I wasn't sure where to post this, so forgive me if this should be in another post. I feel like I am in a pretty unique situation, but I am sure some of you out there could help me or relate to this..
If you had the "perfect girl" how far could you excuse weight?
My girlfriend is in love with me, and is pretty much done looking for the right person. She believes we are soul mates and is ready to spend the rest of her life with me.
She weighs in at almost 200 lbs and has the frame of a 135 lb girl. Ever notice how the actual weight number doesn't even matter as much as the type of frame it's hanging on? Her old pictures fill me with hope, she used to be hot, now she is just "cute".
How did I get in to this mess? She found me literally days after I signed my divorce papers. It was a year ago, I was 27 and thankfully the bitch got nothing. I had made a terrible mistake and was glad to get it over with. I had no fucked up emotional issues, however I was open to talking to any girl. If I saw her at a bar today, I would not approach.
During the past year I have discovered:
- I have developed very strong feelings for her
- Took her virginity
- Turned her in to an insatiable sex fiend
- Trained her exactly the way I want (sex/lifestyle/etc)
- She was raised with old school values (cook/clean)
- Supremely nurturing and would do anything for me
- Nothing about her is slutty, bitch, or feminist
- No smoking, drug or alcohol problems
- Doesn't want kids
- I have properly gamed her since the beginning
- We have a little problem bc my value is so much higher than hers
- Neither of us have STD/Health problems
This basically feels like she used game on ME. She used my weak emotional state to get her foot in the door. Then she wow'd me with her personality.
During some of the "Ever after" talks, I found the courage to tell her that there is no way I could marry/ltr someone who does not take care of their body. It was a rough conversation but she definitely got the point. She claims that this is something she wants to do for herself as well, but I know how hard it is.. I am now down over 30lbs of fat since my divorce and still dropping.
I log every thing I eat. I work out 2-3 times a week. I live in a college down with bomb ass pussy all around me.
Some of you older guys may relate to this, but I really feel my mortality approaching 29 this year. I am surrounded by hot bitches and my window is closing to bag them.
I am:
white/blonde/blue, 28, 237 lbs (goal weight is 220)
nice townhouse, take home almost $800 a week
own my own biz
dj 1-2 nights in college town(we are top 10 party school) $150-200
work out 2-3 times a week, god damn the hbs at the gym here is insane
She is:
70 lbs over weight
everything i am looking for in a long term person, aside from physical looks
the health thing is more important than the looks too, i dont want to marry someone who is going to have diabetes in 10 years.
i would move on, but i am genuinely concerned i will not find a girl that could be this perfect for me. i am afraid i would just plow through a sea of hot ass sluts and end up the other side alone w/ herp wishing i had someone to travel with.
i look forward to fielding all questions if i left anything out..
If you had the "perfect girl" how far could you excuse weight?
My girlfriend is in love with me, and is pretty much done looking for the right person. She believes we are soul mates and is ready to spend the rest of her life with me.
She weighs in at almost 200 lbs and has the frame of a 135 lb girl. Ever notice how the actual weight number doesn't even matter as much as the type of frame it's hanging on? Her old pictures fill me with hope, she used to be hot, now she is just "cute".
How did I get in to this mess? She found me literally days after I signed my divorce papers. It was a year ago, I was 27 and thankfully the bitch got nothing. I had made a terrible mistake and was glad to get it over with. I had no fucked up emotional issues, however I was open to talking to any girl. If I saw her at a bar today, I would not approach.
During the past year I have discovered:
- I have developed very strong feelings for her
- Took her virginity
- Turned her in to an insatiable sex fiend
- Trained her exactly the way I want (sex/lifestyle/etc)
- She was raised with old school values (cook/clean)
- Supremely nurturing and would do anything for me
- Nothing about her is slutty, bitch, or feminist
- No smoking, drug or alcohol problems
- Doesn't want kids
- I have properly gamed her since the beginning
- We have a little problem bc my value is so much higher than hers
- Neither of us have STD/Health problems
This basically feels like she used game on ME. She used my weak emotional state to get her foot in the door. Then she wow'd me with her personality.
During some of the "Ever after" talks, I found the courage to tell her that there is no way I could marry/ltr someone who does not take care of their body. It was a rough conversation but she definitely got the point. She claims that this is something she wants to do for herself as well, but I know how hard it is.. I am now down over 30lbs of fat since my divorce and still dropping.
I log every thing I eat. I work out 2-3 times a week. I live in a college down with bomb ass pussy all around me.
Some of you older guys may relate to this, but I really feel my mortality approaching 29 this year. I am surrounded by hot bitches and my window is closing to bag them.
I am:
white/blonde/blue, 28, 237 lbs (goal weight is 220)
nice townhouse, take home almost $800 a week
own my own biz
dj 1-2 nights in college town(we are top 10 party school) $150-200
work out 2-3 times a week, god damn the hbs at the gym here is insane
She is:
70 lbs over weight
everything i am looking for in a long term person, aside from physical looks
the health thing is more important than the looks too, i dont want to marry someone who is going to have diabetes in 10 years.
i would move on, but i am genuinely concerned i will not find a girl that could be this perfect for me. i am afraid i would just plow through a sea of hot ass sluts and end up the other side alone w/ herp wishing i had someone to travel with.
i look forward to fielding all questions if i left anything out..