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Taking the word of your girl vs the word of your guy friends
07-15-2014, 10:49 PM
Here's another tough situation. Something happens between your girl and one of your guy friends and of course it comes back to you. And now you're put in a situation to choose between your girl and your guy friend.
It could be about anything but let's just say it's about them hooking up. They both deny anything happened yet they both point fingers at each other for instigating.
How do you handle it? Who do you believe? How do you get to the truth?
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Taking the word of your girl vs the word of your guy friends
07-15-2014, 10:53 PM
She's definitely gone. My boy may be gone depending on the severity of the situation. Like, let's say he bangs your LTR or something. That's raw. If he bangs a fling, then I could forgive that. Ultimately: friendships are hard to come by, so I might make the stretch and forgive him. But my trust in him would be hurt.
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Taking the word of your girl vs the word of your guy friends
07-15-2014, 11:35 PM
I'd like to think I'm upset at myself. If I had tight game my girl wouldn't stray. If I had my boys respect he wouldn't dare. Either way... AMF!
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Taking the word of your girl vs the word of your guy friends
07-15-2014, 11:40 PM
"Something else, if it's your woman, you side with her, even when she's wrong. Your boys will understand.
You side with your boys, your woman will never forgive you."
Strongly disagree. I'll agree with whoever's right. If that's my friends, so be it. If she gets mad, I'll laugh in her face.
Truth is one of my greatest values. If I can't be true, I have nothing.
If she wasn't an LTR, I wouldn't get too caught up over it.
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Taking the word of your girl vs the word of your guy friends
07-16-2014, 12:07 AM
the truth will eventually come out. if it's a fling I'd think strongly about ending it preemptively. Where there's smoke there's usually fire. and this kind of thing usually doesn't happen in a vacuum. is your friend a player? have they been flirting? does the girl have a reputation for sleeping around?
as far as "what do you do" I don't think you can answer the question without being in that situation, knowing the people and all the nuances. if I've been dating a girl for a few months and she accuses one of my closest friends I've known for a decade of coming on to her, chances are good it's my friend I'll believe. and vice versa. context matters.
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Taking the word of your girl vs the word of your guy friends
07-16-2014, 12:57 AM
Bounce on the girl, there's always another.
Rumors are like stereotypes... they may not be true, but there's a reason they exist.
If the dude has crossed boundaries that shan't be crossed (sleeping with or even coming close to with an LTR of yours) then thank him for showing she's a slut, and let him know youll be coming after him the next time you see him.
Or at least that's how I have always handled it.
Always leave the girl.
Give the dude time to establish space, and regain respect.
You may be upset now, but three months from now you may wanna thank him... or at least be able to talk about a new more pressing issue.
Give friends more leeway, give yourself time to cool off, nix the bitch.
There's always a better chick.
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Taking the word of your girl vs the word of your guy friends
07-16-2014, 06:06 AM
It depends.
I have friends, who told me in absolute terms, that they would be so kind to test my girlfriend and would bang her. They would do this "for" me. While they told me this jokingly it actually betrays a certain understanding of the female psyche - if she bangs one of your friends, she is no LTR material anyway.
As far as real male honor goes - yes - good friends should not even make passes at your girl - that is the code that all should adhere to.
If they have fucked, then you either drop them both or just your girl. Can't really blame a guy if a woman starts a blowjob on a drunk friend of yours. Almost no one would be able to stop in that moment.