[mcr]

Yeah, frustration is peaking, lol.

An old gf who I have seriously strong feelings for still has been talking with me the past few weeks... daily.. morning, noon , night. I've been out with her (and her friends) a couple times again (nothing more than a long hug close).. she's asked me to stay the night those 2 times, but I refused (she wasn't even giving me a kiss). She teases me about 'playing'. She teased me about kissing her like I used to tease her. She's gotten serious about asking why I'd want to be close to her again. She talks to her coworkers about me, and her family loves me and all wish her & I could get back together.

I saw her again the other night... we had a good time, ended up play fighting, etc., lots of teasing (like happens around her). This time I went for a kiss close. She pulled away & started to cry as her last bf really did a number on hurting her. He was only a 4 month thing, and its been 6 weeks since him. I haven't heard from her since (2 days).

Now my mind is churning over if I've done something I shouldn't have, should I send her a message and say something? what? Should I keep waiting for her to message or call me? We talked about seeing each other Saturday night (but didn't get into if we'd be doing anything together or not).

Any suggestions? I know what I should be doing, and that's just forgetting about her (she comes to me regularly with her problems). But damn.. since her I've tried the "FTOW" method of getting her out of my head, and other stuff too - she just sticks in there! (like I said, something special about her).

I do think I need someone to give me a kick in the ass, or a bitch slap to get me out of this state though. Too much emotional investment in her I guess. Advice??

[broken]

been there fam. "the one" emails/texts me from time to time. Invariably it's just when about i'm to score with a new chick.

I hear the GFTOW, but I did that and it didn't work.
I've had 3 long term girl friends, and I can tell you that I didn't forget about #1, until I met #2. #2 was in my thoughts until I met #3.

Every chick I would date in between, I would compare with what made me turn in my player card. Only when a chick bested the last relationship in every way did I get over the last one.

For me, it's more than just stats, it's compatability. And that is hard to find. Cause with enough time and skill, you can pull the hottest - but even after you bang her out - she may not appeal to the post climax you.

[khang]

(11-20-2008 02:25 PM)mcr Wrote:  

Yeah, frustration is peaking, lol.

An old gf who I have seriously strong feelings for still has been talking with me the past few weeks... daily.. morning, noon , night. I've been out with her (and her friends) a couple times again (nothing more than a long hug close).. she's asked me to stay the night those 2 times, but I refused (she wasn't even giving me a kiss). She teases me about 'playing'. She teased me about kissing her like I used to tease her. She's gotten serious about asking why I'd want to be close to her again. She talks to her coworkers about me, and her family loves me and all wish her & I could get back together.

I saw her again the other night... we had a good time, ended up play fighting, etc., lots of teasing (like happens around her). This time I went for a kiss close. She pulled away & started to cry as her last bf really did a number on hurting her. He was only a 4 month thing, and its been 6 weeks since him. I haven't heard from her since (2 days).

Now my mind is churning over if I've done something I shouldn't have, should I send her a message and say something? what? Should I keep waiting for her to message or call me? We talked about seeing each other Saturday night (but didn't get into if we'd be doing anything together or not).

Any suggestions? I know what I should be doing, and that's just forgetting about her (she comes to me regularly with her problems). But damn.. since her I've tried the "FTOW" method of getting her out of my head, and other stuff too - she just sticks in there! (like I said, something special about her).

I do think I need someone to give me a kick in the ass, or a bitch slap to get me out of this state though. Too much emotional investment in her I guess. Advice??

whatever you wrote...it sounds you are putting her on pedastal.


stop doing it or you will completely loose her..you are.what you are doing is listening to her and giving a condolence shoulder for her problems..and then you are asking 'sexual fee' in return.....therefore,you are still in her friend zone..you need to possess Alpha,and not desperate...and she KNOWS it...she knows that you are needy.

so for this...she has got upper hand on you.....in your case,it seems difficult but you MUST get the upper hand before its too late.

[Basil Ransom]

I read the first four words of each line, and my conclusion is leave and hit up new girls.

PS: Read the entire post, same conclusion.

[mcr]

Hmf... I think we're playing hard to get with each other now... I flat out told her if we're getting together this weekend to not leave it to the last minute as I'll make other plans long before then.

She asked me out Saturday night, and ended up bugging me every 30 minutes until I got to her place to pick her up... we had a wonderful night and when I said its late I need to go, she dragged me into the bedroom. Nice ;-)
(before, when I was needier, I would "try" to drag her into the bedroom, almost pleading with her).

If I can keep my emotions under control.......

[Roosh]

This forum is about banging girls and you are coming here with a sad tale about an ex-gf!!

My advice for this would be pulling back and using jealousy, but then that won't help your game or cause one bit.