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07-19-2015, 06:42 AM
LMR happens all the time to anyone unless your SMV is so high that you're a famous celebrity. Remember not all girls will have sex on a first date, all you can do is to maximise your chances.
I had a similar experience a few days ago of bringing a girl all the way back to my place with an Uber, initially saying going to a bar close by and then saying it's boring "let's go". She asks me where we're going the usual just need to get some water I'm dehydrated. Get to my place and she says "I will wait outside". She still sent me a text later and wants to do something again after talking to her on the phone. I never kissed her.
You probably validated her too much with all the kissing. By that point she got what she was looking for and was happy to be on her merry way home. To that extent - if you're looking for a one night bang, you should avoid kissing girls until you're somewhere private with them. This has been covered here many times before. Warm them up with some kino and some sexual tension but avoid giving them the validation they crave. It takes some discipline. A girl I fucked a few weeks back on a one night stand couldn't stand it any longer and literally jumped at me and started kissing me as we were about to order a cab home. I experienced no LMR at all that night and it was straight to fucking within 30 seconds of arriving home.
Also never ask a girl why she didn't do this and this it sounds beta and they are natural born liars you won't get the truth in these sort of situations. Many a time they don't even know themselves. Some girls won't even kiss you but then kiss you and fuck you an hour later, it is emotion based with little logic. View yourself as the puppet master of their emotions.
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07-22-2015, 09:00 PM
Maybe I'm just getting old, but I just don't deal with this shit anymore. I'm not a Casanova by any means, but my intentions are known pretty much from the get-go. This acts as a nice filter for me. I'm of the opinion that, in this day and age, if a girl wants to fuck, she'll fuck. I can't control how she feels, but I damn sure will control how my time is spent, and if you're trying to jerk me around, I'm not spending one Drachma on you.
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07-22-2015, 10:06 PM
Women know that if they get horny, they simply can't control their sexual desires and they are going to get boned.
To avoid feeling like a slut, they'll set limits on their behaviour to reduce the likelihood of getting horny in a situation where it only makes sense to have sex.
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07-22-2015, 11:55 PM
Hey Jagnum, reading your post reminded me of past experiences I've also had but it's true what WIA said that it does seem kinda college-y. At least for me, I don't ever think about "oh need to pull away now " or "gotta pull away first". It's now internalized but it only comes from experience. I can't remember his name but the guy who commented that what she really meant was "im not horny anymore" was so true. There is a whole other language you need to start learning which I'm still learning as well, which is more important than Russian, Japanese, Spanish, all of the above. It's called WOMAN LANGUAGE. Their actions, their comments in specific scenarios often mean something else other than the actual words. Guys are way more literal and women are more emotional and intuitive.
I'll give you an example.
If a girl were to ask her boyfriend if she looks fat, most guys would say either yes you look fat or no, you don't look fat. One or the other. But you wanna know the right answer. The right answer is to grab her, hug her and say "baby you look beautiful" because her WOMAN LANGUAGE translated isn't "do I look fat in this", it's
"Do you love me? I feel insecure and need to be consoled"
Another one which I learned recently and give full credit to good looking loser is YOU can either ask a girl
"Do you wanna fuck later this week" or "do you wanna fuck at my place later this week" but translated into WOMAN LANGUAGE is
"Let's grab a drink later this week" or "let's go watch a movie at my place"
Get it?
If not, read this over and over. This has been the biggest improvement to my game by learning to understand women's moods and translating WOMAN LANGUAGE.
If this is of any condolence, she probably just wasn't into you THAT much. Not saying you didn't have a chance to fuck her, but she probably just wasn't that horny enough or as others have mentioned, because she got a little bit of action and validation, she was good.
For me, I usually make it clear right away I'm sexually attracted to establish a male/female dynamic because I know upfront if I've got a chance or not. Meaning if the girl is still cool and smiling with me after I've made it clear she's cute or pretty/sexy whatever, AND she's letting me play with her hand and especially if she will go back to my place, I don't need to get totally sexual in public. Although to be fair to you, you actually could've maybe fucked her or gotten way more sexual in public but then you've got a whole bunch of other things to think about ala public logistics. But I don't want to stray off topic. As others have mentioned, don't turn up the temperature until you're ready to cook the bacon. Otherwise, just tease that snatch playa.
Good luck man and good job on at least pulling her back to your place
