[sarcofago]

Well, we have all heard this maybe a thousands times.

''You are a nice guy, but I did not feel any connection.''

It's the usual excuse / reason women ghost or don't go on a second date.

95% of guys do drink dates. Maybe drink dates don't work anymore? I'm almost certain about that. Drink dates are for hook ups and the current dating market has changed a lot, as most of the girls have done that and don't repeat, unless they haven't had sex for a long period of time. But good luck nowadays finding that 'thirsty' girl with such high competition from sex predators online.

Which are the best ways to build connection?

EDIT: Please, only posters, who have successfully built connection with women.

[luigi]

I do the same to a lot of girls, its not an excuse, its a fact.

If i dont feel my date is interesting to me, why should i bother keeping contact?

Connection can be made on a restaurant or in the north pole, it just takes two compatible people, i dont think the setting is really that important.

Just keep trying, sometimes its bad luck.

[Pytonga]

You have to Build comfort and connection on the first date:
Listen to her, look into her eyes, touch her - tell her some funny stories - start discussion about sex (but not like I'm so hard now I am going to fuck you - it works but only sometimes )
Paint images with your words - women's love talking about sex...
Do not try to impress her to hard - just be normal, be yourself and enjoy the moment, have fun.

[BeardedMastodon]

Anything that involves car drives and the outdoors or anything physically or mentally challenging (escape rooms). Also to build a connection you have to be vulnerable. Share your feelings and thoughts even if you think thier nonsense.

[RatInTheWoods]

Don't be boring on the first drink date.

You can use words and conversation to build a deep connection, spiker her emotions and gain that connection.

Instead of boring "what do you do for a living" interview style questions, ask her questions that engage with her emotions.

Probe and observe her body language and listen to her answers and adjust your strategy to suite.

Questions like:

"what cheers you up" makes her think about things that make her happy
"What are you passionate about?" gets her thinking about things she is passionate about.
"Where are we going on our first romantic holiday" gets her thinking about a connection with you tied to a romantic holiday in an exotic location.

See the power of words and conversation, during a "boring" drinks date?

[BlastbeatCasanova]

This is simple, how has anyone not mentioned this?

1.) make her laugh
2.) fuck her good

"'You are a nice guy, but I did not feel any connection.'' = you weren't interesting-funny enough / you didn't make my pussy wet

This is what it all comes down to. She thinks you are funny and interesting, so she let's you fuck her.
You fucked her great in your own unique style of fucking, so she knows you are a great passionate lover and that you know what's up. Boom you're connected.

This has never failed me.

[sarcofago]

(03-21-2019 08:13 AM)Pytonga Wrote:  

start discussion about sex (but not like I'm so hard now I am going to fuck you - it works but only sometimes )

Has worked only once. Some Romanian 7 on Tinder. The chat went knowhere and she wasn't down to meet. Then, I just told her I have a very big dick. That was a game changer. We met halfway, kissed straight away without even saying hi and banged all night. She was a Tantric sex expert, sucking my cock for 2 hours.

But I'm looking for a LTR now, tired of casual sex.

For me it's very hard to go on a second date. Most of my dates for years were drinks and same night sex or waste of time. I'm just trying to adapt, as this is not working anymore.

[germanico]

"You are a nice guy but I dont feel a connection" roughly translates to "I dont think theres anything wrong with you, Im just looking for someone who looks like they can give me miles of dick and not care about it."

[JackinMelbourne]

(03-21-2019 06:58 AM)sarcofago Wrote:  

Well, we have all heard this maybe a thousands times.

''You are a nice guy, but I did not feel any connection.''

It's the usual excuse / reason women ghost or don't go on a second date.

95% of guys do drink dates. Maybe drink dates don't work anymore? I'm almost certain about that. Drink dates are for hook ups and the current dating market has changed a lot, as most of the girls have done that and don't repeat, unless they haven't had sex for a long period of time. But good luck nowadays finding that 'thirsty' girl with such high competition from sex predators online.

Which are the best ways to build connection?

EDIT: Please, only posters, who have successfully built connection with women.

You just answered your own questions.

Since you've heard that line "a thousand times", it implies that you've done this a thousand times... therefore, you have no passion during the interactions. Couple that with "95% of guys doing drink dates" and you have a recipe for boring NPC with nothing interesting or different to build a connection with.

What now playboy?

[El Padrone]

Why are you trying to build a connection with some chick you're trying to bang?? Women don't need a connection to want to fuck you, they just need to be in an emotional state where they are very receptive to sex FROM YOU. So in what emotional state are you putting her when you're with her(prior to taking her to your place to hear your mix tape?) What are you telling her? What are you making her tell you? How are you touching her? Where are you taking her?

[yang2287]

I will go another route

I have noticed a pattern developing with some girls I have been out with recently

After getting the number some advice on this forum says get logistics, fix a date and go no contact and only recontact a day or before date to confirm plans. i.e. be mysterious, don't over text etc

I would say that for some girls a lot of connection can be built over text. Basically continuous chatting on the build up to the date can help create a deeper connection (which should be temporary for you by the way, don't get attached to some slut)

Then schedule the date at night in a loud bar that is a bit of a dim lighting, find a comfortable corner and get her drinking, mojitos or whatever, lots of kissing and touching and then bang.


The mojito or whatever drink, a lot of this can help lower the guard and defuse the lack of attraction and lack of connection thought she might have and you can be sure of SNL with her.

The SMS and texting is where the dating and get to know you in a deeper way happens

The loud bar sets an environment for 2 people to get intimate, closer, kissing like kids to drown out the noise while forgetting everyone around.

A lot of girls I've been with like to attention whore by kissing in front of other people

Some of them also interpret the fact that you got kissing so quickly so fast while drunk as a sign of huge attraction

Please sit side-by-side to your date to make this happen

Please have logistics ready for where you are taking the girl for bang after the mojitos, Uber, 5 mins apartment walk etc. Don't let things cool down (know how to deal with LMR, ASD).

She will be horny, if she insists it's not happening between you two tonight as you just met, be sure she is calling Chad after you leave or Chad Vibrator.

This pattern I have seen with 27-30 Working class girls, who are independent, earn own money, don't need a man, mojito drinking girls

It's like night game except you already knew each other and texted each other A LOT before coming to the bar for the date

[eradicator]

Kino

[Seanchaí]

(03-21-2019 06:58 AM)sarcofago Wrote:  

Maybe drink dates don't work anymore?

What does this even mean? Any date has the possibility of working, especially when you involve alcohol

[sarcofago]

(03-25-2019 05:24 AM)JackinMelbourne Wrote:  

(03-21-2019 06:58 AM)sarcofago Wrote:  

Well, we have all heard this maybe a thousands times.

''You are a nice guy, but I did not feel any connection.''

It's the usual excuse / reason women ghost or don't go on a second date.

95% of guys do drink dates. Maybe drink dates don't work anymore? I'm almost certain about that. Drink dates are for hook ups and the current dating market has changed a lot, as most of the girls have done that and don't repeat, unless they haven't had sex for a long period of time. But good luck nowadays finding that 'thirsty' girl with such high competition from sex predators online.

Which are the best ways to build connection?

EDIT: Please, only posters, who have successfully built connection with women.

You just answered your own questions.

Since you've heard that line "a thousand times", it implies that you've done this a thousand times... therefore, you have no passion during the interactions. Couple that with "95% of guys doing drink dates" and you have a recipe for boring NPC with nothing interesting or different to build a connection with.

What now playboy?

Jack, thanks for your input. It's great to know that there are players on this forum that never fail and always build connection with random girls they meet online / offline.

I had a date lately with some chick that after a 10 minutes told me that she was not attracted to me. I told her to leave, as I had plans for the night. She told me that she wanted to stay and bought me a drink. Then, she told me that she was straight, but wanted badly to lick a pussy. She had three vibrators home and was addicted to porn.
We had a chat and both agreed that 'connection' has more to do with DNA compatibility and less with anything else, like game, logistics, alcohol or anything else. If it's there, it's there.

Your thoughts, guys?

[El Padrone]

^ I really am not sure about other people but i wouldnt want to get frisky with someone i had a DNA connection with...

[Obermarschall]

Yes it is just an excuse in my point of view. But look at the bright side, you can delete their number and focus on other women.