[bojangles]

(07-22-2014 04:39 PM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote:  

(07-22-2014 04:26 PM)Santoro Wrote:  

These are great techniques. When I was in grad school I would often reference papers of people I knew would be at my lectures...whether it was other professors or research assistants. It made for a very nice effect

Also Use this whenever I'm onstage for music...if you can learn the names of the bouncers/bartenders it can pay huge dividends when you use them as small asides for your stage game.

We got Rachel slingin booze tonight, lookin sexy as hell. Drink up! This next song reminds me of...

You fuckers lookin rowdy tonight, don't make me call Big Al in to stomp you! Who here knows anything about kickin ass?!? [segue into hard rockin tune]

For rock venues the above attitude works pretty well

It's beta if you do it offstage, onstage you're a part of the 'club' where one hand scratches the other. It brings all the 'biz aspects' of the venue together

Mentioning the names of musicians on stage was the way Frank Sinatra earned the loyalty of his band members. Duane Allman did this a lot too with the Allman Brothers.

But I'm actually writing for a different reason: the reverse of this is true as well. If you meet a woman, and she greets you with "Hey" all the time instead of your name, it's a sign of unconscious disrespect and/or contempt for men. Keep her at arms length because bigger problems will be ahead.

This is the golden post here, I thought this was common knowledge that addressing people by name gets you quite far, even better for girls give them pet names. However you can always tell a lot from a girl if she addresses you by a name even if it's a nickname rather than just the standard 'hey', 'hi'.

[Lucky]

Great advice, pitt.

One recommendation I recall from this book to remember names goes as follows:

As soon as they say their name, repeat it back to them and then take the first letter of their name and imagine it burned into their forehead. This book is actually quite cheesy but it had some nuggets of actionable tips.

People absolutely love to hear their name. I remember early on from reading game guides to remember the names of bartenders and bouncers. That advice worked wonders for me. There was one bouncer at a popular nightclub I frequented who after a couple of conversations began letting me go in ahead of the line because I would call him by his name.

[dads]

How does this idea work in relation to Roosh's thought that (in Day Gaming) that you shouldn't ask for a girls name too early (hence being the "N" in GALNUC)? Or is this more related to night game?

[TheFinalEpic]

I've found that people in today's day and age are actually surprised and humbled when you remember their name 3 days down the road. Its such a little thing that makes a huge difference in making friends, forming business relationships, and just being a person that others look up to and value.

[robreke]

(07-22-2014 03:30 PM)pitt Wrote:  

I remember learning this move from the classic book ''how to win friends and influence people'' and I decided to apply it in my everyday life. What a big difference it made in terms of building relationships.

Soon as I approach a girl, introduce myself and find out her name, I would be calling her by her name and they were usually impressed on how I am already so familiar with her even though we just met. Calling her by her name you are implying that you are already familiar with her and you don't need lots of time to build familiarity with her. If you are already familiar, the sex should come faster.

I don't only do this with girls, I also do it when I am dealing with the customer service from my local shop (I look at the badge for the person's name and then I will be calling them by their name), when the police stops me for no reason to search me (even though this doesn't happen to me anymore) when I meet a new person and I know he will be my friend, I start calling them by their names in order to build familiarity faster (I confess it, I do it with forum members too). Remember this is not manipulation, it's simply an art of effective communication. People like to be called by their names and our names is one of, if not, the biggest identity we have.

Don't over use it, I usually do it when I want the person to really listen to what I am saying, when I am telling the girl that I am about to go but I will keep in touch, eg. ''hey listen patricia, I have to go, but I will call you tonight, alright''?, to reinforce and show that I am interested in that particular person (if the person remember our names then I am sure that person is interested in us in some way), people listen to you more when you call them by their names, when a customer service rep tries to argue with me on the phone and I throw the ''Listen James, I know this is your company policy but''' I feel that the guy on the other end becomes surprised and then becomes more cooperative, customers rarely ever remember the company representative name, when you do it, you are ahead of the game, you will always get better service. You get what you give.

Most of my friends think that I manipulate girls in order to sleep with them but the truth is that my game is just based on these small ''strategies'', they really make a big difference.

Any of you guys regularly use girl's names in text messages? Especially, say, the first one or first several text you send her after getting her number so as to elicit those crucial responses to your first few texts when you're trying to establish something?

I haven't tried this, but was wondering if it may be a better way to make her feel more comfortable responding to your texts.

[BarryInSF]

(07-22-2014 03:30 PM)pitt Wrote:  

I remember learning this move from the classic book ''how to win friends and influence people'' and I decided to apply it in my everyday life. What a big difference it made in terms of building relationships.

HAHA when I saw the title of this thread I was going to post that it's straight from Dale Carnegie. But you already knew that.

I'd like to add that as soon as you hear a girl's name, MEMORIZE IT. Every time you have to ask again, you slash your chances of getting the bang. And the best way to memorize it is to use it.