[TrueSlyr]

Met girl for a drink. Brought her back to my place (no sex but there was a lot of kissing escalation.)

Definitely want to bang her next time I see her, but also want to spend time with her too. I'm thinking dinner, but thats definitely wont help my chances in getting laid... (women feeling bloated, self conscience after eating a big meal, etc.)

I also don't want to just invite her over because that would signal I just want to fuck.


Thoughts?

[LouEvilSlugger]

Invite her over for a homemade dinner, tell her to bring wine.

If you absolutely want to go out and live in a decent-sized city: art gallery.

[TrueSlyr]

I'm in NYC haha.

[Teddykgb]

Dinner and a movie at your place is my new go to one and having her bring wine is a good touch or something small.

I also have done indoor rock climbing a few times if I'm in the mood to rock climb but dinner and a movie is the safest bet to bang.

Just make sure you keep the meal light.

[AntiTrace]

Tell her to meet for a drink. Make it someplace close to your apartment.

Have one drink. Bounce to your place for another.

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[BadgerHut]

I second the dinner idea. Tell her to bring wine, or a dessert item. Odds are the dessert won't get eaten.

[TrueSlyr]

(09-27-2014 11:49 PM)AntiTrace Wrote:  

Tell her to meet for a drink. Make it someplace close to your apartment.

Have one drink. Bounce to your place for another.

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Thats exactly what I did the 1st date lol. This time I might suggest dinner close by, then she comes over

[AntiTrace]

(09-28-2014 10:38 AM)TrueSlyr Wrote:  

(09-27-2014 11:49 PM)AntiTrace Wrote:  

Tell her to meet for a drink. Make it someplace close to your apartment.

Have one drink. Bounce to your place for another.

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Thats exactly what I did the 1st date lol. This time I might suggest dinner close by, then she comes over

So you want to fix something that isn't broken?

1st date: Drinks, bounce to your place and "lots of kissing escalation"

so go with: 2nd date: Drinks, bounce to your place. Lots of kissing escalation. Lots of sexual escalation.


This is standard stuff. It's the crawl, walk, run process.

Crawl: Meet up and become comfortable.
Walk: Heavy makeout/petting
Run: Oral/Bang

You got from Crawl to Walk on date 1. I wouldn't break the process on date 2 unless she gives you signals that she wants to do something else.

[Brodiaga]

A little different scenario. What if the first date just ends with a kiss, maybe even a kiss on the cheek, but the girl still wants to meet up again? Anything different about this situation compared to a scenario when she's been to your place already but didn't have sex?

[AntiTrace]

(09-28-2014 10:56 AM)Brodiaga Wrote:  

A little different scenario. What if the first date just ends with a kiss, maybe even a kiss on the cheek, but the girl still wants to meet up again? Anything different about this situation compared to a scenario when she's been to your place already but didn't have sex?

you have to calibrate based on your perception of the girl (sluttiness) and your intentions for her in your life.

If she is giving signs of sluttiness and you are just going for the bang, then drinks and your place.

If she is a Black Unicorn (Albino doesn't make sense) and is possibly a good girl, I would change things up to a more traditional date.

If shes somewhere in the middle still go for drinks and your place, but you can throw a little something in there...like grabbing some appetizers and then getting drinks.

[MdWanderer]

I'd say get a place either close to yours or hers to prevent her slut radar from going off, then slowly gravitate it from the bar/restaurant to her place or yours. Grab a drink at the local bar then say "restaurant food is too expensive/unhealthy...i'd say we make something real fast then i'm going home/bed, early day tomorrow" then decide on your place or hers then go for the bang.

[blacknwhitespade]

What about action dates for 2nd dates? Like, inviting her out to a salsa dance club or going to a park/museum?

[WestIndianArchie]

(09-30-2014 11:32 AM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:  

What about action dates for 2nd dates? Like, inviting her out to a salsa dance club or going to a park/museum?

1) salsa dancing
- depends on the chick
- depends on the club
- depends on your skill

If you're a certified salsero, and the chick is not - do it.

but if a chick can dance
- she can often dance better than you
- salsa culture opens a chick up to dancing with someone other than you

2) Park/Museum
- good for talking
- possibly walking hand in hand, getting close

But it can be too romantic and not sexy enough. So when the date is not conducive to fucking, you have to make up the rest with game.

And to be clear, since the date/environment isn't helping you seal the deal, you have to be bolder with the escalation, and good with your verbal rap.

Rollercoasters, Scary movies, things that get the heart pumping -> faster sex.

drinks -> lower inhibitions -> faster sex

Dinner, Cinema, Play, Museum, Walk in the Park - > slow tempo, need to speed it up via chat and physical touch -> Too romantic and you could get slotted into Mr. Right category instead of Mr. Right NOW category.

You don't want to give her the butterflies, you want to give her the dick.

And giving her the butterflies after giving her the dick is the path to an LTR for a lot of chicks.

WIA

[BadgerHut]

I like to cop an intellectually sharp and calm dating vibe, so my "action dates" only extend to going minigolfing or bowling or something.

If you have a taste for rock climbing and she's athletic, going to an indoor rock gym can really get the tingles going - it's be psychologically demonstrated that high-adrenaline activity enhances sexual attraction.

But this is complicating things as others have said.

[BadgerHut]

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[El_gato]

Arrange for a mid level dinner date like tapas . The day of the date call her an invite her over for A drink at yours "before dinner" - this will help you gage her interest. You may not even have to go for dinner if things escalate over drinks - be sure to put on a good spread - wine and nibbles. This method has worked for me in the past - and I will be implementing it ago a on Friday barring any better advice from my "4th Date thread "