I want to tell you a story about this young virgin girl: Mary (her real name BTW). Mary is a great girl in just about every way except sexually. Since she was inexperienced I figured she just need some training. With some training she would become this great lover and I would then have my perfect girl. So I set about training Mary. It was a lot of work but I was looking forward to the reward and indeed Mary got better. She also improved in a lot of other ways too. But Mary never became that passionate sexual creature of my fantasy. She never looked at me with raw desire in her eyes. Instead, her looks where filled with love and affection. I finally came to the realization that it didn't matter how much I trained Mary she was never going to be a wild, passionate animal in bed. For the simple reason that she had no desire to be that way and never did. Mary had learned what she did and became better because of her desire to please me NOT from a desire for hot sex. Mary ability to change is limited by her desire. And so it is with all of us, including myself.
I will never be a Roosh, Krauser, or Jabba. Not because I lack the skill but because I lack the desire to sleep with a lot of women. I am quite happy with one or two girls. If Mary was more sexually passionate she would be able to fulfill all of my needs. I also will never be a millionaire. Again not because I lack the skill to be one but because I lack the desire. I wouldn't know what to do with a million dollars even if someone gave it to me. I am a pretty simple person with minimal needs. I don't need a lot of money so I don't have much desire to acquire a lot of it. And its the same with women.
Now here is the interesting part: while we can improve our skills almost infinitely it's much more difficult, if not impossible, to increase our desires. Our desires are intimately tied into our personality and who we are on a core level. While Mary has a desire to please me she doesn't have that raw sexual desire to have wild sex with me or anyone else and probably never will. I have tried to increase my desire for different things, including women, over the years and for the most part I have failed. So what I will achieve ultimately with Game, is for all intent and purposes, limited by my desire. To use an analogy that a lot of guys may understand better: Game is like your car and desire is the gas. You can be the fastest car in the world, a Ferrari of Game, but if you don't have the gas you are not going to get very far.
** And why do I think this is important enough to have it's own thread? Because I believe this is where most guys fail - including myself. They fail from a lack of real desire NOT a lack of game skills. Desire is what makes you approach a girl, it takes a strong desire to escalate sexually with a girl, and it takes raw desire to put up with all of the BS to finally have sex with her. How does that old saying goes: Where there's a will, there's a way.**
I will never be a Roosh, Krauser, or Jabba. Not because I lack the skill but because I lack the desire to sleep with a lot of women. I am quite happy with one or two girls. If Mary was more sexually passionate she would be able to fulfill all of my needs. I also will never be a millionaire. Again not because I lack the skill to be one but because I lack the desire. I wouldn't know what to do with a million dollars even if someone gave it to me. I am a pretty simple person with minimal needs. I don't need a lot of money so I don't have much desire to acquire a lot of it. And its the same with women.
Now here is the interesting part: while we can improve our skills almost infinitely it's much more difficult, if not impossible, to increase our desires. Our desires are intimately tied into our personality and who we are on a core level. While Mary has a desire to please me she doesn't have that raw sexual desire to have wild sex with me or anyone else and probably never will. I have tried to increase my desire for different things, including women, over the years and for the most part I have failed. So what I will achieve ultimately with Game, is for all intent and purposes, limited by my desire. To use an analogy that a lot of guys may understand better: Game is like your car and desire is the gas. You can be the fastest car in the world, a Ferrari of Game, but if you don't have the gas you are not going to get very far.
** And why do I think this is important enough to have it's own thread? Because I believe this is where most guys fail - including myself. They fail from a lack of real desire NOT a lack of game skills. Desire is what makes you approach a girl, it takes a strong desire to escalate sexually with a girl, and it takes raw desire to put up with all of the BS to finally have sex with her. How does that old saying goes: Where there's a will, there's a way.**
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