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08-30-2014, 03:39 AM
Going back to an old LTR, went back because she is irresistible. Unhealthy relationship, but I go back anyway, and lose my frame if she says and does things I think are wrong. I say bad things, get angry, get upset, then I'm up in the middle of the night making a post.
Is it a limitation in me if I am letting this one still get to me, and losing my frame? She's not the only one this has happened with. I see it as a sign I am still not there. I am far enough along to get out of a bad and unhealthy relationship. But in the moment, when I am experiencing a stupid comment or behavior, I still let myself go and let my emotions get the best of me.
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08-30-2014, 04:40 AM
Some tips:
* Delete everything you have from her, phone number, pictures, FB, everything.
* Don't answer her calls. Block her.
It will take time but you will get over it.
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08-30-2014, 05:32 AM
If you do not get an instant boner when you see her, your dick doesn't think she is someone special.
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08-30-2014, 07:10 AM
As above commenter said, no girl is special, you just assign your feelings to her and think they come from her, not you-- mistakenly in this case.
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08-30-2014, 07:43 AM
So, she is a demon in bed yes?
Her pussy is your crack pipe. You need to ween yourself off it.
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08-30-2014, 07:48 AM
A word of advice. I live by this. Don't ever get back with an ex.
Why go back to old routines when there's so much new people in the world to meet.
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08-30-2014, 10:23 AM
Quote: (08-30-2014 03:39 AM)Vaun Wrote:
Is it a limitation in me if I am letting this one still get to me, and losing my frame?
No, not necessarily...if she's the one (I believe you can have a lifelong relationship with a woman)
Quote: (08-30-2014 03:39 AM)Vaun Wrote:
She's not the only one this has happened with.
Then yes. It's good to have emotions and care for a woman (or women), but as men, we should be stable enough to not be needy with them.
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08-30-2014, 10:35 AM
I got back with an ex back in June, same situation as yours. It was great at first, I was gaming her hard and she was falling for it. The sex was amazing and I was fucking another girl at the same time so I was in the right.
Our personalities don't go well together though. She would do shit I hated and I would let it slide because I love fucking her, but eventually I got fed up, told her she was a terrible person and ended the whole fiasco. Maybe I'll do the fade out next time.
I'm all for hitting up your ex's within reason as long as you are still getting other pussy on the side. It gives you something to measure your game against.
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08-30-2014, 11:49 AM
Quote: (08-30-2014 05:19 AM)funkyzeit Wrote:
This. Also, you're not approaching enough women. No girl is special.
I highly disagree. I'm not saying that all girls are special snow flakes, but some girls really can be leaps and bounds above other girls. There are certainly girls out there that are special... just cause they are very rare doesn't mean they don't exist.
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08-30-2014, 01:32 PM
What keeps you going back?
Identify and replace.
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08-30-2014, 07:06 PM
I've been there...it ain't pretty. Trite to say but time helps, along with gaming new girls - but sometimes the passage of time is a hard necessity.
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08-31-2014, 12:25 PM
This is rhetorical; you answered your own question. But good luck cutting her out and sticking to it. You know it's for the best, though. Good time to approach like crazy and find some new shit. Beware the "she's not as good looking as the one I just got rid of" excuse, though.