Crap.
I can't believe this entire thing has focused on the blue collar thing, but I'm not surprised, as it really WAS the last consideration that broke this relationship's back. The fact that readers keep going back to the class thing and I keep having to address it is what's making this sound very-unclassy. Come to think of it, I don't think I've read much on the Manosphere about class and the better things in life. I'll have to address that issue some day...
Cobra, thanks for your very logical and thought out views on this situation. For the record, I'm not freaking royalty, but I'm way closer to that extreme than the drug-pushing, ghetto gangbangers in the other extreme. And I know that her family is not closer to the ghetto gangbangers either, but from what I've heard and seen in pcitures, I come from a better background, so why take a step back in the inter-generational improvement of a family... of a bloodline?
I'm not disagreeing with you that there are things to be learned from rougher people...hell, the fighting thing is a perfect example. And even today, I've made plans to watch football and drink all day with my less refined buddies precisely because I want to let off some steam and curse and not be proper. So there... I do have friends in all walks of life.
All things being equal, however, it's preferable to expose oneself and our progeny to the better things in life. Because even within social strata there is a pecking order. And kids figure out this pecking order the physical, animalistic way when they're younger, only resorting to more civilized ways of resolving conflict when they're older.
I kind of expected the focus of this thread to be on the "class" thing because, again, it's not often brought up and those distinctions may seem silly nowadays, but my BIGGEST surprise is how users keep saying that I should've broken up with her in person (I did it over the phone, by the way, not the interwebz). By breaking up in person I'm opening myself to all sorts of potential problems:
1. If there is yelling and crying, neighbors call the cops, guess who goes to jail?
2. Women are extremely cunning, I know for a fact the ensuing waterworks would've led to a hug because we men are paternal in nature... and if I stood my ground and not tried to console her, she would've outright asked for a hug... her touch, smell, and the familiar embrace might've led to something else and look! back to where we started... in bed, with mutual promises to make things work.
3. A face-to-face break-up would've been a drawn-out affair... My phone conversation with her lasted 12 minutes and it kept going on various tangents that would've been worse in person and I would've been the bad guy no matter what... don't you guys read Vox?
http://alphagameplan.blogspot.com/2014/0...akups.html
I'm sure some of the keyboard jockeys on this site are familiar with the "Nuke it from orbit" meme...
Seriously, I'm pretty sure Sun Tzu or Robert Greene recommended that if you have to engage in conflict, better make it under your own terms and in your preferred ground... by doing this over the phone I took away the most powerful weapon in the female's arsenal... the ability to seduce as a last resort. In the movie "Munich", there's a part where one of the commando's discovers that one of the female members is a traitor, and once she realizes she's f*cked what does she do? She starts taking off her shirt to seduce her way into staying alive. (
I don't remember if she was a traitor or a spy, the thing is that it was an act of desperation)
That's what this girl, my now "ex-girlfriend" could have resorted to. And that's what I successfully avoided.