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06-04-2014, 03:22 PM
I am coming to the conclusion that being a high value man who is always improving will have a hard time sticking in a relationship. From my recent experiences, women become very insecure if they see you are constantly improving. They will try to bring you down to their level, by means of shit tests, offering you ultimatums (i.e. breaking up with you). All to try and turn you into a beta and lose your frame. Ironically enough such a transformation which they desire, will end up with them losing attraction for you.
Im not even going to mention the intense desire to trade upwards yourself. Truth is, alpha males really make up a small percentage of the population. If you are reading RoK or other manosphere material, you are already doing far better than the majority of the male population.
So what is the best way around this ?
Being in my early 20s makes me still new to all of this. But honestly spinning plates seems to be a far better option than having some woman drag you down.
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06-04-2014, 03:28 PM
Quote: (06-04-2014 03:22 PM)Constitution45 Wrote:
Being in my early 20s makes me still new to all of this. But honestly spinning plates seems to be a far better option than having some woman drag you down.
Well, duh.....
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06-04-2014, 03:34 PM
I have found the opposite to be true.
Females get obsessed. Fall hard for you. To the point where it is hard to break it off, because you are shattering her whole world.
It's hard out there for a pimp.
God'll prolly have me on some real strict shit
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06-04-2014, 03:39 PM
I've found OP to be true...
Is that because I'm beta or Alpha?!?!?!?! ha
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06-04-2014, 04:30 PM
Best case scenario - they follow your lead and up their game as well
Worst case -they feel insecure, try to knock you down a peg, wonder aloud "who are YOU trying to impress"?
Look at it as you shit-tasting her, she is either forced to take action to due to all the new attention you will be getting
or
Face the very real threat of having you leave for greener pastures
Both options benefit you, because who no man wants to be a woman who is so comfortable in the relationship that she stops improving
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06-09-2014, 05:47 PM
Since I discovered the Manosphere and started strengthening my frame, my wife shit tests me hard every so often. I maintain my frame and it puts her back into a "devoted follower" position for about two weeks or so, then she will repeat it. If she pushes too hard, I let her clearly know that her behavior is unacceptable, then withdraw. She always chases and apologizes because the implication is that I can easily replace her. It's really important to keep it up and gets easier to maintain your frame over time.
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Being a high value man and relationships
07-19-2014, 08:06 PM
relationships are overrated, yes I get it if you want a family and are over 30-35 but generally speaking women are my play things and I use them in my free time