[A_CLizzy]

Been with this Chick 3 months. She definitely has potential and I've been prepared to give her my time, until now.

I Was aware of the tattoo and what it signified earlier on the relationship but today it's became a massive turn off maybe because I feel like i've invested a lot of time and energy into her and if I'm going to be playing

this dumb relationship game or because she said 'She's always going to remember him'.

Why the Fuck would I want another Man's initials on my girl.

Today, I started to get turned off and she heard me say 'filthy' under my breath when I stopped sexually escalating, she then dared me to say what i murmured out loud. So I said ' that tattoo is fucking

disgusting and that she is a dirty whore'.

Not knowing whether she was playing or not with the dare. Regardless she took it to heart. 10 minutes later she tries to turn it on me and say 'nobody ever talks to me like

that'. Trying to make me feel bad for saying that to her, when it was her Dare. She also decided to leave at this point. I feel like she's trying to flip the script.

The Tattoo bothers me period, I don't feel i'm being emotional or Jealous. I'm a bit lost as what to do from this point as I believe she is waiting for me to call and apologize, which i'm not going to do.

Another thing to Note. she is highly stubborn and going Radio Silent could do more damage than good. How should I play it from this point but I feel like I'm being disrespected.

Tattoo is on her inner Wrists.

Suggestions please.

[Serious Sam]

This should be you right now. It should have been you 3 months ago after you pumped her a few times, before you caught feelings.

Quote:

I Was aware of the tattoo and what it signified earlier on the relationship

Why would you take her seriously knowing she has another man's initials tattooed on her body?

[Repo]

Either you were being emotional when you called her a filthy whore, or you are asking for advice for how to have a relationship with a filthy whore. Time to grow up, women aren't saints and if you expect them to be you will keep getting emotional and disapointed. Ditch this one.

[ksbms]

Interesting. Where's the tattoo?

I wonder if her ex was a badass alpha or some such, that she had done it.

Heh, thinking about it, it would be interesting to see how easy/difficult is to get a girl you're banging branded with your initials on the assumption she hasn't got any tats whatsoever.

[Mufasa]

(01-20-2017 02:17 PM)A_CLizzy Wrote:  

Been with this Chick 3 months. She definitely has potential and I've been prepared to give her my time, until now.

I Was aware of the tattoo and what it signified earlier on the relationship but today it's became a massive turn off maybe because I feel like i've invested a lot of time and energy into her and if I'm going to be playing

this dumb relationship game or because she said 'She's always going to remember him'.

Why the Fuck would I want another Man's initials on my girl.

Today, I started to get turned off and she heard me say 'filthy' under my breath when I stopped sexually escalating, she then dared me to say what i murmured out loud. So I said ' that tattoo is fucking

disgusting and that she is a dirty whore'.

Not knowing whether she was playing or not with the dare. Regardless she took it to heart. 10 minutes later she tries to turn it on me and say 'nobody ever talks to me like

that'. Trying to make me feel bad for saying that to her, when it was her Dare. She also decided to leave at this point. I feel like she's trying to flip the script.

The Tattoo bothers me period, I don't feel i'm being emotional or Jealous. I'm a bit lost as what to do from this point as I believe she is waiting for me to call and apologize, which i'm not going to do.

Another thing to Note. she is highly stubborn and going Radio Silent could do more damage than good. How should I play it from this point but I feel like I'm being disrespected.

Tattoo is on her inner Wrists.

Suggestions please.

You've won dude.
Radio scilence is the perfect move and pray she sees out with another girl so that the knife gets a nice little twist in her stomach.

[Hypno]

well, you've crossed the rubicon, that is for sure. you can't put the genie back in the bottle.

I think you've both realized it will never work. you both feared that, but basically you said it out loud and scared her.

she might come back, but only for make up sex. your words gave her hamster a heart attack.



I would get the number of her hot friends and hit on them while you still have social proof, in other words, before she tells them she dumped you. You are probably not thinking in those terms now, but down the road you'll be kicking yourself for not spinning more plates.

[General Stalin]

(01-20-2017 02:17 PM)A_CLizzy Wrote:  

Suggestions please.

Leave her.

It's retarded that she got her "boyfriend's" name branded on her in the first place, but the fact that she still has it and has not gotten it covered up is telling. You say yourself she is super stubborn anyway. Sounds like a fucking headache.

Your mistake was being brash an unable to control your ego. You don't need to say mean shit to her and make her feel bad about something you chose to accept about her beforehand. You said yourself that you already knew about the tattoos a while ago and you let it slide, but now that you have stronger feelings about her than before you are getting butthurt over it. You're letting your emotions get the best of you.

I say let her go and find a girl that doesn't have her previous lover's name branded on her body. Also learn to control your emotions better.

[Splord]

Double red flag, the girl is marked by two other men, the artist and the boyfriend.
You shouldn't have lost your temper though, you could call her out in a perfectly cool manner and maybe, just maybe, salvaged a few more bangs.

From the way you describe the whole situation ("has potential and I've been prepared to give her my time", "she took it to heart", "I believe she is waiting for me to call and apologize", " going Radio Silent could do more damage than good") you 've fallen for her good.

Get over her, she was never LTR material. Don't think how she feels; girls with boyfriends' names tattoos only have instincts. She will get over this a lot sooner than you (probably by getting another tattoo). I mean how would you feel when every time you held her hand you both saw that other man's name?

[Kona]

It is really easy to get tattoos altered or removed nowadays.

If she didn't care about the dude she would have done it already.

Just don't you be the one to talk her out of it. The boyfriend is probably either a blood or a crip, or maybe in a biker gang. They love tattooing their bitches/Ol' ladies.

Aloha!

[RatInTheWoods]

All women over the age of 15 have the "tattoo" of other men inside their heads and embedded in their emotions anyway.

I can understand how a visible reminder is upsetting, but you knew that up front and accepted that.

I think the power of your mind is needed to ignore this and move on, if that's what you want.

But if you decide that, you must be alpha and never show weakness by mentioning it or showing that it gets to you.

If you can't do that, then its game over.

[lavidaloca]

A lot of Cuban girls do this. Funniest one I ever saw was Carlos right above a girls vagina. Needless to say Carlos and her were no longer together.

My girlfriend has my name on her lower hip / ass haha.

Why does it really matter in the grand scheme of things. It's not really a big deal. She got a tattoo which in hindsight seems stupid. But shes been with you only 3 months. If she was with you for 3 years and you wanted her to have it removed that would be different.

I think your making a bigger deal out of it than it is.

[LeoneVolpe]

I fucking hate tattoos. The sad thing is, nowadays it's hard to find a girl without at least one speck of graffiti hidden somewhere on their bodies. Still, there's a big difference (at least in my mind) between a girl who has a stupid cartoon character or a phrase written in a foreign language and a girl who's decided to get an ex-lover's name permanently inked on her body.

As men, we're more resistant to developing feelings than women but we're certainly not immune to it. So, you got to be careful when you're out there tapping hos. If you're not interested in being with one girl in particular, you shouldn't just be seeing her and only her -- as it will make it that much easier to get attached. Your brain gets confused and conflates the good feelings her sex gives you into meaning more than it actually does. Chances are, you don't really love her, or even like her as a person, you just like fucking her. It might feel strange for you to go cold turkey on this chick, but I think in the end you'll end up thanking yourself for it.

Quote:

"It is always time and effort better spent developoing new, fresh prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was."

Tomassi, "Iron Rule #7"

[ksbms]

(01-20-2017 06:06 PM)LeoneVolpe Wrote:  

Your brain gets confused and conflates the good feelings her sex gives you into meaning more than it actually does. Chances are, you don't really love her, or even like her as a person, you just like fucking her.

[Kona]

I was in line once at Subway and a ghetto woman had "Ron's Bitch" tattooed on her neck in gang calligraphy. I said "wow Ron is a lucky guy" and she got upset.

Aloha!

[Steelex]

Just tell her she needs to gtfo unless you can burn it off with a torch, SAMCRO style.

I've branded on a few foolish women. Not my problem they're so goddamn stupid. Each and every one of them would walk back in with a phone call, because that's what it means when you have a dude's name on your back.

[BetaNoMore]

(01-20-2017 04:27 PM)Splord Wrote:  

Double red flag, the girl is marked by two other men, the artist and the boyfriend.
You shouldn't have lost your temper though, you could call her out in a perfectly cool manner and maybe, just maybe, salvaged a few more bangs.

From the way you describe the whole situation ("has potential and I've been prepared to give her my time", "she took it to heart", "I believe she is waiting for me to call and apologize", " going Radio Silent could do more damage than good") you 've fallen for her good.

Get over her, she was never LTR material. Don't think how she feels; girls with boyfriends' names tattoos only have instincts. She will get over this a lot sooner than you (probably by getting another tattoo). I mean how would you feel when every time you held her hand you both saw that other man's name?

Wow I never thought about it this way before. Makes tats even worse to have some bozo "artist" leave his mark permanently on a girl if you're dating her seriously.

[Mufasa]

(01-20-2017 07:27 PM)Kona Wrote:  

I was in line once at Subway and a ghetto woman had "Ron's Bitch" tattooed on her neck in gang calligraphy. I said "wow Ron is a lucky guy" and she got upset.

Aloha!

[Travesty]

(01-20-2017 05:27 PM)lavidaloca Wrote:  

A lot of Cuban girls do this. Funniest one I ever saw was Carlos right above a girls vagina. Needless to say Carlos and her were no longer together.

My girlfriend has my name on her lower hip / ass haha.

Why does it really matter in the grand scheme of things. It's not really a big deal. She got a tattoo which in hindsight seems stupid. But shes been with you only 3 months. If she was with you for 3 years and you wanted her to have it removed that would be different.

I think your making a bigger deal out of it than it is.

[Maxzilla]

Lol just hit it and quit it bro

[Splord]

(01-20-2017 10:11 PM)BetaNoMore Wrote:  

(01-20-2017 04:27 PM)Splord Wrote:  

Double red flag, the girl is marked by two other men, the artist and the boyfriend.
You shouldn't have lost your temper though, you could call her out in a perfectly cool manner and maybe, just maybe, salvaged a few more bangs.

From the way you describe the whole situation ("has potential and I've been prepared to give her my time", "she took it to heart", "I believe she is waiting for me to call and apologize", " going Radio Silent could do more damage than good") you 've fallen for her good.

Get over her, she was never LTR material. Don't think how she feels; girls with boyfriends' names tattoos only have instincts. She will get over this a lot sooner than you (probably by getting another tattoo). I mean how would you feel when every time you held her hand you both saw that other man's name?

Wow I never thought about it this way before. Makes tats even worse to have some bozo "artist" leave his mark permanently on a girl if you're dating her seriously.

I dated a girl once that had two tattoos and big ones too and told me she wanted to have two more. ("Red flag ahoy!" - nice idea for a gif by the way).
I recognize the shit test and tell her, straight face and all, that you just don't undress willingly for strangers (she had to because they were back tattoos) and that only two people have the right to mark her body, her surgeon and her husband.

She says "don't worry, my brother and aunt were sitting in the room next to me"
and that his needles were spotless (yeah yeah i get it you dont have hep).


At that exact moment I recognize that the hamster reactor is about to go critical and I become completely certain it's a matter of time to eject.

The "permanent mark on your body" argument cuts very, very deep, I even talked my girl cousin out of getting a tattoo with just that phrase.

[PapayaTapper]

(01-20-2017 02:17 PM)A_CLizzy Wrote:  

Been with this Chick 3 months. She definitely has potential and I've been prepared to give her my time, until now.

I Was aware of the tattoo and what it signified earlier on the relationship but today it's became a massive turn off maybe because I feel like i've invested a lot of time and energy into her and if I'm going to be playing

this dumb relationship game or because she said 'She's always going to remember him'.

Ahhh grasshopper....The only thing that's changed is she just crossed over the threshold from the "new pussy" side to "old pussy side" of the equation.



The shit a guy will do, put up, endure, etc for strange / new ass declines in direct proportion to the number of times he's tapped it- PT's vagina obsolescence theorem

[dallasguy]

Either she's with you or she's not. Were you guys planning on getting married? If not then just keep fucking her until you're ready to move on. The fact that she doesn't want to remove it for you without you asking means she still holds her ex in higher regards than she sees you. That tells you how she feels about you. Act accordingly. Your options are

1. Apologize and keep fucking her until you find someone better. Don't invest any emotion or waste much effort on the relationship anymore

2. Next

[Mufasa]

(01-20-2017 06:06 PM)LeoneVolpe Wrote:  

Your brain gets confused and conflates the good feelings her sex gives you into meaning more than it actually does. Chances are, you don't really love her, or even like her as a person, you just like fucking her.

Don't forget to add "You like the way she likes you." Another one that tries to trick your ass