0 Days/100 Approaches
05-20-2015, 01:26 PM
Short take:
I've been out of the game for a while. I proposed this 10 day, 100 approaches challenge to myself to get back in the groove. I'm posting it here so that there are (somewhat) social consequences if I puss out or fail.
The Rules:
- I have to approach (at least) 10 girls per day for 10 days, starting tomorrow Thursday, May 21.
- An Approach means starting a conversation with a girl who I have potential romantic interest in and with whom I have never before interacted.
- I'm not allowed to exit the conversation unless I've been rejected. If I exit early without asking for number, Facebook, whatever, then my counter for the day starts over.
- "Drive by's" don't count.
- Congratulate yourself thoroughly after each approach to train the habit.
- At the end of the day or next morning, I post my results and thoughts here.
- Other rules may be implemented as needed.
Backstory:
I'm coming off of a long recovery after a failed, serious, multi-year, long-term relationship.
I used to be somewhat of a player (dated multiple models, Olympic athletes, Miss CountryX contestants, regularly living off of girls for housing, food, money, etc etc) until I met my ex and eventually wanted to settle down and start a family. I wasn't a man yet, and I ended up getting dumped.
Took a long time off from girls to develop actual skills and become a contributing member of society. When I got ready to date again, my skills had naturally eroded from being inactive for so long.
A buddy who does well in the night scene suggested RealSocialDynamics. I'd heard of Roosh before and read Bang and Day Bang. Love the Elderly Opener.
Anyway, last month or so I've been getting back into it but results haven't been coming as fast as I'd like.
Here are the main sticking points I've noticed so far:
- Not opening enough girls.
I have a somewhat bad habit of talking myself out of starting chats with girls unless they're like smoking hot, 8.5 and above. In that situation, my brain pretty much shuts down, and I walk to them like a moth to light. I've had the most success with these type girls before, so that also likely plays a role.
- Exiting too soon.
This ^. Conversation loses momentum? Well, I've been excusing myself like a pussy. I want to retrain my mind to ask for Facebook info and/or phone # when the instinct to split kicks in. Also see above rule.
- Not knowing what I want.
I honestly don't at this point...eventually I want wife and kids (wives?) and all that. But of course I have to find a worthy candidate first... One night stands...those are not normally my thing though I've had some. Maybe a summer fling or a nice rotation of girls? We'll see. Most important thing is just to get the ball rolling again and re-build those habits.
One thing I do know is that I want options. I want the skills back so that when I do decide what I want, I'm able to go get it. So me posting this log and challenge here is just a way to brute force myself into forcing through the slog =)
I'll post back up here at least once every day during the challenge. Hope this helps someone or at the very least gives you guys good flame fodder
I've been out of the game for a while. I proposed this 10 day, 100 approaches challenge to myself to get back in the groove. I'm posting it here so that there are (somewhat) social consequences if I puss out or fail.
The Rules:
- I have to approach (at least) 10 girls per day for 10 days, starting tomorrow Thursday, May 21.
- An Approach means starting a conversation with a girl who I have potential romantic interest in and with whom I have never before interacted.
- I'm not allowed to exit the conversation unless I've been rejected. If I exit early without asking for number, Facebook, whatever, then my counter for the day starts over.
- "Drive by's" don't count.
- Congratulate yourself thoroughly after each approach to train the habit.
- At the end of the day or next morning, I post my results and thoughts here.
- Other rules may be implemented as needed.
Backstory:
I'm coming off of a long recovery after a failed, serious, multi-year, long-term relationship.
I used to be somewhat of a player (dated multiple models, Olympic athletes, Miss CountryX contestants, regularly living off of girls for housing, food, money, etc etc) until I met my ex and eventually wanted to settle down and start a family. I wasn't a man yet, and I ended up getting dumped.
Took a long time off from girls to develop actual skills and become a contributing member of society. When I got ready to date again, my skills had naturally eroded from being inactive for so long.
A buddy who does well in the night scene suggested RealSocialDynamics. I'd heard of Roosh before and read Bang and Day Bang. Love the Elderly Opener.
Anyway, last month or so I've been getting back into it but results haven't been coming as fast as I'd like.
Here are the main sticking points I've noticed so far:
- Not opening enough girls.
I have a somewhat bad habit of talking myself out of starting chats with girls unless they're like smoking hot, 8.5 and above. In that situation, my brain pretty much shuts down, and I walk to them like a moth to light. I've had the most success with these type girls before, so that also likely plays a role.
- Exiting too soon.
This ^. Conversation loses momentum? Well, I've been excusing myself like a pussy. I want to retrain my mind to ask for Facebook info and/or phone # when the instinct to split kicks in. Also see above rule.
- Not knowing what I want.
I honestly don't at this point...eventually I want wife and kids (wives?) and all that. But of course I have to find a worthy candidate first... One night stands...those are not normally my thing though I've had some. Maybe a summer fling or a nice rotation of girls? We'll see. Most important thing is just to get the ball rolling again and re-build those habits.
One thing I do know is that I want options. I want the skills back so that when I do decide what I want, I'm able to go get it. So me posting this log and challenge here is just a way to brute force myself into forcing through the slog =)
I'll post back up here at least once every day during the challenge. Hope this helps someone or at the very least gives you guys good flame fodder