Quote: (04-17-2015 06:00 PM)The_Wonder Wrote:
It's funny (or I guess not) how being in the right frame of mind can seriously skew results. The other day I was super relaxed sitting next to these two girls, they actually opened me but I had their full attention for like 15 minutes and felt good after the interaction.
Today I had spent the whole afternoon programming by the end I was hungry, tired and just felt anti-social and as a result my interactions were piss poor.
In Bang RV says that he is "always on" but I just cannot see how I can be on after 5 hours of pure mental draining. Does anyone else have similar problems?!
Your problem is somewhat specific.
You spend most of your day doing somewhat brainy work that is best done without interruption and social interaction.
You probably despise emails and group meetings - anything that breaks you away from your task.
A lot of cubicle drones (myself included) face the same problem.
I can get into my work, throw on some ear plugs to drown out ambient noise, or typically some earbuds with some good music - but if I can avoid unnecessary human interaction I will.
At the end of the day, I'm mentally exhausted and even if I haven't talked to people, I'm irritable to the entire idea.
What typically works for me
- I change my environment.
- I spend some time unwinding. Some vegging out.
That'll bring me back to zero.
If I know I'm going to go out that night/that day
- go through the ritual
- shower, cologne, fresh clothes
- eat something
- throw on some good music
If that's not possible - not enough time, I pull something up on the iPod and rap along for a verse or two.
So the general answer to your problem is you need to decompress, and then use some sort of neutral outside stimulus to bring you back into the world of the social.
If you always want to be "on", you probably need to change jobs, or change roles at your current company.
Game at the highest level is entirely internalized. Even when you're not in a good mood, you know what to say and you say it. Sometimes getting that first smile/laugh is enough to reset your meter.
WIA