[xpatplayer]

Hi players,

I discovered a new game blog through D&P's twitter. Some of the posts here are gold, I would suggest reading it.

http://kmilli.com/

From one of his posts - Girls with Strappy Footwear put out.

KMilli Wrote:

That was the end of it. I was no longer interested. I returned to what I was working on but my mind drifted and soon I was reflecting on girls’ shoes when they sat on the side of my bed, the calm before the all night sex tsunami. It was then it struck me what I had just done. I had subconsciously put together patterns in sexually available females that I hadn’t consciously recognized. I had a weird “life flash before my eyes” moment of the girls I’ve slept with.

.....

My dates wind up back at my house and then somehow we get upstairs to my room. Sometimes we are just making out on my couch and I take them by the hand and guide them upstairs, sometimes they make it easy by asking what’s up there. Regardless, we walk into my room and they always take a seat on the side of my bed. I sit and chat with them for a minute or two, then I signal they remove their shoes as a way of giving permission for her to get all the way on the bed. I recall one time I tried really hard to remove a girl’s shoes and I could not fucking figure them out. So now I remove my shoes then just reach for her ankle and tug at the strap and she takes the sign to remove them herself.

He seems to be a smart kid who "gets it". I would strongly urge other members to check out his blog.

[Aer]

Agreed. He focuses a lot on the psychology of game rather than the actual practice, which I think is key to internalizing it.

[Lizard King]

Very good indeed.

Well written, and I like that he understands that women don't always respond to formulaic behaviour, you can 'change the script' and get results.

[From Vegas to Tokyo]

(06-03-2014 09:55 AM)Trev Wrote:  

he understands that women don't always respond to formulaic behaviour, you can 'change the script' and get results.

This is something most people who get started reading game blogs often miss. Anyone who's been out in the trenches knows that game is MUCH more of an art than a science. If you don't have much experience you'll often fail by running perfectly crafted PUA sets and yet somehow can still get a girl when you're not trying to game them and are generally not paying attention.

At the end of the day, game is at most going to help you half way. The other half is going to boil down to 'are you talking to a girl who is sexually available right now?' If you're running game that's tight as a drum but she's not available it's all for naught. On the other hand, you might not even be paying attention to what's going on but if she's interested and available the next thing you know you're banging away with seemingly no idea how you got there.

[RockHard]

I was just reading his blog, excellent stuff. Like the previous posters, I like his pragmatism - basically, just because you read it in a book or saw a video, it doesn't mean it's gospel. The "why isn't game working" thread is a good example. Don't be the guy who does 3K approaches, bootcamps, and read every book in sight and can't figure out why he's not getting laid. Calibrate, experiment, analyze your failures but don't dwell on them.

Samples:

http://kmilli.com/same-night-lay-interaction/

Quote:

Concerning waiting instead of dominating: Most guys are too quick to try and lead or dominate everything, including the conversation. A common question guys ask is, “How do I keep the conversation going?” like it’s their job. Maybe they just can’t stomach the silences for more than a second...Girls have told me before that “guys never listen, they’re just waiting for their turn to talk.” So listen to her. Let her fill the silences. It works worlds better for me and it will for you.

This one I've run into myself, and I've lost girls because of it. I was going to comment on another thread about when to turn on the C&F personality. He sums it up perfectly.

Quote:

On the matter of charming instead of teasing: Of course I still pepper in teasing, but I try not to make it my go-to like I used to. Teasing just shows too much insecurity when you’re always putting someone else down, even playfully. Also, if the girl isn’t really ready to combat that type of jesting, they can kind of just give up when they can’t come up with clever shit.

http://kmilli.com/i-hit-on-girls-at-the-...-stripper/
I like this one because he talks about approaches in a difficult environment, including breaking out of the bubble in his head. The followup article breaks it down http://kmilli.com/i-hit-on-girls-at-the-...r-lessons/

Overall, excellent pragmatic advice. It's good to see a guy who hasn't got it all figured out yet sharing his stories.