So I met a girl at the bar about 3 weeks ago on a Friday night, we talked for over a hour (she stepped away from her group of friends to do this). Even when her guy friends asked if she was "okay" and tried to pull her back she would respond "I'm okay here". At the end of the conversation she reaches out her cell phone and inputs my number and asked for the spelling of my first and last name. She also gave me her number. She did tell me to call/text her within 7 days of else she would just forever forget about me. I texted her the next day at 4pm and we briefly exchanged text messages, but I didn't text her later in the evening since I was out prospecting for new leads. Anyways, I had a couple drinks after a date on Tuesday night and I was driving home, I called her. However, I think I came off too strong/arrogant douchebag persona and she was more of the innocent type. She texts me the next day "Hey I think you're a nice guy, but I'm not feeling the chemistry. Hope you understand" to which I respond "We're all good! Best of luck on everything".
Two weeks go by, I cold turkey it and I sent her a funny meme and said "If this makes you laughs, can you we acquaintances? Not random at all, completely platonic" to which she responds favorably and says hahah yes. We exchange about 20 text messages each (for the next 2 days), full of witty banter so I can see she's putting in some effort leading me to believe this is a good sign. She's an attorney so I know she's VERY busy. I only did this because I felt some really strong chemistry with her at the bar and wanted to try this. This is a girl I would sincerely date.
Last night, I bumped into her and her group of friends. I gently played games with her and we "meet again" for the first time. However, towards the end of the night, I see her making out with some dude on the couch. I'm not sure who he is, stranger? Ex boyfriend? but that was a big turn off because I thought she was one of the 'good girls' and 'innocent', but apparently I'm wrong. For the first time since college years, I feel heartbreak. Am I being a big pansy? I barely know this girl, but I feel this certain way about her. Anyways, since she agreed to be 'acquaintances' should I still ask her out to happy hour? How many days should I wait? She didn't see me making out with this guy...
Has anyone had any success stories with reviving these type of dead leads? I mean she's really worth it in my book and of course I've competed against other guys before for a girl. I'm not sure if I'm ready to stand by and roll over just yet.
Two weeks go by, I cold turkey it and I sent her a funny meme and said "If this makes you laughs, can you we acquaintances? Not random at all, completely platonic" to which she responds favorably and says hahah yes. We exchange about 20 text messages each (for the next 2 days), full of witty banter so I can see she's putting in some effort leading me to believe this is a good sign. She's an attorney so I know she's VERY busy. I only did this because I felt some really strong chemistry with her at the bar and wanted to try this. This is a girl I would sincerely date.
Last night, I bumped into her and her group of friends. I gently played games with her and we "meet again" for the first time. However, towards the end of the night, I see her making out with some dude on the couch. I'm not sure who he is, stranger? Ex boyfriend? but that was a big turn off because I thought she was one of the 'good girls' and 'innocent', but apparently I'm wrong. For the first time since college years, I feel heartbreak. Am I being a big pansy? I barely know this girl, but I feel this certain way about her. Anyways, since she agreed to be 'acquaintances' should I still ask her out to happy hour? How many days should I wait? She didn't see me making out with this guy...
Has anyone had any success stories with reviving these type of dead leads? I mean she's really worth it in my book and of course I've competed against other guys before for a girl. I'm not sure if I'm ready to stand by and roll over just yet.