This NPR story caught my attention today. It purports to describe how many men are "choosing" to put their careers "on hold" for the sake of following their wives around the country as the women pursue their own careers.
http://www.npr.org/2014/08/18/339830815/...rs-careers
In other words, more men are assuming a submissive role. Nothing new here, right?
What's so grating about the story is just how insidious it is in trying to portray this as some sort of "progress."
Here are some quotes, with my translation beneath:
"And men who follow their partners often must grapple with the implications for their careers, while also facing their own set of difficult questions about what it means to give up the traditional role of breadwinner."
Translation: You'd better kowtow to your wife's demand, or else. Suffer in silence.
"But this is the way it had to be if he wanted a life with Saraf. They have two dogs, a cat and now a baby on the way.
Nussel says it stings the ego when he doesn't have the money he needs for nice Christmas gifts or a good dinner out. But, he adds, he's happy women are becoming more powerful in the workforce.
"I think eventually men are going to have to realize they'll need to sacrifice something if they want to make a relationship work," he says. "I guess in a way it does take a strong-willed person to put yourself on the back burner for someone else.""
Translation: This is the way it's going to be, dude. Get used to it. It's my (female) way or the highway. And if you're broke and feel like a loser with no job? Get used to it. Wave of the future, dickhead. Oh, and other men should feel the same misery, too! Men are going to have to "man up" and suck it up. These "strong-willed" women are here to stay! Say hello to your new master.
And of course, no NPR story would be complete without showcasing how wise and wonderful gays are, so the last part of the article showcases a gay couple. Quote:
"Sparkman says he's well aware that career success is still a cultural measure of masculinity in this country. Both men say the decisions they've made aren't really about gender. They're about money and personality."
Translation: Gender doesn't matter! We're all equal! Just shuffle a few wads of cash here and there, and we'll all be happy and fine. As long as I "feel" like a good person, I am!
We're so done. So done.
http://www.npr.org/2014/08/18/339830815/...rs-careers
In other words, more men are assuming a submissive role. Nothing new here, right?
What's so grating about the story is just how insidious it is in trying to portray this as some sort of "progress."
Here are some quotes, with my translation beneath:
"And men who follow their partners often must grapple with the implications for their careers, while also facing their own set of difficult questions about what it means to give up the traditional role of breadwinner."
Translation: You'd better kowtow to your wife's demand, or else. Suffer in silence.
"But this is the way it had to be if he wanted a life with Saraf. They have two dogs, a cat and now a baby on the way.
Nussel says it stings the ego when he doesn't have the money he needs for nice Christmas gifts or a good dinner out. But, he adds, he's happy women are becoming more powerful in the workforce.
"I think eventually men are going to have to realize they'll need to sacrifice something if they want to make a relationship work," he says. "I guess in a way it does take a strong-willed person to put yourself on the back burner for someone else.""
Translation: This is the way it's going to be, dude. Get used to it. It's my (female) way or the highway. And if you're broke and feel like a loser with no job? Get used to it. Wave of the future, dickhead. Oh, and other men should feel the same misery, too! Men are going to have to "man up" and suck it up. These "strong-willed" women are here to stay! Say hello to your new master.
And of course, no NPR story would be complete without showcasing how wise and wonderful gays are, so the last part of the article showcases a gay couple. Quote:
"Sparkman says he's well aware that career success is still a cultural measure of masculinity in this country. Both men say the decisions they've made aren't really about gender. They're about money and personality."
Translation: Gender doesn't matter! We're all equal! Just shuffle a few wads of cash here and there, and we'll all be happy and fine. As long as I "feel" like a good person, I am!
We're so done. So done.