Jakarta Datasheet (by Irish)
09-17-2018, 01:21 PM
So my Tinder’s been active – sorta. First time I put myself out in the Jakarta scene, I instantly got about 5 to 6 matches within a few hours. All of them responded to chat. 2 were “where you stay?” “you want massage?” types (call girls). The rest we transitioned to WA right away. I try not to waste time, so I escalate quick. They seem to respond well to that. I am 30, biracial (black, white and a dash of in betweens). People generally can’t tell what I am. I don’t look black, no black features except for my hair (induction cut so you can't tell) and skin color, which is not dark but rather tannish. I also don’t look white although I have caucasian features. In the US people will generally assume Hispanic since that’s the box you tend to end up in if you don’t distinctively look black or white.
Of the 4 I asked to join me for coffee, 3 were down, but only 1 materialized. 1 said she had some work to do and sent me a picture of what she was doing. 1 wanted to get together but when she asked when and where, I slacked because I was starting to feel like I was biting off more than I can chew. So I backed off a little for her to chase - she didn’t. Another 1 was very interested, same thing, she wanted to know what time and I said I would let her know. She wasn’t too happy about that and teasingly tried to get me to commit to a time, but I never did. It’s what I usually do. Because I know it’s in a girl’s nature to flake, I make more than one “appointment” all at the same time, kinda like how airlines do. They sell more tickets than they have seats because they know people cancel, and in the rare occasions that everyone shows up…well, it’s an overbooking. Although of course, I don’t book at the same place. In Indonesia though, I’m feeling like I need to change my strategy.
The girl I was meeting kept on asking me to send her a pic of me when I’m at the meeting place. She wanted me to be there first, for some reason. So I did and she said she was on her way. Later I changed my mind and went to another place close by because I felt in case she turned out to be an embarrassment, the other place wouldn’t be too embarrassing. Again, she asks me to send her a selfie. Weird.
She shows up and she’s not the girl in the tinder pictures. Fake pictures. But get this, she was actually much hotter than the girl in the pictures. I never called her out. It didn’t even dawn on me until we parted. She came dressed really nice. Her English was really good - but something weird, she spoke fluently and listening to her you would think English is her 2nd language, how she spoke it with ease. But whenever I spoke, she had a hard time understanding me. She obviously would have preferred to come straight to my place, given how many times she asked me, in different ways, where I was staying. And also when we were having coffee, she was waiting for me to say let’s go to my place - the blind and deaf could tell. I didn’t take her home, however, because I honestly wasn’t feeling it at the time. I was just there to test the waters, although there was always the possibility that she would be luring enough for me to change my mind. But she wasn’t, or I was being too picky. Nice girl though, she even insisted to drop me off, and did.
One thing I’m noticing with Indo girls is that they are much, much more whole in their personality traits than Thai girls, which I have dealt with more. I could easily get a banter going with an Indonesian girl. They are receptive to teasing - they tease back (although to a westerner it could come across as too direct, thus rude, but fun when you know the intension). They are affectionate, and just generally more fun than their SE Asian counterparts. I wrongly assumed that they would be similar to Thai women – they couldn’t be more different, looks and personality wise. Honestly, Thai girls don’t got diddly squat on Indonesian girls from what I can observe. I can actually have a conversation with an Indo girl and find it to be very enjoyable – especially the teasing and banter part. They get it and it bounces back. With a Thai girl, I might as well have a more intelligent conversation with a cat.
Next day I got several more matches. 1 I teased with slight sexual innuendo and she didn’t respond back. 3 never replied. 1 was engaged but not enthusiastic. And 1 was a bit dull and seemed too much of a good girl. I’ve been exhausting my like limits every day, but I swipe left much more than right. I am very picky I’ll admit. Also, I haven’t really gone all out with the matches. I honestly believe if I had, I would have gotten at least 3 meets. No idea how many lays. The 1st one is a definite though. So 4 days on tinder, 15 matches, 1-3 lays? However, I am starting to notice results are dwindling. It’s like each day yields lesser prospects. So I decided to experiment with something. I made another profile. A white guy – let’s call him John. About the same age as me. I didn’t embellish his profile. Kept it very minimalistic, similar to mine. Looks wise, just to play it safe, I chose a picture of someone - off google - who is about 2 points “less” better looking than me. Well...HOE-LEE-DURIAN!! The white God factor is real, alive and kicking! Like, DAMN! I got 11 matches in 1 day and the girls were the ones initiating the conversation. They were actually hitting me up first, eager to get to know me. It wasn’t even simple Hellos but rather thought out, invested comments. Not only that but they were also the ones asking for my whatsapp. And I wasn’t even trying - giving short answers and not asking anything back. If I did volunteer a comment, it would always be responded with “hahahah” - anything I said was funny. Responses came faster, they were more engaged and they were the ones who wanted to escalate - fast! I was overwhelmed! The funny (or sad) part is that I am considerably much better looking than the white guy I put up - at least by western standards. In the US, I know, from experience, that my market value would be much higher than that of John’s. It was a truly eye opening experiment.
Another thing I noticed, going through the list of matches of both mine and John’s is that John’s girls are predominantly hotter - much hotter! A good portion of them are tanner, not dark, but bronzish and definitely curvier, taller, and just sexier all around. Basically, exactly the girls I was looking to get with. While mine were average to less than average looking, a mixture of complexions and look neither Chinese Indonesians nor pure Javanese/native but rather a mixture of both, and a little bit more refined at times – except one who is the epitome of freakydom and loonatry. %0 Chinese Indonesians.
John was definitely getting much hotter girls than me. Lots of them, judging by the pics. Look like they got money too. So more educated? IDK. I’m jealous, I’m not gonna lie. I bet John can get at least 1 fresh “quality” lay a day without lifting a finger. No game needed. Looking at John’s feed right now, almost all matches initiated chat. They are sending hearts, Hi, what’s your WAs? Yay it’s a match!, and creative pickup lines(?) based off what’s on his profile. And if John doesn’t reply – which is most of the time – they follow up with more msgs. It’s crazy!
Almost no matches on my account initiated a chat and the 3-4 that did, half were call girls. Also, about %95 of who John swipes right is a match! I’m guessing the other %5 haven’t got to his profile yet. Vs. only 4-5 for me, before I exhaust my daily limit (free account). And super likes! John gets an average of 6-8 (a guesstimation) super likes a day! Me?...Zero! Not 1 thus far. Another thing is, what’s up with Tinder showing John the hot girls and me mostly 1-4s, very rarely 7s?! When I’m in John’s account, I’m swiping right faster than I can say Damn! Every girl is hotter than the other. I can without a doubt say all the ones that I see on John’s account are 7+ (at least body wise). A good portion of them are 8s. Just absolute hotties. It’s like I’m in a totally different country. While for me, Tinder is presenting me prospects from the bottom of the barrel. I’m sensing a bias/discriminatory(?) algorithm here. I find myself swiping right to %90 of the girls that Tinder shows me on John’s account, while on mine I’m swiping left most of the time! Cold sh*t!
