Imagine you're home from work after experiencing the day's difficulty. You're tired and all you want to do is sleep. But, you get a text from Plate #3 asking if she can come over. Why say no? After all, the post-coitus bliss would greatly help you to fall asleep. You agree and await her arrival. When she arrives, you furiously strip her naked and sexual ravaging ensues.
Fast forward the next day and now you're the one who is requesting her sexual expertise. "I can't do this anymore, Todd. I don't like the way you treat me—I'm not your personal whore," reads a text from Plate #3. You shrug it off as nothing but mere frustration. "She'll text me tomorrow," you say to yourself. A week goes by and Plate #3 hasn't called nor texted. And then a month. Now she's no longer your plate and is instead riding someone else's dick.
The reason she left you hanging is because you didn't give her a good reason to stay in the first place. Sure, you were probably one of the best—if not, the best—sexual partner(s) she's ever had, but the sex alone wasn't convincing. She wanted you to acknowledge her efforts. She wanted you to imbue her with the mindset that, although the relation between you and her was completely sexual, you didn't overtly treat it as such.
Understanding the psychological effects of reinforcement is one way to keep your plate's interest level from going down hill. There are four types of reinforcement, and understanding them is imperative to any relationship you have with a woman.
Positive reinforcement is adding something, whether it's praise or a reward, to increase the likelihood of an action occurring in the future. (e.g., After sex in the morning, you reward one of your plates with breakfast)
Negative reinforcement is taking away something negative to increase a response. (e.g., Your plates knows that after you finish having sex, it's time for her(or you, assuming you're at her place) to leave—this is a negative stimulus because she feels like she's being used. Instead, cuddle with her or watch a movie)
Punishment is adding something adverse to decrease a behavior. (e.g., One of your plates always comments on your pictures or Facebook posts with "cutesy" remarks, saying how much she misses you, is in love with you, wants to have kids with you, etc—block or delete her!)
Extinction is removing something in order to decrease a behavior. (e.g., Perhaps one of your plates is becoming extremely annoying or obsessive. If you stop calling her, texting her, or requesting sex, she is likely to do the same, too)
Of course, applying these reinforcements regularly has its pros and cons. If you award your plate with breakfast after sex every morning, to her you may be moving towards uncharted territory(i.e., monogamy), while all she wants to do is have fun. This is where random reinforcement comes in. The idea is not to reinforce one of your plate's behaviors regularly, but randomly. If you're randomly awarding one of your plates with dinner or movie dates—or some other activity—she'll be at her optimal performance—whether it's during sex, how often she gives you sex, or in her actions(buying you gifts, less flaking, giving you threesomes!)—since she doesn't know what to expect.
Reference
Section 3: Psychology 101: Reinforcement and Reinforcement Schedules
Fast forward the next day and now you're the one who is requesting her sexual expertise. "I can't do this anymore, Todd. I don't like the way you treat me—I'm not your personal whore," reads a text from Plate #3. You shrug it off as nothing but mere frustration. "She'll text me tomorrow," you say to yourself. A week goes by and Plate #3 hasn't called nor texted. And then a month. Now she's no longer your plate and is instead riding someone else's dick.
The reason she left you hanging is because you didn't give her a good reason to stay in the first place. Sure, you were probably one of the best—if not, the best—sexual partner(s) she's ever had, but the sex alone wasn't convincing. She wanted you to acknowledge her efforts. She wanted you to imbue her with the mindset that, although the relation between you and her was completely sexual, you didn't overtly treat it as such.
Understanding the psychological effects of reinforcement is one way to keep your plate's interest level from going down hill. There are four types of reinforcement, and understanding them is imperative to any relationship you have with a woman.
Positive reinforcement is adding something, whether it's praise or a reward, to increase the likelihood of an action occurring in the future. (e.g., After sex in the morning, you reward one of your plates with breakfast)
Negative reinforcement is taking away something negative to increase a response. (e.g., Your plates knows that after you finish having sex, it's time for her(or you, assuming you're at her place) to leave—this is a negative stimulus because she feels like she's being used. Instead, cuddle with her or watch a movie)
Punishment is adding something adverse to decrease a behavior. (e.g., One of your plates always comments on your pictures or Facebook posts with "cutesy" remarks, saying how much she misses you, is in love with you, wants to have kids with you, etc—block or delete her!)
Extinction is removing something in order to decrease a behavior. (e.g., Perhaps one of your plates is becoming extremely annoying or obsessive. If you stop calling her, texting her, or requesting sex, she is likely to do the same, too)
Of course, applying these reinforcements regularly has its pros and cons. If you award your plate with breakfast after sex every morning, to her you may be moving towards uncharted territory(i.e., monogamy), while all she wants to do is have fun. This is where random reinforcement comes in. The idea is not to reinforce one of your plate's behaviors regularly, but randomly. If you're randomly awarding one of your plates with dinner or movie dates—or some other activity—she'll be at her optimal performance—whether it's during sex, how often she gives you sex, or in her actions(buying you gifts, less flaking, giving you threesomes!)—since she doesn't know what to expect.
Reference
Section 3: Psychology 101: Reinforcement and Reinforcement Schedules
