Quote: (03-22-2015 10:46 AM)Vaun Wrote:
One thing I noticed with her, that I never have seen other girls do, is that she goes out of her way to try and make me jealous. Like its totally obvious she is using jealousy. When I see it I call her out on it then I dont call her or answer her texts for a month, I go total dark. She cries and moans and apologizes but I don't put up with any of that.
Vaun, could you elaborate more on the jealousy? I've just sort of started seeing a latina, 10 years my junior and in college in a major English town, and, boy, she can drive me nuts. We live in two different cities, 2 hours away. In person, the sweetest girl, best sex I've had, calls me daddy and makes me feel like a king but her instigating jealousy (especially when I'm away) is beyond belief.
For example, she wrote me she wouldn't come to see me because she was going to visit her male latin friend who invited her and stay overnight at his place (he moved to the UK recently). Apparently, friends since high school but she didn't forget to mention he fancied her and had very nice qualities. Had a big argument about it, eventually she agreed and didn't go to see him.
One weekend I was in London and Friday night, without any context she texts me she finds one of her lecturers attractive and wouldn't pass the course had she attend his classes regularly. Called her acting like a cunt with this unsolicited info and told her either she stops talking about other men because it's disrespectful or she's out. She wouldn't back down easily, so told her what I thought and went silent. Then, it was her her reinitiating contact a few days later and then, again a few days later she apologised.
Two weeks pass, we have a chat and she 'casually' mentions she went with a guy to a museum and how she thinks her feeling towards me are not as strong as they were in the past! I ignore, I just think she's making me jealous again but I would look super controlling if I were to tell her not to interact with males at all. She mentioned one day one of her boyfriends been very controlling - I think I understand why he was...
A few weeks pass and I suggest via fcbk to go out to visit a town together but she declines because she's already bought a ticket to visit another, mildly interesting, small town - value of a ticket four cappuccinos and that she could meet me a week after that only (at the same time moaning how time goes by fast and we see each other so rarely). Ironically, a day before we had a very nice chat on Skype. Looking over a shoulder, you'd say things were going smooth.
As she didn't invite me either to the town she was planning to visit, I laughed at her justification of the price of a ticket and called out her being unavailable two last weekends (a weekend before these two I went to hers) and now coming with this excuse of a cheap ticket. I told her it was either we'd meet or there was no point to continue if she had no time/will to meet.
She got furious, I just politely told her, I didn't like the way things were going and if that was the way, I would find myself someone else. She got angry and just told me I was free to find a new girl! I didn't back track, and re-confirmed, I would. A few more sentences exchanged with me being polite but firm, she got more ill-tempered with some expletives and suddenly blocked me on fcbk. Ironically, she wrote me, as often she did, 'Te quiero, sweetie' in the morning! Then, she unblocked hours later but I'm not going to write to her anything. The whole 'bad' chat from good to 'this is over' lasted less than 15 minutes! Frankly, I'm out ideas what else I could do apart from walking away?
We've had arguments before, she's a very temperamental chicka but anytime I just ignored and stopped talking to her, she would've come back days later saying to me I was 'the only one' and stuff like that. But I see things escalated and her getting out of control. I've never had anything remotely similar with any other girl before - and it's just been weeks!
So is this something way out of proportion with that particular girl or latin girls are just like that, more or less? She indicated she wanted to know where it was going but I told her we should see how things would develop between us. When we are together it's all good, once I'm away - all hell breaks loose! Is she mega-jealous, testing or just a bat-shit crazy girl?
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