What are some good ways to make friends/build a social circle if you dont have them??
02-01-2015, 03:18 PM
Im in my early 20s and Ive been depressed for over 5, around 8 years. During that time, Ive never actually continued maintaining contact with friends/acquaintances that I mightve had before. So I havent actually had any social connections for years, and I want to change that.
I dont think Ive got good enough grades from highschool to qualify for good college/uni courses. But I want to build a social circle similar to how people can in college/uni.
The thing is I live in quite a dead suburb and the city centre is 8km away. I also have no idea where people my age hang out.
Things Ive tried-
Trying to join the local uni clubs, rock climbing, canoeing etc. Ive joined one of them but they dont seem to be doing much on the mailing list, nor do I seem to get along with them that well.
Going to mini concerts with indie bands my facebook friends are going to. I think Ive tried being social there but everyone seems to be going along with friends and I still feel alone by myself. Its hard to know how to "make friends" and get them to hang out again, and besides I dislike their music anyways, so paying $5-10 for entry and also paying to bus 5 km to another suburb was basically me paying all that, not to enjoy myself, but to hope I can gain something socially, which I didnt.
Going to the local beach. Thats the thing I like the most because its so close and I like the beach anyway, but I still havent reliably gotten friends from that.
Ive spent around 200 hours of effort trying to make friends last year, and it was depressing how it didnt work out well, other than maybe "practise" for my social skills. Are there any good places people my age go, things I probably am doing wrong, things I need to do etc. Any help is very appreciated, Im getting very lonely here!
I know you guys are a clever bunch, so thats why I posted here. Im into self improvement but not having friends/social circle is really getting me down.
I dont think Ive got good enough grades from highschool to qualify for good college/uni courses. But I want to build a social circle similar to how people can in college/uni.
The thing is I live in quite a dead suburb and the city centre is 8km away. I also have no idea where people my age hang out.
Things Ive tried-
Trying to join the local uni clubs, rock climbing, canoeing etc. Ive joined one of them but they dont seem to be doing much on the mailing list, nor do I seem to get along with them that well.
Going to mini concerts with indie bands my facebook friends are going to. I think Ive tried being social there but everyone seems to be going along with friends and I still feel alone by myself. Its hard to know how to "make friends" and get them to hang out again, and besides I dislike their music anyways, so paying $5-10 for entry and also paying to bus 5 km to another suburb was basically me paying all that, not to enjoy myself, but to hope I can gain something socially, which I didnt.
Going to the local beach. Thats the thing I like the most because its so close and I like the beach anyway, but I still havent reliably gotten friends from that.
Ive spent around 200 hours of effort trying to make friends last year, and it was depressing how it didnt work out well, other than maybe "practise" for my social skills. Are there any good places people my age go, things I probably am doing wrong, things I need to do etc. Any help is very appreciated, Im getting very lonely here!
I know you guys are a clever bunch, so thats why I posted here. Im into self improvement but not having friends/social circle is really getting me down.