Before I begin, let me clarify a few things.
1) I'm not talking about the obvious toxicity. I'm not talking about dudes who think the Jews are responsible for feminism, or people that race bait at every turn.
2) I'm glad the manosphere exists. At this point I do believe feminism can legitimately be considered a culturally destructive force, and our society desperately needs a counterbalance.
3) The femosphere is very toxic itself, and my intention isn't to defend any of it by writing this.
4) Despite the fact that the manosphere can be a toxic place, it's still worth being a part of.
So, why can the manosphere become a toxic place for reasonable guys?
The culture of the manosphere embodies a very subtle dismissal of choice, and it's one that the type of guy the manosphere attracts is already highly susceptible to.
Most guys that find themselves in the manosphere are quite intelligent, and I mean that in the purest sense of the word. The IQ of the manosphere is almost certainly significantly higher than the average IQ in society. The manosphere inherently attracts guys who have highly developed faculties for reason, critical analysis, and clarity of expression. There have been a number of devastating takedowns of feminist dogma published among the manosphere's blogs that demonstrate keen ability in these areas.
So the fact that guys are drawn together by their shared distaste for dogma means that many manosphere readers will be highly analytic and rationally-minded individuals.
And of course you have feminists on the other side continually espousing some of the most comically ludicrous ideas in history, many of whom are hopelessly trapped by a dogmatic, ideological view of the world; gasoline on the fire for many analytic types.
A back and forth begins. We question their underlying assumptions about the world, and they respond by using those very assumptions we're questioning to tell us that we're wrong. You see it on RoK's message board all the time.
And somewhere along the way, we stop choosing to respond, and we increasingly become compelled to respond. We value our analysis and reason too highly to allow people to attempt to argue that fire isn't hot. We'll start responding to anything; to everything. The compulsion to fight arises. People start writing responses to feminist ideas in mainstream publications and before long stop asking themselves why on earth they're even doing it.
How many people in the manosphere do you think are legitimately making a choice to fight against the status quo or to fight against feminist dogma, whatever their reasons might be?
Now really stop to think about that question for a moment. Is anyone here actually making a choice? Or have you been sucked into a culture of mechanistic reasoning and analysis that simply cannot accept the glaring hypocrisy of feminists and their ideas, and fighting becomes a compulsion?
Yes, the feminists are hypocritical. Yes, they're trapped on hamster wheels of dogma and rationalization.
Does it follow that you must fight?
The manosphere's ability to reason and analyze is certainly to its credit. But in a way it's also the source of its toxicity. It makes fighting seem like a given, when it isn't.
If you can walk away from the manosphere, and never look back; if you have it within you to forget about all this stuff, then you are capable of nevertheless choosing to fight (for whatever reason(s) you choose).
But if you don't have it within you to do either of those things, then you aren't likely making a choice, you're simply trapped in a compulsion to respond and to fight, and the fact that yours are superior faculties for analysis and reason isn't your saving grace, it's exactly what is preventing you from seeing that you're trapped.
1) I'm not talking about the obvious toxicity. I'm not talking about dudes who think the Jews are responsible for feminism, or people that race bait at every turn.
2) I'm glad the manosphere exists. At this point I do believe feminism can legitimately be considered a culturally destructive force, and our society desperately needs a counterbalance.
3) The femosphere is very toxic itself, and my intention isn't to defend any of it by writing this.
4) Despite the fact that the manosphere can be a toxic place, it's still worth being a part of.
So, why can the manosphere become a toxic place for reasonable guys?
The culture of the manosphere embodies a very subtle dismissal of choice, and it's one that the type of guy the manosphere attracts is already highly susceptible to.
Most guys that find themselves in the manosphere are quite intelligent, and I mean that in the purest sense of the word. The IQ of the manosphere is almost certainly significantly higher than the average IQ in society. The manosphere inherently attracts guys who have highly developed faculties for reason, critical analysis, and clarity of expression. There have been a number of devastating takedowns of feminist dogma published among the manosphere's blogs that demonstrate keen ability in these areas.
So the fact that guys are drawn together by their shared distaste for dogma means that many manosphere readers will be highly analytic and rationally-minded individuals.
And of course you have feminists on the other side continually espousing some of the most comically ludicrous ideas in history, many of whom are hopelessly trapped by a dogmatic, ideological view of the world; gasoline on the fire for many analytic types.
A back and forth begins. We question their underlying assumptions about the world, and they respond by using those very assumptions we're questioning to tell us that we're wrong. You see it on RoK's message board all the time.
And somewhere along the way, we stop choosing to respond, and we increasingly become compelled to respond. We value our analysis and reason too highly to allow people to attempt to argue that fire isn't hot. We'll start responding to anything; to everything. The compulsion to fight arises. People start writing responses to feminist ideas in mainstream publications and before long stop asking themselves why on earth they're even doing it.
How many people in the manosphere do you think are legitimately making a choice to fight against the status quo or to fight against feminist dogma, whatever their reasons might be?
Now really stop to think about that question for a moment. Is anyone here actually making a choice? Or have you been sucked into a culture of mechanistic reasoning and analysis that simply cannot accept the glaring hypocrisy of feminists and their ideas, and fighting becomes a compulsion?
Yes, the feminists are hypocritical. Yes, they're trapped on hamster wheels of dogma and rationalization.
Does it follow that you must fight?
The manosphere's ability to reason and analyze is certainly to its credit. But in a way it's also the source of its toxicity. It makes fighting seem like a given, when it isn't.
If you can walk away from the manosphere, and never look back; if you have it within you to forget about all this stuff, then you are capable of nevertheless choosing to fight (for whatever reason(s) you choose).
But if you don't have it within you to do either of those things, then you aren't likely making a choice, you're simply trapped in a compulsion to respond and to fight, and the fact that yours are superior faculties for analysis and reason isn't your saving grace, it's exactly what is preventing you from seeing that you're trapped.