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Asking a girl for her number
03-02-2015, 07:46 PM
Hey Guys
I was wondering on how to ask a girl for a phone number. I don't want to sound desperate or wimpy by just asking "Hey can I have your number?" This girl and I have talked here and there in class but I was wondering if I can get any tips.
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Asking a girl for her number
03-02-2015, 07:50 PM
Say, "Hey can I have your number?".
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Asking a girl for her number
03-02-2015, 07:51 PM
Should go in the newbie section, but I'd say:
Don't directly ask her for her number. Ask her if she wants to get drinks together soon. The number is a logical consequence of that. Notice the subtle shift - rather than just asking her for the number to maybe set up a date, now you've got a verbal affirmation that she wants to see you again, one on one.
Also don't phrase it in terms of a question. Saying something like "We should grab drinks together later this week" sounds less needy.
Truly, it isn't that hard - or that big a deal, for that matter.
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03-02-2015, 08:12 PM
So, I know we can't go to the liquor store yet...but we CAN fuck our brains out in the back seat of my car.
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Asking a girl for her number
03-02-2015, 10:35 PM
Say "You seem pretty cool, we should hang out sometime" or "Let's grab drinks sometime" or something to that extent. If she responds in the affirmative, drop one of this innovative and ground-breaking lines:
"Give me your number."
or
"Put your number in my phone."
Don't ask for a number, tell her to give it to you.
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Asking a girl for her number
03-02-2015, 10:37 PM
Put your number in my phone!
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03-02-2015, 11:29 PM
Just simply ask for her number in a confident and playful manner.
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Asking a girl for her number
03-03-2015, 06:39 AM
Yes, I agree with the comments above that say don't ask for her number, tell her to give you her number. Be a man, take charge.
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Asking a girl for her number
03-03-2015, 09:18 AM
What do you want to achieve? Always know the goal. Look at it like this. You don't want to have her phone number, unless you're doing some weird art project on current technology. You do want to get to know her and get in her pants. She knows this, and you want her to know this. It's not educational or professional, it's sexual. You want a sexual relationship of some kind. Getting her contact info is just a necessary step.
So tell her you want to hang out and if she agrees, open up the New Contact screen and hand her your phone. "I have time tomorrow evening and want to check out this place." If she's down or offers an alternative, tell her you'll be in touch about the details.
If you've just been talking here and there, and you muster up the courage to ask for the number and actually get it, in your next step you have to muster up the courage again by asking her out over text, which is pretty weak. And in the mean time this girl is going to be wondering why you didn't ask her out and when and why you'll be texting, hoping you're not going to make it awkward.
Be upfront in person (which shows some balls) and when you succeed, exchanging that number is only natural.
P.S.
When you only show your true intentions later over text, and she rebuffs you, it will be more awkward when you see her again in class. You can't show you're unfazed over text. One of the biggest DHVs, and one of my favorites, is getting rejected and not looking affected, e.g. going for the kiss and getting the cheek, and then smiling because you know you'll get her. Girls can read it and it turns them on.
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03-03-2015, 03:38 PM
just give her your phone and tell her to put her number in it
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03-03-2015, 04:15 PM
I think it's been pretty well covered, but basically say something like "I'd like to invite you out" or "I'd like to hang out with you sometime." If she answers affirmatively, tell her "give me your number." I've given girls my phone at times and said "put your number in."
I don't understand why guys are so afraid of this, actually.
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03-03-2015, 11:31 PM
This is what I do.
I say something along the lines of "It's been nice talking to you, but I'm late to meet my friends, we'll have to continue this conversation later some time."
She'll say, "Ya, sure."
I saw, "How do you want me to get in touch with you?"
????
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Asking a girl for her number
07-06-2017, 09:44 AM
Hey guys, have a situation which might be a potential flake. Here it goes.. Went to a restaurant where a girl I met through a mutual friend a year ago was working. She attended to us but I did not acknowledge the familiarity. But I did when my friends and I were paying for the food by mentioning the mutual friend's name and the meetup we had which was actually predrinking on a saturday. She said she recognized me as well. Asked her if she was still staying at the same place, how her uni is going etc. Later i asked for her fb, realized my mistake as she turned to do something else and got her number instead when she turned back.
The weird thing is she never got my name. Is this going to be a flake when I text her? And how do I identify myself without overdoing it and how long should I wait, alsoshould I mention the mutual friend's name? I think Roosh advocates 2-4 days and discourages the weekends but assuming this event occurred on a Thursday when and what would you text her given my anonymous nature to her in this case?
I dont usually mention another guy's name in my texts but in this case, it might be unavoidable such as in the following sample:
'hey X its hazaer, we met at the Y diner and happen to have Z as a mutual friend.how are you'
Obviously, focussing on this one girl is not good form but I would like to bring this out to illustrate if it is even worth getting the number in a scenario such as this where you can barely talk to the girl for a minute during the transaction so you cannot not establish comfort in the usual day game conversation style although you might have barely known her before.
Thank you for your opinions and ideas.