Real Life Story, this morning:
Looking for a chair on Craigslist, emailed about one and got a call from
the female owning it.
(In my email it lists my health care professional title, including
my license number, cell and fax. It takes at least 6 years of study as well as a criminal background clearance to get my license.)
She lived seven blocks away, and she volunteered to put it in her car and bring it over.
Not knowing whether I'd like it, I said I'd come take a look and then I could help her load if we made a deal.
She was somewhat apologetic, but said because it was craigslist she was worried about having someone come over, and she asked where my office was.
I told her about the prestigious and long established place I worked, which has been there for decades and which she had definitely heard of.
I gave her the number of the department secretary and said she could call, although internally I was already deciding not to buy the chair.
After that, getting it together enough to establish frame control, I asked
"And how do I know YOU'RE not crazy?"
She kind of sheepishly said "Because I'm a girl and you're a guy." She tried to backtrack, "Oh, I'm sure it will be alright ."
I said "Well, call them up and you'll find out what you need to know. Gotta go. Bye."
In a way, I feel sorry for her, because this crazy thing with people thinking there's a serial killer around every corner has people hiding in shells.
But she was only half apologetic about her problem being our genders.
Imagine saying such a thing because a caller was Black, or some other demographic group?
It would be unthinkably rude. But it's OK to tell men that they are likely to be some kind of monster.
This reinforces my confidence in my long-held determination to leave America permanently.
ANYONE can follow you home if they're some kind of predator. They don't need to call up
and pretend to be prosocial. Of course, statistically there are more violent male predators, but
the number of out and out crazies is really pretty low.
It seems overly simplistic, but it really seems the possibility that having three different versions of CSI running
at any given time makes people more afraid of each other than is optimal.
I just don't see this sad paranoia in the other countries I've been in.
Looking for a chair on Craigslist, emailed about one and got a call from
the female owning it.
(In my email it lists my health care professional title, including
my license number, cell and fax. It takes at least 6 years of study as well as a criminal background clearance to get my license.)
She lived seven blocks away, and she volunteered to put it in her car and bring it over.
Not knowing whether I'd like it, I said I'd come take a look and then I could help her load if we made a deal.
She was somewhat apologetic, but said because it was craigslist she was worried about having someone come over, and she asked where my office was.
I told her about the prestigious and long established place I worked, which has been there for decades and which she had definitely heard of.
I gave her the number of the department secretary and said she could call, although internally I was already deciding not to buy the chair.
After that, getting it together enough to establish frame control, I asked
"And how do I know YOU'RE not crazy?"
She kind of sheepishly said "Because I'm a girl and you're a guy." She tried to backtrack, "Oh, I'm sure it will be alright ."
I said "Well, call them up and you'll find out what you need to know. Gotta go. Bye."
In a way, I feel sorry for her, because this crazy thing with people thinking there's a serial killer around every corner has people hiding in shells.
But she was only half apologetic about her problem being our genders.
Imagine saying such a thing because a caller was Black, or some other demographic group?
It would be unthinkably rude. But it's OK to tell men that they are likely to be some kind of monster.
This reinforces my confidence in my long-held determination to leave America permanently.
ANYONE can follow you home if they're some kind of predator. They don't need to call up
and pretend to be prosocial. Of course, statistically there are more violent male predators, but
the number of out and out crazies is really pretty low.
It seems overly simplistic, but it really seems the possibility that having three different versions of CSI running
at any given time makes people more afraid of each other than is optimal.
I just don't see this sad paranoia in the other countries I've been in.