[Aenema]

I'm sure there are already a ton of these threads so forgive me but I'm requesting advice in a slightly different, less professional scenario. I believe that many other threads forewarning of the repercussions associated with gaming in the workplace are within the context of professional jobs and careers. This is something to save up some money until I go back to school.. I've done this on and off for years now.. have gamed girls from such jobs twice but the circumstances were vastly different.

It's a job at a stadium doing some minor maintenance and retail work. A girl who works there is very cute and introduced herself to me, however other coworkers say she is "having a thing" with one of the guys she works with at the ticket booth. I didn't know if having a thing meant fucked once or practically dating and I didn't want to further inquire about her obviously. She gave me the eyes for the past three days and says hi, we have small talk.. she gives me those fuck me doll eyes, kind of, however I suppose I'm not 100% sure and don't want to jump into something, get shot down, and have the entire job know about it. It's not a matter of losing my job or anything.. just an issue of embarrassment and lowering my value to any other cute coworkers.
For what it's worth, the boyfriend in question is a lanky teenager, I guess his face is decent but he doesn't have much style, edge and still going through late stages of puberty.. he's VERY different from her. She looks older than him by years(although i believe she is only 20 herself) and her body and demeanor is very mature. She's tall and very pretty. They act like friends from what I've observed.
So I guess I just want to know what you guys would do here, if anything at all. I'm feeling a bit nervous about this girl which is unusual for me and I really need tips on how to do this without angering the supposed boyfriend(preferably under his nose all together). Does anyone have any good pointers on how to figure out if they actually are together and if she's the type who will cheat?
Thanks

[edtf]

Ask her out for drinks, if she accepts then game on.

If she says no then move on

[Aenema]

(11-05-2014 11:29 PM)edtf Wrote:  

Ask her out for drinks, if she accepts then game on.

If she says no then move on

She's 20

[Sketness]

In my opinion i personally dont fuck with girls at work. I think that one should never fuck with his money. And trying to fuck a girl at work IS fucking with your money.

-Say she's not down, then there is that weird vibe throughout the work place between you and her and the other co-workers

- Say she is down, ya'll fuck, sweet , now she gets crazy and possessive and fucks up your work environment.

-Say you fuck her, but meet another bitch, the work bitch will fuck up work for you as well.

The point is, work already sucks why complicate it furthermore.

But then again do what you want, its none of my business.

[Menace]

Don't. Wanting to game coworkers is a sign of scarcity mindset. People want to do it because the "approach" is already taken care of, and it's easy to talk to them. Resist this easy path.

[WestIndianArchie]

(11-05-2014 11:52 PM)Aenema Wrote:  

(11-05-2014 11:29 PM)edtf Wrote:  

Ask her out for drinks, if she accepts then game on.

If she says no then move on

She's 20

Don't take her to a bar...or are you worried about catching a charge?

WIA

[JoyStick]

so you know this is a dupe thread, but you made a new thread anyways because your situation about a specific girl is slightly different (to you) so the forum rules shouldn't apply to you.

[JoyStick]

I found a thread for you with pretty much the same situation -- hitting on a girl at a temporary job. It took me two whole minutes.


http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-7484.html

[Adrenaline]

Coworkers are a very risky game to play. I don't go there.

[WestIndianArchie]

If it's a job that you can afford to lose, then game on.

The real issue here is that you're hesitating because she has a boyfriend. A dude you can see. You empathize with the guy. Maybe you've been that guy. There's a kinsman, maybe a little brother. You see no need to hurt that guy.

At the same time this chick is basically putting it on a platter for you.

Bro' before ho's?
Ho's before bro's?

But this a "red pill" moment.

All women are red pill.

All women will do whatever they need to do, will justify anything, in order to get what they want. Being the physically weaker sex, all women have learned how to get other people to do what they want them to do, especially men.

"Can you open this jar"
"Can you reach that thing on the shelf"
"Can you help me with this Ikea furniture" (as she walks off into another room)

It's not just the West. It has nothing to do with feminism. This is basically a biological reality and a behavioral adaptation to said reality. The West amplifies "help" with government and market apparatus, but that sweet as pie chick from Gdansk routinely manipulates the men in her life to get what she wants. There's a larger lesson about the necessity of patriarchy, but this ain't that kinda post.

In this case, this girl wants you, and is willing to take your dick if you set up a situation that allows her to do so with little repercussion.

Back in the day, this was called the "secret society". Essentially, a handful of men who understood women's sexuality. Their willingness to engage in all manner of behavior in service to their vaginas. Her gay friend? She sucks his dick. Her beta boyfriend is raising the child of her Alpha paramour.

She may (currently) pine for your cock, but she's got a dozen orbiters that she calls when she needs furniture moved, a mouse killed, a computer fixed, a transmission replaced.

You should feel no sympathy for this girl. And the boyfriend, it's a bitter pill to swallow. But if not you, the next guy will fuck her.

As long as you have nothing to lose, just talk to her outside of the work context.

If she brings up the boyfriend while the two of your are alone, 50% chance she'll bad mouth him while giving you a blowie.

It is what it is.

These Hoes Ain't Loyal

Not to her boyfriend
Not to you
Not to her girlfriends
Not to her family
Not even to her long term interests.

She's only loyal to the here and now.

It's one of the reasons why game works.

Once you start brushing aside all the window dressing of this game system and that game system, you'll see people for the essentially animalistic behavior. Patriarchy, Classism, Racism, Religion, Economics - a lot of shit will start to make sense.

WIA

[Rawmeo]

Forget workplace game. You'll only get an ankward vibe going on there.

[UroboricForms]

I'd be very careful, and probably not try. There's a girl at my work who I absolutely want to bang. The whole department blatantly does too. But seeing as I work in, yes, gaming, you can tell that might not be the best idea!

[seabridge]

Fucking a coworker?? Doesnt it happen all the time??? Maybe i watch to much porn...

[bojangles]

(11-06-2014 07:55 AM)UroboricForms Wrote:  

I'd be very careful, and probably not try. There's a girl at my work who I absolutely want to bang. The whole department blatantly does too. But seeing as I work in, yes, gaming, you can tell that might not be the best idea!

any jobs going? I don't mind rolling up for a week and banging her out adn fucking off.

[Millz]

I've banged two chicks I work with and it's fine..
There's a little jealousy here and there but it's a minor.
Both know I have a gf as well LMFAO

[AneroidOcean]

(11-05-2014 11:19 PM)Aenema Wrote:  

Does anyone have any good pointers on how to figure out if they actually are together and if she's the type who will cheat?

Seems to me that it's a simple "yeah, go for it" type of situation. She's giving you the fuck me eyes, you need to go fuck her. You'll find out rather quickly where the other guy stands (usually in some other area of the stadium while you bend her over and rail the shit out of her).

I would recommend trying to get her to someplace outside of the stadium, though. Personally I'd rail her in the stadium where there's no cameras just for her to always remember that every time she's at her work.

Job is replaceable and it's not uncommon in these kinds of jobs that people hook up. Just keep your mouth shut and if she doesn't keep hers shut, who cares?

[Griprip08]

(11-06-2014 01:51 PM)Millz Wrote:  

I've banged two chicks I work with and it's fine..
There's a little jealousy here and there but it's a minor.
Both know I have a gf as well LMFAO

I'm curious which industry you work in....actually I can probably already guess.

Regardless, I think the main point here is being missed.

If you don't care about the job, then try to fuck her.

If you care about the job, and plan on coming back, and not having it a risky balancing act, don't fuck her.

When it comes to the actual repercussions, I believe this is only going to apply to actual careers, which imply that you will be doing this for a while, and if you're damn good at it, people will know you.

That being said, I would want my reputation in the industry to be more along the lines of "He's damn fucking good at his job" rather than "He's damn good at fucking up at his job"

One of them is a CLM/RGE (Career Limiting Move / Resume' Generating Event). I think you know the answer as to which it is.

I am speaking to you from experience by the way. I work in corporate IT, for one of the biggest, and most likely best (in terms of product quality) companies in the world. I'm damn good at my job, but I already fucked up and hooked up with some new girl on the team. Luckily enough, 3 others also hooked up with her afterwards, so I am in the clear now, she's their problem. However the couple of weeks after the hookup, as I blatantly went about my business, the incessant nagging of "Why don't you acknowledge me at work" and "why can't you say hi and talk for a bit" got to the point where I seriously thought of reporting her to HR (I know, huge pussy move, but my job is more important than some Hoe. Plus, if you're not ahead, you're behind.)

Good luck, and Godspeed. By the way, I say this alot, but thought I'd drop it here, half of the world's population is female, pick out the hot ones, and start making moves. Plus, tease her now, when either of you no longer work there, the bang will be easy.

[CameraXL]

I'd like to reanimate this thread, since I'm confused about a specific situation at work.

First of all: I'm no friend of gaming girls at work (although my job offers great talent). Tried twice, got burned twice. There is a german saying "Aller guten Dinge sind drei." - All good things come in threes.


But I'm confused and I would appreciate some input from you players out there.


About me:
41, 6'4, 200 lbs, good shape, lifting, media-job, southern Germany.

Here's the problem:
Half a year ago, I was moved to another department where I met this girl.
We're producing a show together. She's the host, 25 yrs old, slim but feminine, very tall maybe 5'9, dressed sexy. In an LTR, they live together. I'd rate her 8-9.

Since we started working on this project, I kept it strictly business. I'm a pro and skilled at my job, the show is a success.

After a month in the new department, she asks me whether I'd like to have coffee after work. I say "no problem." I think: "We're coworkers." And I keep it business.

As time goes by, I start to realize that whenever we speak, we lock eyes a little bit too easily. She's very open, we click and laugh a lot. And she is touchy, comes very close, even grabs me, touches my face. likes to hug me when we say hi/goodbye. Not the usual procedure at my company, but its ok. There are a few couples everybody knows about. Even marriages. Media is a damn incest-branch

I often get the impression, that she waits until I'm finished with work,
so we can walk to the station together.

Two months ago, I was out of town for another project. The last day before I left, she joined me for lunch-break. Somehow I mentioned that I'm single.
She acted surprised, she obviously thought I was in an LTR (I never told anything about it).

I never called her after work, never messaged her out of the blue.
But we chat on messenger about work related things, especially before/after our show is aired.

A few days ago, we chat about the project. All of a sudden, she tells me that she'd like to invite me for dinner. As a compensation for her "bad mood." (I don't remember, but ok)

I agree, propose a weekday. She obviously made plans, asks for Saturday.
But I've already a date with another girl, so next week.

Now I'm confused.

Thing is, she is very hot. I actually never dated a girl that beautiful.
High-quality package. But do we really have a date?

Great opportunity vs don't-fuck-girls-at-work?

I like my job and I don't want to risk it for a girl.
But if there is a chance, I'd love to bang her.

What would you do?

Do you think I'm overanalyzing/over-interpretating her behaviour?

Did some of you experience something similar?

Thank you!

[Irenicus]

I would pass, and friend zone with extreme prejudice, until you go work somewhere else.

Why I am saying this?

Let's suppose you two start dating (not to mention keep working in the same environment). Everything is nice, blah blah blah... .And, then, you break up. People whose egos are hurt, or who have regrets are very irrational in most cases. Especially woman. In the best case scenario, she and her friends will make your work a living hell. In the worst case scenario...you will have a fake rape accusation coming your way.

I'll emphasize again...stay clear of that pussy.

I am in a somewhat similar situation like that, therefore I am quite well aware about what I am talking about.

One of the gyms I attend (in a small city) is owned by a quite good looking girl (who is about to hit the Wall, being 28/29). When I went there for the first time lie a year ago, she was abut to get married. One year later...she didn't have a child, her ring is gone, and she sometimes seems to be...desperate. So I guess she either got divorced, or something. Since she still has a good body (and by God...money), she would make a great fuck buddy. But...if we make out, and eventually break up (I am not marrying +25 women, not to mention having kids with those), I might be refused entry (again, she is the owner). And since this is the only gym in town...I better friend zone her.

So again...stay clear from her. There are millions of women looking for someone. Be that someone. Oneitis is bad for your health, and for your job/wallet, in your case!

[XPQ22]

I think there's only one right answer to the perpetual "What should I do about this particular girl at work?!" questions.

Q: "What should I do about this cutie at work? She did this and this and..."

A: "Use the search feature and read the threads. And then it's up to you."

Then if the poster in question returns asking "So I was banging this chick at work, and shit jumped up! Now there's all this drama and I don't know how to handle it and I might lose my job and..."

It's up to the mods. No you're not special, no this situation isn't "different" than any other.

OP says he's already been burned twice doing it, so honestly the only thing one can conclude is that there's some kind of drama-addiction going on.

[CameraXL]

Thank you for your replies. Maybe you're right and I'm somehow drama-addicted.

But please don't get me wrong: I'm not notoriously hitting at coworkers. I'm at this job for 15 years now (in different companies), so I think asking out two co-workers in total, in such a period of time, is quite moderate. I was just wondering because this girl seems so eager to go out with me.

I appreciate your feedback. A close friend of mine just gave me the same advice. I should listen!

[XPQ22]

(09-10-2016 11:23 AM)CameraXL Wrote:  

Thank you for your replies. Maybe you're right and I'm somehow drama-addicted.

But please don't get me wrong: I'm not notoriously hitting at coworkers. I'm at this job for 15 years now (in different companies), so I think asking out two co-workers in total, in such a period of time, is quite moderate. I was just wondering because this girl seems so eager to go out with me.

I appreciate your feedback. A close friend of mine just gave me the same advice. I should listen!

I think part of it may be the age difference; we older guys can get spellbound by the prospect of getting some newbie action.

For my part I've tried to move past that. Youngest I've ever gone was 26, and if a girl has kept herself in shape and lived well since her teens I honestly couldn't care if she's 26 or 20. I find it very difficult to deal with women in their early 20s. They're like fuckin' children, to me it feels like trying to go on a date with an 8 year old. Perhaps the disconnect isn't as bad in Europe, but it's a huge gulf here in the States.

If you accept that your primary demographic is mid to late 20s, I think a whole world will open up. Go and bang a 28 year old with a nice body you met somewhere else and you won't give this 20 y/o at work a second thought.

[Gmac]

(11-06-2014 02:58 AM)Menace Wrote:  

Don't. Wanting to game coworkers is a sign of scarcity mindset. People want to do it because the "approach" is already taken care of, and it's easy to talk to them. Resist this easy path.

Disagree and have done it. Just be on the sly.

[CameraXL]

I think I misinterpretated her behaviour.

We had a nice dinner, conversation was almost exclusively about work-related things.

No sexual tension nor flirting. She told me some valuable gossip/rumors about other co-workers, so there actually was some value.

And she paid.

[jcrew247]

(09-14-2016 03:26 PM)CameraXL Wrote:  

I think I misinterpretated her behaviour.

We had a nice dinner, conversation was almost exclusively about work-related things.

No sexual tension nor flirting. She told me some valuable gossip/rumors about other co-workers, so there actually was some value.

And she paid.

You know what the safest strategy is - It is playing the gay-BFF angle. I'm just your asexual work-friend but we can chat and gossip about our personal lives. Find out if she is single and if she is, find out if she is trying to meet guys. Some girls want to focus on work and climbing the corporate ladder - so they don't date and keep it platonic.

But you play the gay-BFF angle and listen to her complain about her ex-boyfriend. Soon enough, you can ask her if she wants your advice and help in meeting guys. This is a deniable-work harassment because you are only acting as a "work friend" and not a "sexual predator."

Also, play the jealousy card, and talk to her about your ex-girlfriends and dating new women - and see if she gets jealous or tries to help you. Eventually, she could decide she wants you as a husband/boyfriend and you both can get married or just hookup.