I personally know the bald white guy, he is what I'd call a superconnector, funny thing is no one knows him outside of the "high end" realm but he is the cause of majority of "high end" nightlife in both NY and Vegas. (And also highly connected from miami to st tropez) That's his ex-gf, I've seen him after the club chatting chicks and he has that "vibe" many will say situational confidence but IMO he is the perfect example of a "mover shaker".
Like others said #1 thing is ACCESS...
My fav venue I used to frequent, they thought I was a model scout so I would roll in solo ANY NIGHT. It was so easy that one time I walked out the bathroom seen a hot russian, put my hand out and we end up walking arm and arm to a table where we ended up hanging out. I also used to just roll solo because I knew 100% I'd meet some mixed group who would invite me to their table. These sort of "private" clubs is so cliquish that by definition of being their you are "one of us" and so competent social skills will get you very far. (In a drunk text, I noticed me telling the chick to go to bar using some guys tab because we were all hanging out...average bar tab at this venue is $500 so I can only imagine what was racked up) Sadly my dumbass drunken self caused me to get banned which severely hurt my social life since that place has the most models in 1 place.
The
2nd thing almost everyone overlooks is that it comes down to...
YOUR INNER GAME
I had the biggest shift when I realized I was around so many hot chicks that they were all "more or less" hot. That mixed with the fact that my own personal social circle that I built through cold approach consisted of ONLY model types. At this peak, 1 modeling agency I practically knew 12-15 girls who were either new faces or contracted.
I noticed most guys treat hotties even more differently than average chicks which is what causes guys who are generally good with women to "sike" themselves out. My interactions with women became more "tough love" as I realized alot of things I don't tolerate and/or I call chicks out on their shit...For instance, 1 chick I liked alot (6ft russian) she was awesome when I 1st met her (1 night she madeout with bald guy in OP picture business partner) and then all of a sudden got really bitchy in a way that I dislike. I told her straight up...
"You're not the girl I used to like...You've changed"
INSTANTLY, she turned back to the girl I loved, she'd straddle me as her way of greeting, lick my face, etc. However, I still never really transitioned back to actually wanting to fool around.
My style of interaction is either very social (if I'm not actively seeking out any chicks) or "tough love" where I'm so attracted that I refuse to just "let her win me over" just off how attracted I am. As a result the more attracted I am the more challenging/testy and skeptical I am.
quick example of some "light" boundary setting....
3rd factor,
do you even live life? And have fun?
Most people think they need to be "in her world" when it's actually about YOUR WORLD as the chick will easily calibrate and view you as an "escape" from her normal life. This is the ONLY REASON why the gorgeous chicks who rarely go out liked me. (However, I tend to screen them out because I still love partying alot!!)
These chicks are bored, how many times are they gonna hang on a yacht just tanning only to put on all this makeup to sit at a table fake dancing to mainstream music...o look a celeb...ok time to go home...no sex for her, sleep times. (6ft russian chick I once heard telling another girl "she forgot to masturbate" and how she hasn't had sex in 7 months!!!!)
Reason I always say "lifestyle over pickup" is because if your inner game is on point simply being social and giving opportunities for sexual experiences is sufficient enough to do alot because THAT CHICK isn't the center piece of your life nor a highlight, it's just "background noise".
This is what ultimately caused my inner game to grow because I knew...
- No matter what my life goes on
- women will come and go but my "lifestyle" sticks with me
- Learning/Understanding myself is more important than me seeking rapport with some random chick just because she's hot
- This will never be the last girl I meet or hookup with
There are tons more but it's essentially what causes me to interact with people in a chill manner. My issue now though is I get so drunk and also became a massive flake.
Some footage from Fall 2012... (Which I considered the peak although Spring 2013 I had a massive shift again) I must say I REALLY want to get my life on track and do it up again by far the best time of my life.
P.S...Although south of france is expensive and I'd have to "life hack" it through my connections. I know that is quite possibly my most easiest environment to socialize/interact (along with festivals since I really go hard) My worst would be crowds, if i'm in a club like those ibiza mega clubs or a dive bar I will "shutdown" since I hate getting bumped around or packed like a sardine.
P.S.S...A 4th factor would be "knowing connectors" as I specifically remember 2 months into building my lifestyle a guy invited me out to pre-game on a monday and before I could greet him I couldn't help but meet this tall girl (one on left) which we instantly hit it off and exchanged numbers. SADLY, I was still in a PUA mindset and over-communicated this chick rarely went out due to actually being contracted. Most of the VS models I know who dated a guy were all "connector" types who lived a certain lifestyle. (The brazilian VS models are part of a social circle I used to hang with in 2012)