[AntiTrace]

All experienced players can agree on at least one thing: Women love being FUCKED.

When you properly fuck a girl you don't just pump in-and-out in the missionary position until you cum. You forcibly move her from one position to the next. You pull her hair. You grab her shoulders or squeeze her ribs for better leverage for more forceful thrusts. You spank her ass until it's red, and then keep spanking. You talk dirty to her and make her say dirty things back to you.

I can always tell when I properly fuck a girl, and it's not based on her reaction to sex. I can tell based on my state of mind as we are fucking. When I get into an animalistic state of mind, like a horny Silverback gorilla, I already know that when I'm done she is going to be breathless and need some time to recover. When I leave marks on them, everything from bruises to hickeys, she wears them like a badge of honor.

What I want to talk is "making love". While both fucking and making love are sexual acts, they have different purposes. You fuck to get your rocks off and have fun dominating a girl in the process, it is a physical process. When you make love your intent is to overpower and dominate her emotionally, not physically.

We all know that if you fuck a girl properly, she will continue to come back. Overtime she will even develop strong feelings for you, as she is naturally drawn to a dominant man. However, women are primarily emotional creatures as opposed to physical creatures. To truly draw her into you, you need to tap into her emotional side and that is where making love comes in.

Word of advice: don't make love with a female you don't want around for a while. They can fall hard and it's not effective if you don't have some type of genuine feelings for the girl to draw off. Also don't get into the mindset where once you have made love, you have to make love everytime. No, quite the opposite. Making love is a gift to her. Make love sparingly, else it loses the true emotional aspect and turns into boring lazy sex.

We know the difference between fucking and making love is the difference between turning her on physically and turning her on emotionally. To tap into her emotional side requires different techniques. The good news however, is that these techniques are very easy.

First, you don't say a single word the entire time. You want her female hamster to be running that wheel at warp speed, anything you say is going to distract her from her that.

Second, be gentle. Fucking is rough animalistic sex, making love is gentle and tender.

Third, you want it to seem like "it just happened" like "we just magically connected or something." It's easy to fake this. I normally start with the lights off and a chick flick playing (pretty woman is GOLD for this move). Near the end the movie I start kissing and get her naked.

Instead of diving right in for sex, which is what she is expecting, I go into a full body massage. After 5-10 minutes of that I start kissing her neck and exploring her body with my mouth. I avoid her obvious sexual zones and instead focus on areas that aren't used to being stimulated. You can find some spots that drive her crazy that she didn't even know about this way. Bonus points if you a day or two worth of stubble on your face to rub across her naked body.

Eventually you move into oral sex, but don't rush going down on her. When you think she is ready, wait five more minutes. Start it by kissing and lightly biting the insides of her legs, and letting your mouth come within millimeters of her vagina as you move from one leg to other and back. Let her pussy feel your breath as you do this. Eventually you start eating her out, but your only going to spenda couple minutes down there, and make sure you take it slow.

Fourth, it's all in the eye contact. You've eaten her out for a few minutes, and now your about to penetrate her. Pretend it's your first time and she is a virgin. Get about on top of her in a missionary position, cup her face in your hands, stare into her eyes, and slowly push in.

The rest of the sex is pretty much this. Slow and steady missionary sex. The eye contact is what gets her. You should be making long slow and steady thrusts while looking into her eyes the whole time. You will notice her constantly opening her eyes, catching your eye contact, and closing them again. You can move your head around to kiss and bite her neck or suck on them titties or something, but for the majority of the time you want your forehead to be resting on hers as you look into her eyes.

This is an emotional atomic bomb for any woman that has feelings for you. She will say, or whisper under her breath, that she loves you as you are making love to her. DO NOT SAY IT BACK! It will drive her hamster crazy. If you do want to say it back to her, wait at least 30 seconds to a minute and then quietly whisper it into her ear before going back to eye contact.


In conclusion, if you dominate a girl physically and emotionally she will be putty in her hands. Physically dominate by being an alpha male and regularly fucking her brains out. Emotionally dominate her by sparingly tapping into her emotional side (and exposing yours) through love making. Be careful to balance the two properly as too much love making makes you seem to a limp wristed beta chode.

Again, making love to a girl exposes her emotional side to her. Don't do it unless you are interested in keeping the girl around for a long time as a very close regular or as an LTR.

[CaP7]

1000% in agreement here

[tiggaling]

Antitrace, So what sort of chick flicks have you been watching recently? What you are suggesting sounds awfully fake, sentimental and schmaltzy, and it makes me feel little bit uneasy.

I think you can fake being emotionally dominant, but females generally are emotionally dominant.

I spoke to a man recently, who is a known lover of many women, he said he first embodies the feminine and receptive archetype and that allows HER to have her orgasm.

If you can submit to her dominance, emotionally, and be that vulnerable, and secure in your masculinitiy to allow that, then this is what is going to allow the magic. No physical technique can replicate that as it is in its own realm. Or, it is its own state.

Yes, you can physically dominate, and that is a powerful truth. But the truth of women is emotionally dominating.

The caveat is a lot of women are out of touch with their own emotional power, and these are often the one's who cannot come to orgasm very easily in the first place (which is a lot of women out there)

Also, I'd say love is a feeling, not so much a doing. You can simulate it, but only with the real thing is she going to be putty in your hand and you in hers.

[AntiTrace]

Agreed tiggaling.

That's why I said it's not effective if you don't have some sort of feelings to draw off of. It's extremely hard to properly fake that much of an emotional connection, and if you didn't have feelings it really wouldn't be worth your effort to do so. If the female doesnt have true feelings for you either, it wont work as well.

I've found that I focus primarily on the physical aspect of sex. But the girls that treat me good, the ones that will do chores around my place, the ones that will bring me a coffee to work when I ask, then ones that go out of their way to please deserve a little more than the pure physical act.

I didn't mean it come across as a "how to guide to fake an emotional connection." I wrote itup real fast before running out the door. The techniques I mentioned illustrates normally how this situation goes down for me, not as a step-by-step doctrine. Sometimes your girl needs a hard fast fucking, sometimes she needs some slow, intimate, love making. By balancing both, the scale that is the female psyche is balanced, and she is happy.

It goes beyond the bedroom as well. You can't be the cocky alpha all the time, you have to show her the emotional side once in a while. By doing it sparingly, it increases the effect of it. I don't always make love to the girls I care about, but I do it once in a while. I don't always plan a romantic date for the girls I care about, but I do it once in a while.