I'm making myself head out with some routine now - most Friday nights to a club about 15 minutes away from my place.
It's taking time, but I'm gradually learning that it's impossible to have a roadmap for entire conversations.
That being said, I've been developing retorts for certain questions/shit-tests e.g. "Where are you from?" "Why do you ask? Are you planning on coming back with me later? [wink]"
For most of the available clubs, it's difficult to engage inside as the music's loud and hard to start a conversation. Damn near have to shout everything. Not conducive.
So it's easiest to do outside. And all it takes is asking if they have a light.
But here's where 1 of my problems emerge.
They show interest (it's not difficult as I dress with arguably some of the best style in the club) then the conversation proceeds with a few flirts and all the rest.
But then they.....float away. It's difficult to describe, but it's like they kind of meander back inside or to another group.
I know that I can't chase and I can't give any fucks, so what do I do? Shrug my shoulders and head back in?
One more question.
When I'm dancing, I sometimes find there's women orbiting me.
You know the ones - groups of 3-7 a couple of feet away and some of them glance at me before talking at each other.
Other times they'll circle dance and bring me into the fold.
It's obvious that they're fishing for attention, so what's the best way to respond?
I don't know what would be the best way as it's nothing that couldn't happen to any other guy who's dancing.
It's taking time, but I'm gradually learning that it's impossible to have a roadmap for entire conversations.
That being said, I've been developing retorts for certain questions/shit-tests e.g. "Where are you from?" "Why do you ask? Are you planning on coming back with me later? [wink]"
For most of the available clubs, it's difficult to engage inside as the music's loud and hard to start a conversation. Damn near have to shout everything. Not conducive.
So it's easiest to do outside. And all it takes is asking if they have a light.
But here's where 1 of my problems emerge.
They show interest (it's not difficult as I dress with arguably some of the best style in the club) then the conversation proceeds with a few flirts and all the rest.
But then they.....float away. It's difficult to describe, but it's like they kind of meander back inside or to another group.
I know that I can't chase and I can't give any fucks, so what do I do? Shrug my shoulders and head back in?
One more question.
When I'm dancing, I sometimes find there's women orbiting me.
You know the ones - groups of 3-7 a couple of feet away and some of them glance at me before talking at each other.
Other times they'll circle dance and bring me into the fold.
It's obvious that they're fishing for attention, so what's the best way to respond?
I don't know what would be the best way as it's nothing that couldn't happen to any other guy who's dancing.