I have been reading on the site for about a year now, learned A LOT. I'd say I started gaming about a year and a half now. Most my bangs came from online dating (there's a reason for that) and been using first date and zero bangs recipes. 1st date for 21+, 0 dates for under 21.
a little bit about me:
college student, live in a small college town. brown guy (not helping, I live in the south), fitness model physique (been serious about bodybuilding for 5 years, hence the username), expensive car, early 20s, good manly looking.
The reason I like online dating is I can show off my physique (beach pics) and it automatically sets me apart of the other guys, which is hard to accomplish night gaming especially during winter. I mainly go for white girls who mostly prefer white dudes where I live (80- 90% of students here are white). I had much better success rate when I interned somewhere else last summer as it was more diverse than my college town. Also, going out to bars is counterproductive to my bodybuilding life style. I'm a STEM field major, almost 0 single cute girls I could meet in my classes. On top of all that, my texting/snapchat/social media game is much better than my in person approach game (which I do need to work on). approaching girls at the gym here is looked upon as "creepy", small community here, can't afford to have some girl spreading news about me since literally everyone that goes to the gym knows me. I plan on improving my in person approach after college when I move to a bigger city.
I'd love some second opinions/advice on what I plan on doing for this upcoming date:
I've met this girl once before 4-5 years ago (I was a beta, and I look 10x better now), she was too young for me to try anything then so it was just an innocent conversation and I added her on facebook but thats it. she's an 8.5, shy, (from having her on facebook for the past few years, I figured she only goes for LTR), she lives in another small city 10-15 miles away from me, never went to college (poor) and works now.
I saw her on P O Fish (asking for a serious relationship), msged her saying that we've met once before but don't expect her to remember me. she got back to me saying that she does and mentioned the place. exchanged a few msgs (couldn't find her on my friends list on facebook, turned out she unfriended me at some point). asked her for number or snapchat (I wasnt trying to be aggressive since she's actually hot), she gave me her snapchat, snapchated for a week or so, asked for her number and texted for another week (tried to push for a meet up at the beginning but she got back to me with maybe so I went on to build some more comfort).
now I got the date set up for early next week (she's busy with easter), I only set up day/time and nothing else, so I could think of the best possible logistics. here's what I'm thinking:
Goal: first date bang+keep her around, potentially a relationship but will still game others on the side since she works full time and live in another city. She has to think that I'm going for a serious relationship tho.
Approach: can't run 1st date (under 21), nor zero dates because I'm sure she will cancel right when I mention hanging out at my house.
plan A: I was thinking, txt her the same day and say I'm picking her up and going to dinner (I know beta move, can't think of any good place I could take her to in my college town+she has to think I'm serious about her) at restaurant 2 miles from my house (I'm only gonna mention the name of the restaurant she's familiar with my college town as she lives 10-15 miles away). pick her up (girls go crazy when they ride in my car), take her to the restaurant, try to run some light neo-kino (all I know she's super shy). once we're done drive right away to my place, right before I get there I'm gonna say something like "I'm gonna show you where I live before I take you home" when we get there, park my car and say "let me show you the house from inside and you could meet X (roommate's puppy)" I already warmed her up for it with snapchats of the puppy. we go in, play with the puppy for a minute and take her to my room, ask her to wait then bring bottle of wine with two glasses and just pour her some wine, talk to her for 10-15 mins and then you know the rest.
Plan B: if she asks to meet at the restaurant, I'm gonna say "let's meet by my place, then ride together to the restaurant, I live a mile away from there" after we come back invite her over the same way above.
After I got the date set, I'm keeping texting to minimal, so she doesn't think I'm needy.
you guys are the experts. I'd like some feedback/input on my plan;
1- any alternatives to dinner (keep in mind she's under 21, I live in a city where there's almost nothing to do except go for drinks or food)
2- if she insists on meeting at the restaurant?
3- hold hands walking in and out (always debated if I should or not, I personally never do, not sure if that's positive or negative especially when I meet a girl right off tinder or something)
a little bit about me:
college student, live in a small college town. brown guy (not helping, I live in the south), fitness model physique (been serious about bodybuilding for 5 years, hence the username), expensive car, early 20s, good manly looking.
The reason I like online dating is I can show off my physique (beach pics) and it automatically sets me apart of the other guys, which is hard to accomplish night gaming especially during winter. I mainly go for white girls who mostly prefer white dudes where I live (80- 90% of students here are white). I had much better success rate when I interned somewhere else last summer as it was more diverse than my college town. Also, going out to bars is counterproductive to my bodybuilding life style. I'm a STEM field major, almost 0 single cute girls I could meet in my classes. On top of all that, my texting/snapchat/social media game is much better than my in person approach game (which I do need to work on). approaching girls at the gym here is looked upon as "creepy", small community here, can't afford to have some girl spreading news about me since literally everyone that goes to the gym knows me. I plan on improving my in person approach after college when I move to a bigger city.
I'd love some second opinions/advice on what I plan on doing for this upcoming date:
I've met this girl once before 4-5 years ago (I was a beta, and I look 10x better now), she was too young for me to try anything then so it was just an innocent conversation and I added her on facebook but thats it. she's an 8.5, shy, (from having her on facebook for the past few years, I figured she only goes for LTR), she lives in another small city 10-15 miles away from me, never went to college (poor) and works now.
I saw her on P O Fish (asking for a serious relationship), msged her saying that we've met once before but don't expect her to remember me. she got back to me saying that she does and mentioned the place. exchanged a few msgs (couldn't find her on my friends list on facebook, turned out she unfriended me at some point). asked her for number or snapchat (I wasnt trying to be aggressive since she's actually hot), she gave me her snapchat, snapchated for a week or so, asked for her number and texted for another week (tried to push for a meet up at the beginning but she got back to me with maybe so I went on to build some more comfort).
now I got the date set up for early next week (she's busy with easter), I only set up day/time and nothing else, so I could think of the best possible logistics. here's what I'm thinking:
Goal: first date bang+keep her around, potentially a relationship but will still game others on the side since she works full time and live in another city. She has to think that I'm going for a serious relationship tho.
Approach: can't run 1st date (under 21), nor zero dates because I'm sure she will cancel right when I mention hanging out at my house.
plan A: I was thinking, txt her the same day and say I'm picking her up and going to dinner (I know beta move, can't think of any good place I could take her to in my college town+she has to think I'm serious about her) at restaurant 2 miles from my house (I'm only gonna mention the name of the restaurant she's familiar with my college town as she lives 10-15 miles away). pick her up (girls go crazy when they ride in my car), take her to the restaurant, try to run some light neo-kino (all I know she's super shy). once we're done drive right away to my place, right before I get there I'm gonna say something like "I'm gonna show you where I live before I take you home" when we get there, park my car and say "let me show you the house from inside and you could meet X (roommate's puppy)" I already warmed her up for it with snapchats of the puppy. we go in, play with the puppy for a minute and take her to my room, ask her to wait then bring bottle of wine with two glasses and just pour her some wine, talk to her for 10-15 mins and then you know the rest.
Plan B: if she asks to meet at the restaurant, I'm gonna say "let's meet by my place, then ride together to the restaurant, I live a mile away from there" after we come back invite her over the same way above.
After I got the date set, I'm keeping texting to minimal, so she doesn't think I'm needy.
you guys are the experts. I'd like some feedback/input on my plan;
1- any alternatives to dinner (keep in mind she's under 21, I live in a city where there's almost nothing to do except go for drinks or food)
2- if she insists on meeting at the restaurant?
3- hold hands walking in and out (always debated if I should or not, I personally never do, not sure if that's positive or negative especially when I meet a girl right off tinder or something)