Right up front, let me say that this post is mainly for guys who are in the game but are looking at the prospects of a LTR.
Most men stay in the game for a time but life happens and our personal goals change. Suppose you meet a girl that is different from all of the knuckleheads out there and she sparks an interest in you that you haven't felt for another woman before and you start to think of her in a different way. Maybe you think she is worthy of spending more time with than a weekend here and there. If you don't have a lot of experience with girls in your past, you have to think about the qualities that would make her compatible with you. Sometimes it is hard to know whether the qualities you think are important are really important for determining your compatibility in an objective sort of way. I'd like to propose some qualities that should be non-negotiable qualities for you as a man...anything less than these should be deemed deal-breakers, since they are a threat to a man's personal standards, in my opinion.
Most men stay in the game for a time but life happens and our personal goals change. Suppose you meet a girl that is different from all of the knuckleheads out there and she sparks an interest in you that you haven't felt for another woman before and you start to think of her in a different way. Maybe you think she is worthy of spending more time with than a weekend here and there. If you don't have a lot of experience with girls in your past, you have to think about the qualities that would make her compatible with you. Sometimes it is hard to know whether the qualities you think are important are really important for determining your compatibility in an objective sort of way. I'd like to propose some qualities that should be non-negotiable qualities for you as a man...anything less than these should be deemed deal-breakers, since they are a threat to a man's personal standards, in my opinion.
- 1. A good woman cooks. She loves cooking good meals, baking, and generally enjoys the idea of pleasuring her man by taking care of his physical needs.
2. A good woman wants to be led. She doesn't want to dominate a man, in fact she is a fish out of water if she has to make decisions for both of you.
3. A good woman takes care of her home. She doesn't leave shit all over the place and cleans the bathroom, kitchen, and common areas regularly because she values cleanliness.
4. A good woman has her finances in order. She may like to shop but she has money in the bank and knows how to find a good deal.
5. A good woman holds a steady job and works hard. She won't work a menial job, hoping some guy with money will come along and rescue her. She realizes that until she finds a decent man, she has to have her own shit together.
6. A good woman either doesn't have Facebook or she uses it sparingly. She doesn't post "selfies" every day or talk about useless shit so that all of her friends can "like" her mindless rants.
7. A good woman chooses her friends carefully. She doesn't hang out with trashy women or women who gossip about stupid shit. She values quality over quantity.
8. A good woman doesn't even know what Jezebel.com is. She doesn't like progressive bullshit or feminist ideals. She's a throwback to a different era where men were the leaders and women enjoyed those gender roles.
9. A good woman values stimulating conversation and wisdom...especially in a man. She doesn't feel threatened by what a man knows, in fact she admires that kind of man even more.
10. A good woman encourages a man. She tells him how handsome he is and how wise he is. She doesn't bottle up her feelings about his qualities like most women do for fear of losing standing in the relationship. They speak openly and honestly about your good qualities.
11. A good woman isn't a party girl. She doesn't get shit-faced every weekend and look for the next good time; she's more concerned about doing things that bring value to her life.