[Renberg]

Here's a bit of a background on myself:

I discovered RVF and the existence of the manosphere in January. Back then, I was a shy, soft-spoken kid. Now, I get compliments on my confidence and employers who have interviewed me back then and then again recently have said that they can tell I changed.

I've never been one to approach girls, and I am aware that I NEED to do this as soon as possible. As a comedian, I've always had better luck swaying a chick with my written words on Ok Cupid and Tinder, more recently, Tinder. And I say "better luck" because, quite frankly, I haven't tried cold approaches too often.

Logistically is where I'm flawed. I live at home in a packed house where it would be very difficult to sneak a girl in (I'm 21). The closest city is 30 minutes away, so many of the girls I match with on Tinder either live there or upstate (50 minutes- 1 hour away). I'm tired of traveling so far just to get dates that end up in me not getting laid. Essentially, I can't get a girl back to my place, and they don't invite me to theirs, often because they live with people/family too. I get make-outs every now and then. More recently, I have been doing worse than I did last month.

Like I said, I'm a comedian, so I often play the nice guy who cracks a ton of jokes. The jokes result in laughter, but sometimes I'm so uppity and (I hate to use this word) theatrical that it pisses me off. I want to be cool. I want to be able to sit back in a stress-free position and have the girl constantly intrigued to the point where she can't help but screw me.

What are some steps I can take to achieve my goals. Here is the...

TL;DR: I get dates with Tinder women, travel to their location due to logistics, and hook up every now and then. I'm overly enthusiastic and want to learn to play it cool.

I know i have to start doing cold approaches. But meanwhile, how can I line up my dates with a higher chance of getting laid than I have now? I'm constantly working to improve my self, health and lifestyle.

Thanks,
Renberg

[germanico]

You listed your problems, I read a list of the things you need to fix.

[From Vegas to Tokyo]

Okay let's start with the easy stuff. Approaching. You will fuck it up the first few times. That's fine. Get in the habit of approaching people everywhere, guys and girls. Don't even try to hit on them, just have conversations with random people. This will get you comfortable with approaching people the fastest. When in doubt over what to say, remember that you've already got one thing in common: you're in the same place. Find something and run with it. After you talk to a whole bunch of random people, girls will be easy. Keep approaching until it's easy.

The second, more complicated thing you need to deal with is your living situation. Figure out if pulling girls home is an issue with your parents, or an issue with girls. If your parents won't know/don't care, don't even worry about it. You're 21, most chicks still live with their parents anyways. If they want to bang you, they won't care. However, it sounds like your issue is the latter. Find some friends, move into an apartment somewhere. If you don't have any money, get a job. You're 21 years old and live in the 'land of opportunity'. Even minimum wage jobs can afford you an apartment. Either way, make sure you have a game plan to get out of the house.

You're aware of all your problems. That's the hard part. Now here's the easy part: Fix 'em.