxguy]

Even with all our honing of game, sometimes our biology takes over: especially with the best of the best. We lose a woman either by fucking up our game, to an accident or other randomness of life or just because. It tears us apart and--being the more romantic sex--it sometimes seems like an insurmountable task to get over her...

Angelina Jolie has been often touted as the pinnacle of female beauty, but RIP she is for all practical purposes no longer with us...

So what does one do when he loses "the woman of his dreams"? Always keep in mind that you can find her again, so says the Neomaculine Theory of Genetic Probability (I just made that up but help me coin a name). Here she is again, back with real breasts and real ovaries and young like we wanted her to be forever: http://youtu.be/xT432U8BjAk

[rpg]

Says no gynocologist ever.
They are all sisters when you turn them upside down.

[Phoenix]

All we can do is keep searching.

And Jolie never did anything for me. Funky face. More proof that the number scale is nonsense.

[UberBicep]

The number scale is very subjective, each to their own.

I had a friend who in his late 30's had been lording it for a while. He found a women and he knew exactly what he was looking for. He wifed her up, got her preggie and settled down.

Because he had years and years of experience with women.

If you have your youth then really there's nothing to be worried about.

I'm sure we've all looked back on the girls we lost and think "glad I didn't get involved with that one". For me, one was a complete insecure psycho. Two got fat. And one was so slutty you'd need to attach a tracking device to her pussy.

[Dalaran1991]

...is when you need to go out, game more women, get more experience and realize that there's much much better women out there.

I'm not even a veteran here but I've seen enough to know that whenever someone says something like "what if I dont ever find someone like her again?", I know that its just oneitis and scarcity mentality talking.

I learned that, a few road marker of your game progress are:

-When you look at the women you once fell head over heels for, and you look at the girls you are with now, and you be like "the fuck was I thinking"
-When you realize that, when it comes right down to it, women are largely replaceable. There might be some girls you like more than others and with whom you share good memories, but you sure as hell ain't gonna lose sleep if she leaves because you know you can find other girls just right around the corner.

When I was noob I always think "I have to score with this chick now cause she's the hottest girl I know now", then I strike out, then right after that I run into a hotter chick, strike out again. Rinse and repeat and every now and then I land a girl hotter than the last.

Not sure why Angie matters here? She's a celeb so its a very unconventional game situation. Take a stroll with me in the metro in Paris and you'll see plenty of hotter girls. They just aren't as lucky or as good as acting.

[Cr33pin]

Honestly a lot of guys both normal and players all have that "one that got away." I just think it part of being human, you end up bonding with someone in a special kind of way and eventually it falls apart an theres that voice in your head saying that you will never find another girl/love/relationship whatever like that one.

[Pride male]

When you think you will never find a woman like her again...realise that she is probably getting fucked doggystyle by her new lover.

[praxguy]

(07-24-2015 06:57 AM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

Honestly a lot of guys both normal and players all have that "one that got away." I just think it part of being human, you end up bonding with someone in a special kind of way and eventually it falls apart an theres that voice in your head saying that you will never find another girl/love/relationship whatever like that one.

Hell even Roosh said at the NYC lecture that he had at least 2 or 3 that got away.

I asked him if he wanted to take my girlfriend who fit the exact profile he's looking for: Russian, religious, and desires nothing more than to be mom.

Roosh said "all I can say is that you only get a few of those in a lifetime, don't let her go" or something to effect...

[heavy]

I don't think I'll ever find another woman like her because I'll never be in an emasculating relationship again. She controlled me, and I went along with it. It was a perfect relationship.

I miss her like I miss my naivete'.

But then I'm remembering her as a 19-24 year old hottie, not the 29 year old about-to-hit-a-wall chic she is now.

That usually cures it.

[Pride male]

Since women stay in a state of permanent abundance I wonder if they ever really get oneitis.

[greekgod]

We've all been there and that is a core reason this community exists. We went down the path of love and romance only to get butt hurt for a long time. Fucking hell, god knows, I've ascribed to a chick "being the missing piece" "my penguin" "the vanilla swirl to my chocolate hoodsie cup etc, etc, ad nauseum. These chicks exist and they are delightful but I am certain we can all attest that the mental energy spent on them is exhausting.

I don't anything about your age or background but believe you are missing a fundamental point. You're placing a heavy weight on looks for the women to be the "one" which is false because looks are fleeting. The real definition of the "one" is a combination of values, looks, personality, intelligence (emotional , social, and logical), and the ability to develop into something more. What sex is more likely to fulfill all those criteria? Male. Guess what motherfucker? You are the one. You always have been and always will be. Get to the point where you can convey with a glance to any stunner that you are self assured and undeterred by their beauty and you are probably on the path to "having your pick of dream girls."

[Natural Born Gyalist]

(07-24-2015 10:37 AM)Pride male Wrote:  

Since women stay in a state of permanent abundance I wonder if they ever really get oneitis.

Yes, it results in them becoming Alpha-widows.

[Ingocnito]

(07-24-2015 06:57 AM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

Honestly a lot of guys both normal and players all have that "one that got away." I just think it part of being human, you end up bonding with someone in a special kind of way and eventually it falls apart an theres that voice in your head saying that you will never find another girl/love/relationship whatever like that one.

Guys create the feeling on both sides of that "special connection" that creates the "one that got away" feeling for both sexes, or so I have learned. Women, esp in the west, don't ever put in as much effort as the guy overall.

Once you show a girl that feeling, she deals with it similarly. I've got an ex that's a year in my past whose convinced we were meant to be together no matter what. I probably shouldn't, but I bang her from time to time which keeps those feelings going, but I've let them go long ago. Why? Because I know she's a succubus whore that will ruin my life.

That voice telling you you'll never find another like her is subconsciously rooted in the fact that: You put a LOT of effort, time, and life into this girl which is huge part of the reason the deep bond occurred in the first place.

Your brain realizes life is finite and eventually ends, so to put forth that amount of effort again is a bit overwhelming, thus the "one that got away" feeling sets in. The attitude is a risk aversion scenario to shelter our emotions, which is certainly natural.

[Ingocnito]

(07-24-2015 07:35 AM)praxguy Wrote:  

(07-24-2015 06:57 AM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

Honestly a lot of guys both normal and players all have that "one that got away." I just think it part of being human, you end up bonding with someone in a special kind of way and eventually it falls apart an theres that voice in your head saying that you will never find another girl/love/relationship whatever like that one.

Hell even Roosh said at the NYC lecture that he had at least 2 or 3 that got away.

I asked him if he wanted to take my girlfriend who fit the exact profile he's looking for: Russian, religious, and desires nothing more than to be mom.

Roosh said "all I can say is that you only get a few of those in a lifetime, don't let her go" or something to effect...

The bitch of it all, is on top of discovering those few, life's timing has to be aligned to keep them strongly on the hook. If survival priorities, or career commitments must take precedence, you're basically shit outta luck. Even the keepers are fickle and demand X amount of maintenance. You skimp on that maintenance, or one relationship game misstep, and they find a path of lesser resistance.

Women really don't know what's best for themselves either, you can show them, but they usually presume if things don't work out to their liking, you can always be replaced by someone as good, or better, and that's a gamble that's hamsterized to be worth the risk, but not always the case for them either.

Unfortunately you can't unprogram the Disney fairytale knight in shining armor b.s., which lies at the core of the problem. Fortunately, a strong man can turn something good, into something great. They can have their cats.

[Smooth Operator]

(07-24-2015 10:37 AM)Pride male Wrote:  

Since women stay in a state of permanent abundance I wonder if they ever really get oneitis.

Permanent abundance of men? Yes
Permanent abundance of high value men? Less the case

[poutsara]

(07-23-2015 10:21 PM)praxguy Wrote:  

Even with all our honing of game, sometimes our biology takes over: especially with the best of the best. We lose a woman either by fucking up our game, to an accident or other randomness of life or just because. It tears us apart and--being the more romantic sex--it sometimes seems like an insurmountable task to get over her...

You may never find another woman like her but you may and likely will find another women as good as her, or better, provided you are still moving upwards. If you are moving downwards, then that is your fault.

The fragility of our memory is a gift, so in any case, you will forget. Looks are important - maybe most important - but other factors are equally critical in the long game, which is the only game where you want to keep score.

[ksbms]

(07-24-2015 06:57 AM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

That voice telling you you'll never find another like her is subconsciously rooted in the fact that: You put a LOT of effort, time, and life into this girl which is huge part of the reason the deep bond occurred in the first place.

That's a commitment and consistency principle at work.

[TheBlackNarwhal]

Perhaps remembering long-lost flames is just euphoric recall.

I'm sure there's a large cringe factor among us remembering our supplicating behaviors around the "good" ones.

I know there is for me