[norebly]

First I want to take a moment and acknowledge that I made a few posts on these forums before and I am thankful for the feedback that was given. We have some truly open minded achievers here. It's the kind of environment that I want to be in.

I have a question about inner game today.

In the past, while I was going to college, I saw the world as endless opportunities. Anything that was difficult was another step on the road to greatness. Anything that came up I believed that I could overcome. I saw it as a great opportunity to better myself allthewhile learning more about myself and life in general.

Those who have read my first thread here know that there was a pivotal moment in my life after ending it with a girl that I had a hard time holding it together. While most of the pain is gone now, I can't help but feel some of the side effects of those moments.

Long story short, I don't believe in myself anymore. It's like I disappointed myself so much that I do not trust myself to overcome obstacles anymore. I also generalize sex/relationships now. I can't find myself thinking positively about girls anymore. These thoughts that made me wake up with a smile in the past are all but gone.

It's a bit depressing but that's been the theme for a while for me unfortunately.

[Cobra]

Know that you're another human being not unlike me or even other more experienced players on here. They're resilient to negativity. So are you. You just deny it because it's easy to do. Denial makes you feel unique. It feeds your soul in the same way that effort does but it's easier to get caught up in. Effort is subtle. Denial is in your face, relatively speaking.

Getting over it is hard but again takes some effort and self belief. You're not different from the rest of us. We all have problems but deal with them in different ways. I'm still dealing with mine. It's hard. Are you going to deal with yours?

Report back. We want to help you on your journey.

[nek]

You sound just like me. Timeline and everything. NOTHING bothered me in college. The world was my oyster. Got into a bad relationship after college, combined with living in a shitty area with a soul-sucking job and BAM, I definitely have been finding things harder to smile about. "Swallowing the pill" so to speak hasn't helped either. I'm better looking and physically more attractive now than then, but mentally at times I'm just not there. It's as if I'm an observer in life, and everyone else is living life in a rather predictable fashion, particularly in the dating world. FWIW, I'm 31 and the last few years have been really interesting pertaining to women in my age group and how the change switches from the young exciting girl to the "oh shit I need a sucker" chick with the 1000 yard stare. It certainly doesn't help my mentality.

Life just seems like the wheels are spinning sometimes, but what I think you're suffering from (and this realization has helped me) is that throughout most your life new, exciting chapters are scheduled for you, so even if there is bad, it won't last. Once you get out, It's very possible to be doing the same things for 40 years if you don't do something about it. This ties into self-belief b/c for the first time in life, you're fate is much less scripted and you're much more reliant on yourself to create a new future. Everything from girls to travel to work/career/business is much more a factor of your personal effort. You're questioning your self-belief b/c you're impact in your own life is now much heavier than it use to be. It'll take time, but you need to discover who 'you' are. I didn't know for a while who I was, what I really liked, and what I really wanted for a long time. In college, friendships, girls, filling time with fun shit to do was easy b/c it's ready-made just about, and there was always shit presented to you to occupy your time with. Now you got to blaze your own path. How do you go about this? If you have even the slightest interest in something, try it. You'll find out through trial and error what you like and who you are, ultimately giving you an answer to who you are as a person, which is the key to self-belief. Guys like you can't be tricked into it, you're going to have to dig deep and find the true, honest you. Good luck.