If a moderator would be kind enough to put the title in caps (as I forgot to do earlier) without giving me warn, that would be fantastic. I do not want to be banned from this forum. I have been warned in the past for writing titles in all lowercase.
Many on the forum here (shoutout to 2wycked) have brooded on the concept of narcissism. I have too. Narcissists feel a deep void in the soul. They must constantly seek supply. Attention. Like vampires, they move from source to source, draining those of their essence to treat a wound that can not easily be healed.
There is a cure for narcissism. It is love. Whether it is God's love, or love of the self from within, or correctly and courageously applying Gorilla Mindset (action!), love can cure narcissism.
A man's relationship with his father is like his relationship with God. Often stormy, sometimes warm, sometimes neglectful and distant, this impression as a child shapes a man through his entire life.
I do not judge. I never did.
A friend of mine constantly jokes, forcing laughter, as his is narcissistic wont. I accept him as he is, and told him as such in a loving and private manner (nohomo), and the shield broke. I explained that I greatly appreciated all the work-related skills he taught me, as he is very clever and observant (most narcissists are), gave much thanks, a few mementos, and a hug. When at work, I made certain to be his absolute best underling, learning the machinery to the point that we did not even need to speak to work at a feverish pace. We enjoyed many a friendly cigarette break talking about cars. Kind words, gifts, acts of service, touch, quality time. Learn the love languages.
While he still courts attention on a frequent basis, as is his character, it is not with the fear and desperation I saw in him in years past. Everyone is a little different.
Learn to speak and understand all the love languages, and do it without fear, hesitation, shame, doubt, or feelings of worthlessness, and you too will leave your eternal mark upon the world. You too can become a footsoldier of Christ as I strive to be on a daily basis in my own bold, public, and sometimes frankly terrible manner. I am utterly ruthless to the core when dealing with bastards. Sometimes I kill them with kindness, which terrifies them even more.
Edit: So you don't want to read the book. Not a huge deal. I recommend it, since the biggest rule in the book is
persistence. A change in behavior once or twice will be seen as manipulation. A consistent and powerful change will be seen as unconditional love of a powerful degree.
Edit: Veloce - granted there is a lot of Western style programming that is difficult and frankly shitty to undo, but my frame is strong enough to make the cuntiest 10 swoon if I return fire with fire. This is often why I roll with a hot babe who likes girls. I treat other hot chicks like shit and they start qualifying about how they like to cook and clean, as I state my Old Testament patriarchal opinions frankly and without fear to everybody, especially women.