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Meeting a girl for first time with her friend?
05-03-2015, 10:36 AM
Haven't ran into this situation before but I'm pretty sure this is a newbie question: Been talking to a girl on Tinder for a couple days. Suggested getting drinks sometime this week. She replied immediately saying she's going to a movie tonight with a friend and asked if I wanted to join.
I believe I've read before that you should never meet a girl for the first time if it's not only you two on the "date." I figure if I make a good impression tonight, she could feel more comfortable and warm up easy if we were to meet alone the next time. (especially if I charm her friend too).
Some info if it helps: I'm in Western Europe, but from North America, mid-late twenties. She's Spanish doing an internship here, 24 years old.
Usually I like making my own calls and seeing what happens as a result but feel asking some questions here and there can't hurt. Any advice on if I should accept or pass on the invitation are appreciated!
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Meeting a girl for first time with her friend?
05-03-2015, 10:40 AM
Generally not a good idea, but if you'd like to watch that movie anyway and have nothing else to do, might as well go.
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Meeting a girl for first time with her friend?
05-03-2015, 11:04 AM
she's probably interested but some girls feel more comfortable meeting a guy with a friend. These girls will take a long time to crack. I agree with going if you have nothing better to do tonight.
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05-03-2015, 11:04 AM
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Meeting a girl for first time with her friend?
05-03-2015, 11:06 AM
What's your alternative? If you don't have anything more interesting lined up, go for it and meet them both. Making friends with girls leads you to their other friends, ie more girls. Also a really experienced player once told me that being cool with a girl's friends makes the girl more likely to want to fuck you. In my experience that is totally true.
Don't let pride and a desire to command the situation prevent you from meeting two girls instead of sitting around your apartment jerking off.
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Meeting a girl for first time with her friend?
05-03-2015, 12:44 PM
A problem even bigger than the friend is the movie. Going to the movies is close to the worst date idea imaginable. If it is something social like going to a music festival or something, the friend would not be that big of an issue.
I would only go if the movie is relatively early and you can transition to something else (drinks) and you really have nothing better to do.
If the night is meet up at the theater, go watch the movie, and then go home alone, you can only lose points.
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Meeting a girl for first time with her friend?
05-04-2015, 04:43 AM
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Meeting a girl for first time with her friend?
05-04-2015, 07:46 AM
A 2v1 date is stupid/difficult. You should have brought a friend.
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Meeting a girl for first time with her friend?
05-04-2015, 09:07 AM
Meeting a friend briefly may be acceptable, but not preferable. It is like a second opinion on buying a home, human nature makes us take a contrarian stance to have a value added purpose of being there. That's why brokers hate second opinions on real estate. If your girl likes you, the friend may have a very arbitrary reason to disqualify you. It could be your socks or your hair.
So, no it is a bad idea.