Alright, so after doing some day gaming and conquering approach anxiety, this is now my sticking point - maintaining momentum from the approach to get a Day 2.
I've found that if I'm not rejected immediately, I have a pretty good chance of having a good conversation and even a mini-date with a girl. I really don't like taking stats and the like, but about 20% of my approaches end up in lengthy conversations and then phone numbers being exchanged. For somebody that was really afraid of doing this not too long ago, I must say that's pretty remarkable.
Yet we all know phone numbers are nearly worthless, and I'm having a hard time with maintaining that momentum with text/phone game. Now, some of these numbers of course are going to flake no matter what, I understand that much.
But other times...I've had instant dates that have flaked.
Now obviously the best answer is to run tighter game, which I'm working on, but do you guys have any tips to up a beginner's text/phone game?
I just met another girl today and we talked for probably at least a half hour, as I was showing her around. She quipped she had a boyfriend (which I didn't acknowledge), but volunteered to give me her number anyway.
I'm planning to text her later tonight with the customary "nice to meet you earlier" with the added callback humor of calling her a non-drinker (because she was 20 and I teased her about how she couldn't do anything fun).
Also, I've tended to just not send any more messages if girls don't respond the first time. I think continuing on doing that is needy, but other times I wonder if it's better to be a bit more persistent. How do you guys handle some of that stuff?
I guess what I'm asking is, how do you guys start the exchange, and how do you maintain momentum throughout to increase your chance of a Day 2?
I've found that if I'm not rejected immediately, I have a pretty good chance of having a good conversation and even a mini-date with a girl. I really don't like taking stats and the like, but about 20% of my approaches end up in lengthy conversations and then phone numbers being exchanged. For somebody that was really afraid of doing this not too long ago, I must say that's pretty remarkable.
Yet we all know phone numbers are nearly worthless, and I'm having a hard time with maintaining that momentum with text/phone game. Now, some of these numbers of course are going to flake no matter what, I understand that much.
But other times...I've had instant dates that have flaked.
Now obviously the best answer is to run tighter game, which I'm working on, but do you guys have any tips to up a beginner's text/phone game?
I just met another girl today and we talked for probably at least a half hour, as I was showing her around. She quipped she had a boyfriend (which I didn't acknowledge), but volunteered to give me her number anyway.
I'm planning to text her later tonight with the customary "nice to meet you earlier" with the added callback humor of calling her a non-drinker (because she was 20 and I teased her about how she couldn't do anything fun).
Also, I've tended to just not send any more messages if girls don't respond the first time. I think continuing on doing that is needy, but other times I wonder if it's better to be a bit more persistent. How do you guys handle some of that stuff?
I guess what I'm asking is, how do you guys start the exchange, and how do you maintain momentum throughout to increase your chance of a Day 2?