[Andy292]

I admit I didn't escalate fast enough but she might still be interested a little bit. She just became really boring recently. Lame ass responses to my questions/comments. Little flirting, not like before. Just kind of listens and responds with some low effort bullshit. But at the same time she's not monotone and disinterested. Just boring as shit and low effort. I starting withdrawing a ton of my attention because I'm wasting my energy. Drop her?

If I ignore her completely will I look butthurt? I realize she lost interest because I never made a move but she's a coworker so I'm not going to make a move.

[SydneyD]

The Newbie Forum exists for a reason....use it

[Jeimuzu]

Don't shit where you eat.

Banging coworkers is a stupid move unless one piece of unknown pum pum is worth causing problems in the work space.

Keep it casual with her and look for bangs outside of work.

[LaserBear]

Who cares if you look butthurt.
She bores you so you're leaving her alone. You ARENT butthurt, you're nexting her.
Transcend their opinions.
A wolf doesn't worry about the opinion of sheep.

And avoid banging in the workplace... it can be done, but is in general a bad idea.

Use her for access to her friends. Friendzone her. Penetrate her social circle instead.


And don't stress so hard man... just one chick, walk down the street and you'll see plenty of others.

[travolta]

(07-21-2014 03:10 AM)Andy292 Wrote:  

I realize she lost interest because I never made a move but she's a coworker so I'm not going to make a move.

So what exactly is your question? She probably will be more interesting to you after you fuck her, but you just said you're not going to fuck her because she's a coworker.... I'm quite confused.

Are you just seeking attention by posting this thread?

[Andy292]

Yeah, I'm seeking the attention of other men on a forum. Idiot

[Avon Barksdale]

^^
Enjoy your stay here

[RockHard]

(07-21-2014 03:10 AM)Andy292 Wrote:  

I admit I didn't escalate fast enough but she might still be interested a little bit. She just became really boring recently. Lame ass responses to my questions/comments. Little flirting, not like before. Just kind of listens and responds with some low effort bullshit. But at the same time she's not monotone and disinterested. Just boring as shit and low effort. I starting withdrawing a ton of my attention because I'm wasting my energy. Drop her?

If I ignore her completely will I look butthurt? I realize she lost interest because I never made a move but she's a coworker so I'm not going to make a move.

What is there to drop? She's not invested in you, so she's not dropping anything.

You don't have to ignore her completely, but remember the ratio - you put 2/3 of the effort in she does. 2/3 of one word is about zero. If she tries to talk to you and you ignore her, then that looks butthurt. Just be the 60% guy.

I used to follow the co-worker rule but I don't think it holds. Tons of people meet at work today because that's the closest thing they have to a social life.

I'd be careful calling other members "idiot". Go back and read your post and see if what you said makes sense. You're saying you never made a move because she's a co-worker, so that makes no sense to guys on here. Are you going to make a move or not? It sounds like you're saying you're not going to escalate because you work with her. If you don't escalate, what's the point?

The best thing you can do is go out and meet some other women. If she's actually interested in you still, you being involved in other women is going to spike her interest.

[Saweeep]

I keep constantly reading threads here where the answer is always: escalate for god's sake!

Before I joined here I spent a long, long time reading the forum to get a feel for it and absorb new information.

It actually pisses me off that people don't bother to do the same…they want everything for nothing.

I have anger issues

[Parlay44]

Newsflash: All girls are boring.

That's why men hang out in the garage and drink beer and take apart engines with their friends.
Girls are just there to make you food and entertain your cock.