[ddjembe mutombo]

I am a man that has always found something that needed work. I am never good enough to sit at home and just mindlessly watch television shows. However, over the past decade I have moved around enough to escape the negative fruits of constant improvement: alienation.

The vast majority of adults are driven by improving only their financial status. After a long day in the office park it is their time to escape into their favorite television shows. The weekend brings nothing different except for more time to do activities of marginal value. When was the last time you actually met someone that was legitimately good at something or wise beyond their age?

This is especially true with relationships with women. Men who are undergoing constant improvement will watch their partner wilt away in front of a plethora of electronic screens.

While we are never destined to become hermits, we are social nomads. We will continue to outgrow relationships and move onto new ones.

[monster]

...and thus spoke Zarathustra

[Glaucon]

If everyone is stuck in the mud and you are the only one who got out, you get the hell out there, you do not go in again....

[malakaix]

(11-07-2014 09:42 PM)ddjembe mutombo Wrote:  

We will continue to outgrow relationships and move onto new ones.

I could not agree more with this statement, i think for many people they become comfortable with the same social group over time.. perhaps some never completely moved on from their high-school group or others stick to there work social circles. For some they may be torn between wanting to go in a completely different direction in life that benefits them but feel trapped by the guilt of leaving their sedentary friends behind.

In my experience, friendships and relationships form because of a shared interest that is mutually beneficial.. once this is no longer the case it is pointless to maintain it because you are now at two different points in life, where they may be stuck and have no desire to change you are moving forward and in a different direction.. learning to detach allows you to do what you want.

I have built up entire social circles only to abandon them and go in a different direction.. for the individual focused on constant self-improvement it can be a lonely path to walk, but your also always open to meeting new people on your level.. and you avoid been stuck in a cyclic grind of escapism.

[The Beast1]

The trick is finding a partner who is as into self improvement in all areas as you are.

Shaming techniques work as do openly commenting on other women. Dread game works wonders.

Those types of girls exist. They're hard to find though.

[Tactician]

(11-07-2014 09:48 PM)monster Wrote:  

...and thus spoke Zarathustra

"Men shall be trained for war, and women for the recreation of the warrior."