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02-22-2015, 10:08 PM
This is more of a motivation post. I live in mid size city where people tend to marry after college, settle down, and a few years later start up their families.
For whatever reason (maybe I'm getting into typical fathering age), I've been paying more and more attention to observing the male/female dynamic with these couples, and one thing really strikes me: they almost never seem happy. Hell, typically they don't even speak to each other unless it involves the child.
There was a couple sitting next to me in the cafe today who literally did not speak to each other the entire time they were there. Not a word. I also tend to notice a sort of defeated look in the mans eyes. I'm sure they love their children, but I think the day to day of it is just grueling, and the women don't make their lives much better.
As much as dating multiple girls and dealing with flakes, shit test, BS wears me out (this weekend especially) when I really consider the alternative, I have no doubt that I've made the right decision.
If you're ever feeling the same, look at guys in their late 20's and 30's (a guys prime) that have kids and really ask yourself if that is what you want. Also look at their wifes.
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02-23-2015, 12:11 AM
Any married guy who has kids knows this feeling
Once the baby comes, their once doting and wife who has turned ALL our her attention & affection to the child but it's just her following her genetic code. Show me a woman who is good at the balancing act and I might be tempted to put a ring it. The majority aren't...
Being fair, there is a natural adjustment you make when you have an addition to the family (especially if it's the couple's 1st child) but us men expect that things will go back to normal soon enough
Problem is - wifey never seems to get that memo
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02-23-2015, 12:11 AM
I've noticed that the guy usually trails behind his woman when walking together. She has a more confident gait, her back and posture is straight up and masculine in nature. The guy is trailing a step or two behind, chin further down, and more of a slump in his posture. It is depressing how often I see the woman leading and in charge. Could be because we inhabit a world where 20-something, even 30-something women are considered higher status than men in many cases. I bet blue pill men just get outpointed all the time and accomodate themselves to it.
I've also noticed the long-time GF or wife snaps at the guy routinely. I was walking on the sidewalk and heard a man telling his GF a story. She snapped, "Not impressed. I've heard that before". He was just silent and continued trailing behind her. Only with older couples where they're in their 40s or 50s do I see the man taking a leadership role, and even that's some percentage of all couples.
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Have you ever observed younger couples with kids out in public?
02-23-2015, 02:55 AM
Have you ever been married?
Do you have kids?
I got married at 23 (almost 39 now) and my daughter was born when I was 26.
You are generalizing the shit out of it. If you see a bunch of defeated losers with kids they didn't want, it doesn't mean everybody is like this and being a playa is a superior way of life.
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02-23-2015, 02:33 PM
Coincidentally, I was on my way back from the gym this afternoon when I heard a screaming child at the back of the bus that refused to pipe down no matter how much it was coddled by its mother.
Well, some people call them children. In my own life I call them Reasons For A Vasectomy.
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02-23-2015, 08:00 PM
This whole thing about guys losing steam after marriage and kids is just a manosphere myth and also selective bias. Plenty of guys here that are anything but.
To be honest I enjoy time with my kids immensely. It's about the one thing I look forward to every single day.
I think this is another case of "thinking too much into it" OP.
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02-24-2015, 03:58 AM
I've seen all the scenarios
- pissed off mom, happy dad
- happy mom, happy dad
- happy mom, pissed off dad
- pissed off mom, pissed off dad
All my boys are happy they had kids, even if it was unexpected.
Only some of them are happy that they got married though.
I also grew up with a bunch of guys that didn't have their own fathers in their lives, so it's understandable that they'd be somewhat happy with the marriage, happy with fatherhood, and willing to do what it takes to raise their children happy and healthy as possible.
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