[Sonsowey]

http://hr.umich.edu/stopabuse/resources/...tions.html

In what seems like a strange joke, the University of Michigan has published a website defining "sexual violence" as:
"...discounting the partner's feelings regarding sex; criticizing the partner sexually... withholding sex and affection."

Apparently, American women in sexless marriages around the country are guilty of sexual violence. And criticism of any man who has ever cum too fast is basically rape.

In a perhaps crazier definition of "economic abuse":

"Examples of economic abuse include: requiring partner to account for every penny of household or other funds; withholding money from partner; putting partner on an impossible "budget;" denying partner access to any checking account or credit cards; taking partner's paycheck and controlling access to it; denying necessities of life to partner and children; having own checking and savings account unknown to partner."

[Thomas the Rhymer]

I thought it was a joke until I clicked the link.

[lskdfjldsf]

"...discounting the partner's feelings regarding sex; criticizing the partner sexually... withholding sex and affection."

So if my girl is on her period and doesn't feel like having sex, I'm classified as a "survivor"?

[Foolsgo1d]

So if some size queen calls my dick Mr Smalls I get compensation?

[Dr. Howard]

This is what happens when you get a bunch of vapid women with HR degrees in a room writing policy.

[Days of Broken Arrows]

A few points:

1). This is classified under "sexual violence" as opposed to "sexual assault." This is significant. While we were lamenting the expanded definition of rape, the expanded definition of violence snuck up on us.

2). The more things they can classify as violent, the easier it will be to get men arrested and the more it will benefit the for-profit prison system. Why now? Because violent crime has fallen sharply since the 1990s and the prison business owners need more "customers."

3). This definition includes the following lines: "withholding sex and affection; always demanding sex..." Basically what that means is if you live with a woman, you'll have sex with her on her terms and her terms only. When she's not in the mood, stay away. But if she is in the mood, you'd better get in the mood.

4). The animosity directed at the (innocent) Duke lacrosse players accused of rape is now being aimed at the average man. Most average men cannot afford the high-priced attorneys the Duke kids got to exonerate themselves. Something to think about.

Here is the full excerpt of the "sexual violence" segment of these rules. And keep in mind 90 percent of this stuff doesn't even fit the classic definition of the word "violence," so they've basically altered a definition.

Sexual violence
Examples of sexual violence include: discounting the partner's feelings regarding sex; criticizing the partner sexually; touching the partner sexually in inappropriate and uncomfortable ways; withholding sex and affection; always demanding sex; forcing partner to strip as a form of humiliation (maybe in front of children), to witness sexual acts, to participate in uncomfortable sex or sex after an episode of violence, to have sex with other people; and using objects and/or weapons to hurt during sex or threats to back up demands for sex.

[lskdfjldsf]

The level at which this kind of moral bureaucracy is skewed against "normal" people is beyond words. I had a gay roommate my first year living in a dorm, and he would continuously walk around naked, leave unopened condoms on my keyboard (?) and send me texts with "hey, I'm bored, want a BJ?". Not to mention the giant jet black dildo he often left in full display.

It took THREE of these text messages (claims that can be independently verified) for campus housing to do something about it. The first time I showed up and complained, I was told "part of maturing as an adult and gaining an education is learning to accept diversity" and was offered courses and training seminars through the university.

Yet at the same time all this shit is going on, if a guy even looks at a girl the wrong way, let alone says something or acts in a way the girl, and only the girl, deems inappropriate, she's a "survivor" and "victim" on paper and the guy is a "violent offender" walking around with a giant fucking scarlet A on his forehead.

This language is going to wreck many, many lives.

[heavy]

Define "Partner"

Solution: Don't have any partners.

[Foolsgo1d]

(09-29-2014 10:47 AM)heavy Wrote:  

Define "Partner"

Solution: Don't have any partners.

This covers sexual partners and marriage/girlfriends. So quite simply; everybody who is fucking.

[Truth Teller]

So if she withholds sex, it's sexual violence?

I wonder how many people are going to prosecuted under this carefully considered and very well thought out policy.

[runsonmagic]

The parody has now become the reality:

http://thoughtcatalog.com/anne-gus/2014/...x-is-rape/

Quote:

When He Says “No”: Denying A Woman Sex Is Rape

...

You can’t possibly understand how hard it was. Here I was, wanting to have sex, and the guy I wanted to have sex with was denying me what I wanted. It was so bizarre, I’d never experienced anything like it. I couldn’t believe it, I had shown such courage by taking sexual initiative only to be turned down? DISEMPOWERING!! Denying me sex was his way of trying to regain patriarchal power over me, he was no doubt intimidated by a strong woman like myself, saying no was a desperate attempt to try to show that he was the boss. That’s as much a Patriarchal power move as rape—in fact, it is rape. Denying a woman sexual fulfillment is rape. He didn’t force me to have sex with him, but he forced me not to have sex with him when I really wanted to—this is obviously just as bad.

NO MEANS NO UNLESS YOU’RE A MAN; THEN YOU ARE DISEMPOWERING ME WHEN I WANT SEX.

[babelfish669]

In other news California now is requiring publicly funded universities to require students to provide affirmative consent before having sex:
http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2014-09-29...e-sex.html

It is fascinating the contrast with the sexual revolution of the 1960s & 70s. Decades later sex is now an act which must be covered by verbal or written contracts every time it occurs. Sexual liberation? Sexual fascism.

[HawkWrites]

It's really depressing to see "violence" so watered-down as to be used to describe hurt feelings for some of those. This kind of crap is going to be the reason "violence" gets used as a term as frequently as "rape" to talk about everything. Now both are just two more things that have lost all meaning.

[Sonsowey]

We are all Survivors.

One time I didn't want to have sex.

My girlfriend at the time was upset. She turned her back to me in bed.

It took a lot of Courage to share this, but I know that among a strong and empowered community of Survivors, I would find the Support and Compassion I Need to continue Surviving.

[runsonmagic]

(09-29-2014 12:47 PM)Sonsowey Wrote:  

We are all Survivors.

One time I didn't want to have sex.

My girlfriend at the time was upset. She turned her back to me in bed.

It took a lot of Courage to share this, but I know that among a strong and empowered community of Survivors, I would find the Support and Compassion I Need to continue Surviving.

[Texas_Tryhard]

"Have sex with other people"

It's now "violent" to have sex with more than one person.

[Brodiaga]

I thought the only way to completely avoid rape and sexual violence charges was to abstain from sex, but now even that won't help. It's like, fucked if you do, fucked if you don't.