[RoastBeefCurtains4Me]

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/16/scienc...rc=me&_r=2

An article in the NY Times talks about effortless action. In other words, they are talking about those cases where you need to be on to be on top of your game, and make it look effortless, but it is a high stress situation, like giving a speech, or approaching a girl.

The article has some interesting points about this skill as a general category, and I think it can provide some insights into becoming alpha and swooping girls.

Here's a quote from the article:

"But when you’re nervous, how can you be yourself? How you can force yourself to relax? How can you try not to try?

It makes no sense, but the paradox is essential to civilization, according to Edward Slingerland. He has developed, quite deliberately, a theory of spontaneity based on millenniums of Asian philosophy and decades of research by psychologists and neuroscientists.

He calls it the paradox of wu wei, the Chinese term for “effortless action.” Pronounced “ooo-way,” it has similarities to the concept of flow, that state of effortless performance sought by athletes, but it applies to a lot more than sports. Wu wei is integral to romance, religion, politics and commerce. It’s why some leaders have charisma and why business executives insist on a drunken dinner before sealing a deal."

[Wreckingball]

http://48laws-of-power.blogspot.pt/2011/...-seem.html

Law 30: Make Your Accomplishments Seem Effortless
Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work—it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.

[Dalaran1991]

(12-16-2014 04:53 PM)Wreckingball Wrote:  

http://48laws-of-power.blogspot.pt/2011/...-seem.html

Law 30: Make Your Accomplishments Seem Effortless
Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work—it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.

This is a rule I follow by the book. It gives an air of mystery and makes you look like a born natural.

I've been dancing salsa for a year but every time a girl was wowed by my skills I just told her I just got started in the most nonchalant way. It is a high form of DHV.

But this is not what the OP was about. It was about true effortless action under a high-pressure situation. I've had this happen to me many times and I can't put a finger on it. My heart would be racing when I'm about to approach a girl or take an important exam, then suddenly there's a switch in my brain that goes fuck it. Then I start spitting golden game as if I was Don Draper.

I would love to know if there's a way to systemize this process because it feels fucking awesome. It's like magic or, in girls' words "it just happens! I just sleep with him and I don't even know why!"