[Phoenix]

As usual on the internet, if you search for dating or sex advice you get 'mainstream' advice AKA 'useless fluffy crap'. Very generic, very little substance, and usually surrounded by ads, perhaps even with an irritating 'Page 1 of 12' layout.

What I'm looking for is useful, substantive guides on giving the best sex, written in plain text by someone who knows what they are talking about. The reason being I have had it too many times (maybe 30%) that a girl has sex with me once, and isn't interested in a follow up. Sure, sometimes there might be other reasons on her end, but I figure sub-par sex is part of it. For instance, no girls ever orgasm with me.

My searches of rooshv so far have yielded Roosh's articles of 'it doesn't matter', which I must simply disagree with.

Usually the sex goes through the typical: 'take her clothes off' (usually one piece at a time, and usually working through typical resistance), play with her clit and pussy (sometimes before clothes off), then get condom and start in missionary. Usually first session I finish in missionary, then in second & third I move through other positions. Usually 3 sessions in the night, and if she stays over, 1 or 2 in the morning (I have the issue sometimes that I am hornier than 'my balls allow', and with condoms I can have difficulty finishing in later sessions).

My only suspicion so far is that I am not dominant enough (I'm not good at this and I often forget it entirely, although girls respond well when I do behave dominantly), or that I am rushing the foreplay and the sessions (really wanting to finish in her etc).

So can anybody offer advice (from experience) or suggest good material on this topic?
Cheers!

[Moreless]

I used to care about giving girls orgasms and would do everything I could to get a girl off.

Now I just don't give a fuck. Seriously, sometimes a girl can get off 3 or 4 times in a 30 minute session. Other girls never orgasm. Then there is the girl who gets off once or twice every month.

After going through enough woman it seems completely random.


If you are wondering what I do during sex.. Whatever I feel like! Knowing that some girls get off and some don't really helped me. Once I accepted this, I began doing whatever my mind and cock wanted. This brought out my primal instinct in a hurry.

Which really makes for some aggressive sex: finger up the butt - while fish hooking the mouth and having my dick inside her pussy. By the end I'm drenched in sweat.

Sex has become more of a release for me so that my mind is clear to ponder other things. Being very dominate releases a lot of tension/stress for me.

Sometimes I like to just keep it slow/quick. Do a little missionary for 5 minutes and then flip her over and finish quick from behind.

I think this kinda makes me unpredictable and will make the girl want more later. (Note: this is after a few good sessions)

Girls love it!

PS: Don't skimp on GOOD lube! If a girl is not wet or not wet enough, throw some on! I'd rather use lube and have a good time than have rough dry sex any day. This applies to: raw sex or condoms.

PSS: Don't be afraid to try new things. I find that telling a girl you have never done something before turns her on and makes her feel special. Get some knee burns, thigh burns, and back burns if you haven't already!

[Moreless]

Honestly, after re-reading my post I think it could be summed up by just saying:

As long I'm having a good time, she is having a good time.
-Men are leaders, women are followers

It's all about the way you make her feel.
-For most men, sex is a physical act. Which is why having an orgasm is the end goal.
-Women are it for the feeeels. They could careless if they get off.


Phoenix, how do you think the woman feels when she is around you?

One of the worst things you can do to a dog is treat it like a human. The dog will be confused and unhappy. Dogs are submissive creatures that are meant to serve.

Don't treat your woman improperly, it will only confuse them.

[slimjim125]

https://www.youtube.com/user/AllmanAlex/videos

[Pinocchio]

im pretty aggro when i fuck, especially if it's the first time. biting, hair pulling, strangling. i purposely try and fuck her so hard that it's painful for her.

[Big Country]

I'm not sure if I want to touch this. It is largely circumstantial and situation specific. But man, you've got to make them cum.

Simply, however you have to get a girl over, that's the best way to go. Easiest is oral and most difficult is straight sex. For most girls. You have to realize that satisfying a woman is more of a mental thing than anything else. You have to get her out of her head space and focused solely on her pleasure.

There are a few ways to do this, but being dominant is one of the better ways (as you have noticed) to do it. There is also the consideration that each girl is different but ultimately will respond to the same things so long as they are comfortable with it. That doesn't mean ask her something during the act, that just means doing anything slowly for the first time. If she responds in a good way, you can escalate.

Another easy way is teasing. You give her something, and then you take it away. If you're eating a girl out and you can feel her getting close, change up your technique and randomly stop to kiss her legs. Then go back to what you were doing before and add a finger or two. This give and take will increase her feelings of pleasure and will make her orgasm harder when she does.

A good thing to keep in mind is that when a girl is drunk, it is harder for her to orgasm. The alcohol, in a way, dulls her out. If you just straight fuck a drunk girl, you will likely never get her over. This is where a combination of dominance and teasing work to perfection. Also oral, always.

Oral is very important if you really want to keep her around and she is one of the many girls who will rarely orgasm from your dick. If you watch porn you will probably notice that most girls don't orgasm from taking it. The girls you fuck will likely be the same. From personal experience I'd say it's about 35% of girls who can orgasm from straight sex and oral is 100%.

Also, don't cum before she does. "Nice guys finish last" This adds the benefit of having the girl extra eager to please you. Or she could fall asleep, you never know. If she does you can feel the way girls have felt after you've blown and neglected them. Do you not wonder why girls haven't been interested in repeats? Seriously though, oral.

[Phoenix]

Moreless, do you find that it is the aggressiveness that gives the girl the feelings that lead to orgasm?

I don't mind when an individual girl doesn't orgasm, but when none of them do (outside of two girls who knew how to make themselves come by riding in a specific position), it appears I'm doing something wrong.

[Phoenix]

(08-09-2014 06:54 AM)Big Country Wrote:  

Oral is very important if you really want to keep her around and she is one of the many girls who will rarely orgasm from your dick. If you watch porn you will probably notice that most girls don't orgasm from taking it. The girls you fuck will likely be the same. From personal experience I'd say it's about 35% of girls who can orgasm from straight sex and oral is 100%.

Also, don't cum before she does. "Nice guys finish last" This adds the benefit of having the girl extra eager to please you. Or she could fall asleep, you never know. If she does you can feel the way girls have felt after you've blown and neglected them. Do you not wonder why girls haven't been interested in repeats? Seriously though, oral.

Thanks for your advise, Big Country. Yes I have had the suspicion that I need to start doing oral. I read one blog recently where the guy's normal routine is: 'shower, oral till she cums at least once, then bang her till she is barely conscious'. Sounds a pretty strong routine. Normally I'm just too eager to get my dick in them, and I rarely feel the urge to get my mouth between the legs of a girl I've only known a few hours .

[Dan Woolf]

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[Phoenix]

(08-09-2014 07:25 AM)Dan Woolf Wrote:  

The book "Sex God Method" revolutionized my sex life.

Thanks Dan, reading it now. This fits the bill of 'a guy who knows what he's talking about' perfectly.

[Gorgiass]

I always try to get them off multiple times, aside from making them want to join the harem for more, it's just fun. They're all different but in my experience the one thing that gets off all women who are mentally able to get off in a situation is clit stimulation. This can be accomplished by hand of course - my favorite position for it is on her side fucking from behind with her upper leg over and supported by my own to spread her pussy a bit and playing with her clit from there. Same from behind but is more awkward, or from missionary using your thumb. Depending on your hung-ness and her pussy layout, you can also usually do this with your belly, easiest if she's riding and leaning forward and you can guide her into grinding on you and mix this up with some speed pounding in between which most enjoy even if it doesn't usually make them come for me. Also possible from missionary if you slide down so your dick is rubbing her g spot and belly rubbing her clit at the same time.

Fingering their ass often helps them come also, go slow use lube. Female orgasm is at least half mental and the whole taboo thing turns on so many. Last notch a couple days ago had never had an orgasm with a guy but came closer than she'd ever been when I popped her anal cherry (after a couple minutes of "Ow"s ). I've also been with a few who just couldn't come without fingering themselves so encourage that so she doesn't feel self conscious about it.

I usually pop 50mg generic Viagra which makes it easier to not come while maintaining wood, but even without using V it's a good idea to work on your stamina. If you can't then going for round two or three would work also I suppose.

[Donkey_Riding]

The Sex God Method is good because it focuses on the psychological aspects of sex, which are very important for women.

I'll second the point of not worrying too much about her pleasure or trying too hard to please her. Her orgasm is not your responsibility and if you see yourself as obligated to please her you'll actually please her less. If you stop giving a shit about whether she comes or not, she's actually more likely to come.

In addition to being turned on by dominance, women are turned on by a man's passion or enthusiasm. Just do what you want and enjoy yourself and she will likely have a great time even if she doesn't come. Focus on lowering your inhibitions and immersing yourself in the experience. The same thing goes for dirty talk--you shouldn't really be worrying about exactly what you say.

Remember never to ask permission to do something, e.g. don't say "wanna do doggy style?"--just tell her to do it or flip her over with your hands. To make sure she is ok with something more extreme, like anal, just tell her "I want to fuck you in the ass" and see how she reacts.

Physical techniques:

how to eat her out: It's important to get into a rhythm if you want to make her come. I usually do licks up from bottom to top. You can also suck on her clit (be careful with teeth if you do).

Some members think that eating out is beta/submissive but I don't agree. I actually love eating pussy and it really turns me on. I think women sense this.

You can do some pretty aggressive finger-fucking techniques that will feel great to her if she's turned on enough, e.g.:
http://www.xvideos.com/video260107/how_t...ng_orgasms
(note how he pushes up and down, not in-and-out. Also you can easily do this while licking or sucking her clit)

Another thing to remember is that some girls come more easily than others. One of my plates will often come 3-4 times in a single fuck while another one requires a vibrator.

[Nascimento]

Variety, variety. Cycle through the main positions but also get creative. Also, hyper dominant positions enhance the sex for both of you. Put her in doggy and pull her hair with one hand and put her in a headlock with the other arm.

The key isn't to fuck her fast or slow. Do it all, change it up. Aggressive, sensual.. do all of it.

Don't care whether she orgasms or not. I want the girls to have a good time for sure, but on my terms (removes all performance anxiety).

The most important thing is to stop worrying if she is having a good time or if you can get her off. If you focus on yourself enjoying the sex since you are the dominant she will enjoy it as well.

[rpg]

Many girls need to ride on top and get a rythm going then bam. Orgasms vary in intensity for women so not all are them same. Definitely eat her out if she is clean and disease free.

[Lizard King]

To expand on what the other guys have said:

be vocal.

What you say will effect her mind.

[The Beast1]

Practice practice and more practice.

It's a personal journey, but I can tell you the basic things. Get the girl off at least once. You can do it with your mouth or hand if you're worried about lasting. Normally I get a girl off first if it's the first time I've done stuff with her, but after three or four bangs I get synced up with her (we get off at the same time).

The second is dominance. Dominate a woman in bed. This gets easier with inner game.

[Phoenix]

(08-10-2014 02:06 PM)frenchie Wrote:  

The second is dominance. Dominate a woman in bed. This gets easier with inner game.

Could you elaborate on what you mean by it 'getting easier with inner game'?

It also sounds like it gets easier with increased physical fitness. In the 'Sex God Method' book I'm reading, the dudes favourite tactic after using dominant language, is to frenzy-fuck the girl like a manic ape-man. That must take some fitness if you're doing that for any length of time.

[Benoit]

(08-10-2014 04:50 PM)Phoenix Wrote:  

(08-10-2014 02:06 PM)frenchie Wrote:  

The second is dominance. Dominate a woman in bed. This gets easier with inner game.

Could you elaborate on what you mean by it 'getting easier with inner game'?

I remember how embarassed and mumbly I was the first time that I asked a girl to go fully shaved.

Now the only thing that goes through my head is "you need to sort that shit out if you want me to go near it again".

Entitlement mentality is the key to success with women.

[Manipulator]

How To Train Your Slut

Being dominant is a very broad term. Simply advising someone to be dominant is like telling someone to be rich. I'm a simple guy and need specific ideas and I think most people can benefit from a how to on dominance. Dominating a girl will make her worship you. This is what she really wants. Girls like to be led and have zero doubt they are getting exactly what they need from you and you alone. A few specifics that work well for me to dominate are:
-spanking her ass and thighs hard enough to leave red marks
-slapping her face while thrusting in her hard
-fucking her pussy like you are a jackhammer. If you can't hear a slapping sound you aren't doing it hard enough
-while you fuck her tell her she is your dirty little slut to use as you see fit, make her repeat it back
-sit on her and slap her across the face with your dick
-have her suck a dildo while you fuck her and tell her to show you just how good of a dirty cocksucker she really is
-make her lick the cum and pussy juice off your dick after fucking her. Tell her to be a good little slut and make it nice and clean
-text her instructions on what to do for you in a picture or video and make her send it to you within a certain timeframe
-either in person or text them during the day how you are planning to tie them up later that night and describe your sick plans, they eat that shit up and will actually be disappointed if you don't follow through with your ideas

Those are just a few things that come to mind. Most girls love this stuff and want it even rougher. The more of this crap you do the more submissive and slutty they become for you. What are some of everyone else's favorite slut training tactics?

[ThrustMaster]

If I want her to come back for more I make sure she gets her's at least once, holding her while she does if you're using your hands while looking her straight in the eye works really well - kind of cements you in their psyche. Very few women can have purely vaginal O's. I've been with a few, it's nice - but if you want to be remembered as a great lover you need to show some interest in her.

If she's a pump and dump, well...

p.s. younger women I've been with - probably ones you young studs you've been banging have said things like "sex with you is very intense - so personal - you're all I can think about for days", "no one has ever cared to get me off".

So this is where I diverge from the standard manosphere/pua advice of don't bother getting her off. For me getting a chick off is a power trip, I know I'm one of the best lovers she's had, because put simply most o' yalls suck in bed.

/troll mode off

[Sourcecode]

Are we all so fresh and new to the forum that we don't remember old gems from the past?

How to Become a Sex God: Resources and Ideas

[Phoenix]

(08-11-2014 09:53 AM)Sourcecode Wrote:  

Are we all so fresh and new to the forum that we don't remember old gems from the past?

How to Become a Sex God: Resources and Ideas

Yes . Thanks for that, didn't show up in the search.

[BarryInSF]

A lot of girls will also take it personally if YOU don't cum.

[horn]

Many girls will get off on how hot you get, esp the first times. Feeling so desired is a huge turnon for them [and me].

[Distant Light]

Get good at sex...TRUST ME...You will thank yourself...

I personally am inspired by Rocco Siffiredi & Manuel Ferrara (Pierre Woodman honorable mention)

One of the greatest moments was after having sex with this french chick, after the 1st session we spent about 30mins playing around in bed/flirting which ended up causing us to have sex AGAIN. I'll never forget after the 2nd round, she stood there thinking "wow...o shit!!! You are good...Like not saying just to say but your good".

Apparently she's never had more than 2 orgasms ever which shocked her. She generally had an inquisitive demeanor as if she uncovered quantum physics or something.

That ontop of me knowing what I'd do to women that I'm attracted to, makes me know "chick is gonna mess out".

P.S...I once had a chick state that she was glad I didn't talk to the other girl who I originally would've ended up hooking up with. She then laughed saying "that chick missed out"...In the end, women love that filling feeling of a live dick.