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01-02-2009, 12:33 AM
Why did she change? Because you were a chump that told her that you "liked her" and "asked her to go out with you."
Case closed.
P.S. Learn how to use periods and complete sentences for crissakes.
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01-05-2009, 12:44 PM
X-Factor hit the nail on the head.
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Actually, I want to flesh this out a bit. Being needy is a no-no when it comes to the pick up and I've run into this once before. Basically, the chick's response was something along the lines of "We could have just kept it fun that's how it should have been"
Don't smother the chick with needy intent. Just go with the flow and let it be fun and if it eventually escalates into something more then just go with it. Don't force the situation by pouring your heart out when you have her where you want. Chances are that's where she wants it to be at that time as well.
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01-09-2009, 12:15 PM
You were fine all the way up to the point where you started to bear a little of your soul to her. Quite simply don't do that anymore. You're so excited about possibly getting a girl that you're losing control of your senses. And if you're saying these things under influence guess what you're just going to have to cut back on the drinking then.
Making out on the bathroom floor is good, telling her that you like her was not. She obviously was looking for a fun, no strings attached, experience. You were adding strings to that deal by becoming attached and she didn't want that. Should just keep it fun and I bet that's exactly what she was thinking.
If you want things to escalate let fate take care of that. Just keep your game up, keep things fun, and if relationship happens to come out of it in the long run then go with it. Don't try to make it happen.
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01-09-2009, 07:46 PM
Why would you tell a girl that you like her??
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01-10-2009, 08:29 PM
I have had this problem to with chicks I like, sometimes I have a hard time escalating (upping kino and etc) and then dont know how to take it and start getting worried that I am heading towards friend zone.
So then I settle for saying I like you, have a crush on you or some dumb shit.... its terrible.
what should i do instead?
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01-13-2009, 05:09 PM
Well experience is telling me that the door on that opportunity has closed. You've diminished any higher value you may have had up until that point. Now the chick is thinking that there's no way she can have casual fun with you because you already showed her you're in a hurry to be... *gulp*... needy and possibly clingy.
I know what you're thinking. No way that's not me at all and that's not what I want, but that isn't the point anymore. What your real intentions are and what you conveyed are two totally different things now and she is going to question it.
Fuck it. Get her back to that mindset when you were doing the bathroom make out and just go for it. If she's resistant because of what you did last time that'll be your chance to turn it around if it's possible.
"Let's just keep it fun."
I'd be interested in hearing from Roosh on this one. He never really talks about trying to keep getting with "one" chick.